Being forced to fellate another man is a common female led sex fantasy.
For men anyway. And a few women.
If nothing else it lets closeted bisexual men express their real, hidden sexuality.
Does forced cocksucking excite you? Repel you?
Originally posted 2008-05-06 21:30:37.
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Do submissive men feel guilty about their submissiveness?
To admit that who need to serve, obey, be punished by another can be very shaming. Perhaps more so for males because the social norm is strong, manly, virile, dominant.
If you assume that females are inherently superior then there is no shame in craving to be humiliated, controlled and even beaten by a woman.
It makes male slavery and submission an act of moral rectitude. Supplies a justifying philosophy for male submission.
And opens the door for all many of pseudoscientific justifications for being a masochist.
But masochism and submissiveness are sexual orientations. They don’t need to be justified. They are existential personal truths.
Do you need to worship a woman? Enjoy it for its own sake.
Female superiority isn’t a fact. But it does make a beautiful metaphor for some males to capture what burns bright in their hearts.
Justifying Female Superiority
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(A man expresses his faith in the superiority of women.)
i believe that Women are naturally more intelligent, as well as much more logical, and obviously more nurturing and Dominant than any man could ever try to be. Most men are faking it or trying to ‘compensate’ if they try to be Dominant. Most men are at heart, cowards who will simply beat their chest and scream loudly to try to get noticed. Women do not need to do this. A Woman can enter a room and easily entrance everyone therein with Her beauty and natural grace.
Like many in the world today, i grew up in a home that was destroyed by the man. my father left us when i was about ten years old, and prior to him leaving, there were constant fights and arguments and a lot of tension in the home. It was almost a relief when he finally vanished out of our lives, but at the same time, as the only male in the home, my Mother and sister were obviously very resentful and took much of their angst and frustration out on me, (rightfully so). They taught me to truly worship and appreciate Women in all they do and go through in their lives, and how truly self-centered, pathetic and worthless men truly are.
my experience is not the only one, as there are millions of worthless men all through the world that will say anything and everything to a Lady, just to take her to bed, and leave Her soon after. This is the lowest form of life… someone who is so concerned about self-gratification that he doesn’t think about how many lives he ruins in the process.
The male doesn’t bother to take responsibility feeling that it is the Women problem now.
While its true, that there ARE some more responsible males in the world… for the most part, they still do not equal the power, wisdom, or intelligence that any Woman has. There is no compare for all They do, and endure on a regular basis.
Its simple to look at history, and all the failings of men, and all the violence and wars created, including all the blood that has been spilled by men. Ironically, these men often will do or act in this manner, over a Woman. So much violence has been caused by one man ‘claiming’ a Woman, and another man challenging him. Basically acting like spoiled children in a playground over something they have NO right to in the first place.
Women generally i do not think would go to war or fight over foolishness like this. i think for the most part, if there are problems or issues, Women would work things out between themselves, which is something no prideful man would ever consider. Unfortunately, men are raised and groomed to be very prideful creatures, which often gets in the way of ‘real’ thinking. The usual joke about men not wanting to stop and ask for directions is a perfect example. men do not want to think of themselves as ‘less’ than they build themselves up to be in their own mind.
If i may also point out the general endurance and hardships a Woman is able to put up with, that would essentially bring any man to his knees.
Every five days out of the month for most of her life, a Woman has to endure the discomfort of experiencing Her period. There is no way a man could ever truly understand what a Lady has to go through every month, but its something that men have zero compassion or understanding for… and yet a Woman continues on with Her every day life, accepting the biological changes Her body is making.
The typical man can barely handle a stomach flu without heavily medicating himself, and laying down to avoid the entire world for a week before considering getting out of bed to put forth any practical effort into the world.
Beyond that, let us look at the miracle of childbirth. Something that Women have done since the dawn of time… and they survive it generally, and are able to do it again and again. Men are inferior in the fact that not only do they NOT have the ability to give birth… they could not endure the pain involved, nor do they have the responsibility to care for the offspring (as mentioned above).
In the end, Women’s bodies are so much more complex and detailed than men’s bodies. This is the biological proof of Their perfection. Much more effort is put into their forms, so therefore, men should ideally worship this perfect form.
Of course, beyond the biological, there is the physical as well. Women traditionally have been made into beautiful works of art. Paintings and sculptures throughout the centuries have all been highly regarded, and the majority of them are appreciated, because they are representations of the perfect being… a Woman.
This is another way Women are far superior to men, just in their beauty and the efforts they put in to maintain this perfection. Women will be artists as they apply makeup, however a man is far to lazy and arrogant to ever consider anything like this. A man will be lucky if he washes his face and shaves. But Women can spend time perfecting their ‘art’ over the years of their life, and create such soft smooth features by arranging the right lines and colors and textures along the pallet of their features, easily accentuating what is already there.
Women also will endure everything from complex garments, including heels, pantyhose/stockings, corsets, garters, bras and other finely developed outfits, all to enhance the beauty They posses. As a general rule, men once again prove their laziness by not bothering to make more of an effort than jeans and t-shirts. The simple fact is they have no concept of how to properly dress themselves.
One of the biggest problems males have, is simply the amount of testosterone in their bodies. Again, Women have a much more complex balance of hormones, but men simply have too much. With all this testosterone in their bodies, it makes them much more aggressive and brutal in general. Basically a man is almost always ‘looking’ for a fight. Some men are able to temper these feelings and have been trained to behave to live in modern society, but in general, many wars, brawls, and altercations would have been prevented if Women were simply to keep males in check and on a tight leash.
This is easily proven by how quickly a mans aggression level lowers after any type of castration. my Mother and Sister both liked this concept a great deal and talked about having it done to me on a regular basis. She felt they just get in the way… not only with simple things like dressing, but in more complex physical and emotional ways as well. In the end, it was not done, but it would have made me a much better behaved male in a Female dominated society.
When i moved to Florida, i was fortunate enough to be allowed to serve a Mistress who was a firm believer in chastity. She felt that every male should be in chastity when they turn 10 years old. males have no ability to control their ‘urges’, and prove on a regular basis how inferior they are to Women by everything as simple as obsessing about pornographic material, to the ache and need to constantly touch themselves, all the way to much more violent crimes such as rape.
Female superiority is very obvious when compared to a males sex drive. While a Female does have ‘urges’ and desires, She is able to keep them under check and take advantage when able to. A typical male needs a device locked on to prevent him from doing something foolish at the wrong time, or to prevent him from focusing on his own needs instead of Others.
A typical Woman has no need for such a device, because they naturally have much more control over their desires and urges. Women have the instinct to know what is more important and what should take priority and what can wait for a better time.
The most important thing to note from all this, is that is not so much that women need to be, (and naturally SHOULD be) in control… as much as it should be human nature that men should be restrained and kept in very close check by the more in control, nurturing and more civilized Woman.
For many years now, men have tried to desperately ‘beat down’ Women by trying to take away their rights and try to prove they are superior, but on a regular basis, a strong powerful intelligent Woman will come along and prove beyond a shadow of a doubt, that once again, the man is wrong.
Psychologically, Women always come out on top, (as they should be). If One looks at the number of serial killers comprised of men, and the number of serial killers comprised of Women, this is one of the times that men should hang their heads in deep shame. The men will always prove they are more mentally screwed up than Women. And yet on a regular basis, men create excuses and reasons to try to claim Women are the ones messed up in the head. And yet, why are the prisons filled with many more male prisoners than Women? Why are there so many more men on death row than Women?
Its very clear to see. Women are naturally more nurturing and logical beings. They are truly the one pure form that men could only pray to be… instead have to accept the opportunity to grovel at Their feet and do the best they can to please as often as they can. It is sad though how many men just don’t know this or see it ever.
i personally often imagine a perfect Amazonian type of world, where men are only collared and live to serve and worship the Women in all their glory and perfect beauty, no matter how old, or how young, how big or how small. All Women should be put so high on a pedestal, and every males eyes lowered as they are not worthy to look upon Their beauty.
i think some men, when properly trained and conditioned can be useful parts of society and assist Women, but so many men should simply be castrated to help society be a better place.
Of course i do not have all the answers, because i am only a male myself. i will always accept the decision of a Woman to what should be done or how society should operate.
i can only pray that Hillary Clinton is able to win the next election and at the very least, America can be under the power of a strong intelligent Woman and no longer ruled by male dictatorship. In a perfect world, She will be able to gather together the other Female Leaders of this world, and begin to truly recognize where the ultimate problem is… which is the male gender.
If we are truly lucky… maybe one day the religions of the world will be replaced by some form of Matriarchal religion as well, where men can go and truly worship Women in all their perfect glory.
Unfortunately, this perfect world is a very long way away, and for now, all men can do is try to do their best to serve Women any way that they can, in a very imperfect society. Maybe little by little, maybe one man at a time, each Woman of the world will be able to put a man properly in his place… but it will not happen overnight.
(Old Usenet post.
Originally posted 2012-10-14 06:38:07.
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Left as a comment by “Linda.”
If women ruled the world the guys would be made to fight, like it or not, The idea therewould be universal peace is nonsense.
Much more interesting is the idea of a female dominated society where government is run by femdoms. then the law could be changed to suit women; there would be strict laws about men assaulting and offending women and proper punishments carried out in Camps for Sexual Offenders, (My fantasy is to be one of the Guards).
Rape and other serious assaults should be dealt with by Capital punishment, as it is in many countries. I also think Public executions are a good idea and should never have been banned. in times past they were always seen as great public entertainments. Nowadays I guess they’d be on TV. There’s an awful lot of nonsense talked about how “bad” it is but rape and groping women is serious too and any man who did it would know what they faced.
The only issue for me is whether it should be rope. electric shock, injection or the axe. As a British traditionalist I’d go for the rope and axe.
When discussing this with Bob my silly boyfriend he said you’d never get people to do it; excuse me!! was he serious? I’d do it like a shot if it was legal and I’ll put my hand up for the job now, I think even today there must be men doing life sentences who would rather spend a few minutes wriggling on the end of a rope – especially if I was there to help them on their way!
Women should have much greater freedom in the way they deal with men, less silly restrictions about assaults.
There should be statutory defenses that allow for serious injury and even fatalities as “part of marriage”. I read of a case where a lady was prosecuted for suffocating her husband under her arse. Apparently she was in the habit of doing it as she watched TV and on this occasion when her programme had finished so had hubby! It was soon chucked out and so it should have been; who’d sit on a guys face if you thought you’d end up in the dock? It should be spelt out as a “no crime” so women can feel free when having a splurge. Was Mrs Bobbit prosecuted? I cant remember but again there should be a law making things clear and if in the heat of the moment a wife slices it off well there shouldn’t be such a fuss, in my view its more hers than his anyway.
So, Yes, women should rule the world and it will be a better place. And a lot more fun.
Originally posted 2009-11-04 04:51:54.
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Animated GIF of a woman spanking a man.
Originally posted 2013-02-22 13:23:36.
F/m OTK Hand Spanking (Animated GIF)
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Woman Worship: the fundamental, overpowering, consuming need that that makes a submissive man’s greatest delight in life serving, adoring and pleasing the woman who consents to accept his freely giving submission. He subordinates his ego to hers. Ordinary acts of service become almost liturgical. His heart beats with perpetual prayers to her. And the warmth of his adoration completes his life.
W is for Woman Worship (Female Led Alphabet)
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Vagina: in this instance a synecdoche for the entirety of woman’s physical sexuality. Pleasing a female partner is important for any man. Perhaps even more so for the submissive man serving a dominant woman. Her pleasure is more important than his. He will perform any acts, assume any position, perfect his techniques, forgo his own physical pleasures: do what ever is needful to provide the greatest possible erotic fulfillment. It is pure woman worship.
V is for Vagina (Female Led Alphabet)
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Small Penis Humiliation: the desire some men have to be laughed at and found inferior for having a tiny cock. Even if his phallus is adequately sized. Penis size is a key element in many cuckoldry and sissification fantasies
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Read men sharing their small penis humiliation experiences.
S is for Small Penis Humiliation (Female Led Alphabet)
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Ruined Orgasms: there are many ways to cripple a man’s orgasms. Perhaps the method that induces the most erotic anguish is to tease and arouse him asymptotically, stopping just before he has the release of coming. Then to milk him, massage his prostate forcing a pleasureless ejaculation.
F/m drawing from Jack Rhodes’ Vengeance & Punishment.
R is for Ruined Orgasms (Female Led Alphabet)
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Queening: woman worship through the medium of her buttocks. Also known as facesitting and smothering. There are dedicated queening chairs and smother boxes (if you have the cash). Until I started exploring F/m art (especially Japanese) I had no idea how popular queening is. (At least in male fantasy.)
More queening drawings by Giko.
Q is for Queening (Female Led Alphabet)
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Punishment: chastisement for disobedience, laziness, misbehavior is a component of most female led relationships. Pain, discomfort to make the may repent is failings and mend his ways. Corporal punishment is the most common form of discipline. Including maintenance spankings to forestall any inappropriate actions on the part of the submissive male. And of course for many couples consensual sadomasochism is play, part of the fun.
Do you think that punishment has a place in a F/m love affair? Serious punishment or play?
P is for Punishment (Female Led Alphabet)
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Mistress: The most common honorific for the head of a female led relationship. A submissive man’s Mistress is the arbiter, decider, ruler of his life Controls his behavior including his sexuality. The guides him with tenderness and discipline. He repays her with obedience adoration and love. He worships her as teh focus of his life.
More drawings of dominant women by Leone Frollo.
M is for Mistress (Female Led Alphabet)
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This guy has to be masochist and not a very healthy one:
http://www.slatev.com/player.html?id=1863291634
Originally posted 2008-10-23 07:54:33.
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Kneeling: man on his knees before woman. Expressing his worship and adoration of her. Demonstrating his repentance for offending or defying her will. In position for a disciplinary spanking. Often on his knees bodily and forever kneeling before her in his heart.
K is for Kneeling (Female Led Alphabet)
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Inferiority: if women are superior then men must be inferior. So goes a sexually arousing syllogism. Some submissive men see them as a lesser person who needs guidance and control from a woman. Others envision themselves as abject and degraded creature who is worthless and deserves pain and slavery.
I is for Inferiority (Female Led Alphabet)
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I read that Gloria Brame said the professional dominatrices are a plague. I guess like the locusts Moses sent against the ancient Egyptians but in this case money making women devouring the fields of femdom.
I can’t imagine Gloria Brame making a generalization like that. Besides the place where I saw the remark provided no context, no all important details (not faulting the person).
I doubt many people engaged in BDSM or the like – since many people abhor that acronym – regard say Mistress Matisse as a ravaging force. Not to mention SadoMasoKitten and other women who dominate for cash (and perhaps fun).
Regardless of the annoyingly necessary disclaimers professional dominatrices are sex workers. They provide a service for remuneration. And all service providers of any stripe can be divided into those who are:
Perhaps what Gloria was thinking of is the rapid spread of women who go online and declare themselves dominants. Most notably the money mistresses and financial dominatrices who are under the illusion that easy wealth will be theirs if they say “ha ha wanker” often enough.
While Princess Melissa Pentauk at Humiliatrix may use that sort of patter there’s more hard work than many would think in successfully creating such an enterprise.
The faux-dominants who think putting up donate buttons is an easy path the money will quickly find that getting someone to click on them isn’t just plucking a sucker. The women that stay in the trade and profit by it provide a good deal more.
People in the loving female authority subculture have other objections to professional dominatrices but that is a matter for another time.
Originally posted 2008-05-06 14:24:14.
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Seems that the old female-led-relationships.com discussion board has been abandoned. Though I hadn’t taken a look at it for some time my impression was that the forum enjoyed fairly healthy traffic.
Anybody know what happened?
Originally posted 2008-02-28 18:00:20.
Female-Led-Relationships Forum?
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i have been wearing a chastity device called a cb-2000 on and off for about a month now. My first “sentence” was three and a half days, the second time i was “locked in” for seven days and this time around its been six days since the lock was snapped shut and i have no idea at the moment when i will be allowed out. My Keyholder (who is my Wife and Mistress, LadyLinda) is currently threatening to let me out to pleasure Her without allowing me to cum and then locking me back up. Funnily enough i am, kind of, in a strange masochistic way, looking forward to that.
To those of you who read that opening paragraph and are currently whispering under your breath that “this guy must be nuts”. let me say that a few years ago i probably might have said the same thing. So what happened to me that has led to such a radical change of view? What persuaded me to agree to purchase a chastity device and why are both my Mistress and i so delighted (actually delighted is a significant understatement but i will come back to that in a moment) by the events of the last few weeks?
Before i get to why it has delighted us so much, its logical to talk about what i was like a few years ago when i never entertained a single thought that some form of chastity was in my future. When i met my future Wife and Mistress online, back in 1995, right from the very beginning we played around with “orgasm control”. Mistress trained me over a period of time to pretty much cum on command by always counting back from ten down to zero and expecting me to ejaculate at the point She said “NOW”. Obviously as an awesomely devious, wicked and cruel Mistress there were times when the count stopped before zero and was not restarted immediately. Some form of begging on my part used to be involved at that point
As an aside we much later on played an ironic game whereby whenever i was close to orgasm i had to beg Mistress to stop (Her hand or my hand or my thrusting or Her thrusting depending on what we were doing) and sometimes She said “Okay” and i experienced the sweet torture of holding back and riding the (almost) crest of an orgasm. (sometimes referred to as “edging”), then calming down only to be ordered to start the cycle (of torment) again.
Other times She said “No” which in effect was an order to keep going and orgasm.
Back to the actual sequence of events the next development was the first time, having played some of these “edging” (or if you like “teasing”) games and i had been aroused for a significant period, that Mistress decided to send me to bed without allowing me to orgasm. In other words my first experience of “orgasm denial”. When She did that i am embarrassed now to have to admit that i pouted. For about three days if i recall it correctly.
Mistress was very cool about the whole incident, did not let me away with it, but it was some time before we visited orgasm denial, as opposed to orgasm control, again. At the time our relationship was principally online and by telephone and yes i could have said yes (or more appropriately “yes Mistress”) to Her and having said goodnight, masturbated to completion anyway. i think the reason i didn’t do that, is that our relationship meant more to me than that. We always treated what we did online or by phone as being as real as anyone else’s D/s relationship. Perhaps that level of trust and honesty is what brought us through the dark days of being 5000 miles away from each other to the point where we are now inseparable. Missing the point?
A whole bunch of things happened that made me begin to question whether i had missed the point that chastity could be a delight from my perspective. i never really had a problem understanding the delight from the Dominants point of view in the sense that there must be an enormous feeling of power to be derived from controlling the sexuality of the submissive / slave. i, on the other hand, had a vague (or maybe real) fear that probably had some of its roots in internet fiction. Many short stories involving devices, of one type or another, involved very long-term chastity extending in some instances to permanent soldering of the lock. More worryingly where long-term chastity came into the picture cuckoldry always seemed to be part of the plot. Its easy to say the words “its just fiction” or “don’t be silly that’s a fantasy and fantasies are often way out there” and logically i know that. Emotionally it’s very different. i have no desire to be involved in a long-term denial dynamic and cuckoldry is a hard inviolate limit for me.
i guess i was making the assumption that these stories were representative of the chastity dynamic. i was very wrong about that! One of the things that began to change my mind was a book called The Multi-Orgasmic Man. The book highlights ancient Chinese and Taoist teachings which recognised that men can achieve multiple orgasms by delaying and even withholding ejaculation. The book explains that orgasm and ejaculation are two distinct and separate processes although most men in the western world believe them to be part of the same experience. The book goes on to outline techniques that can lead to whole body orgasms and unparalleled levels of sexual ecstasy. These techniques have at their core learning to hold back ejaculation and circulating the energy of sexuality around the body.
About the same time i began reading the book i was also spending idle time surfing the internet for BDSM articles of all types and came across a bunch of articles written by a Domme called Rika. A discussion about the articles as a whole is a subject for another day but one of the articles is called “The Chastity Fantasy”. In this article Rika describes the dynamic of chastity as, in effect, an elongated bondage “scene” going on for a number of days. She starts the article by effectively tearing down the myths contained in the types of internet fiction that contributed to my reticence on the subject of chastity and then going on to suggest that being put in the device is a “treat” or “playtime”. When i first read that and began linking the thoughts with ideas from the book on being multi-orgasmic i was forced to confront my previous (mis)conceptions about chastity. There was this nagging thought in the back of my mind that somehow i’d missed the point and that maybe this might be fun (in the pervy masochistic sense of the word “fun”).
Might this be fun?
So at this point in the journey i had probably realised that i had a bunch of misconceptions about chastity but i wasn’t yet sold on the idea of a device. At about the same time i was also reading a lot of stuff on the Internet about teasing and denial. There are some excellent resources and i’ll put some links at the end of the essay. i guess the main point i want to make is that searching under the heading “teasing and denial” uncovered resources and fiction that were both fun and arousing in contrast to the fiction that typically comes from a search for “chastity”. Some of the teasing and denial fiction included the use of chastity devices but typically this was done in a way that the men involved described variously as exciting, arousing and mind-blowing. So now i was beginning to think that i was missing out on the fun and that maybe there was prize to be had from a short period of chastity device wearing. basically a mind-blowing orgasm. It ‘s a short step from this to ordering a device from the website.
i’ll add some stuff to this later about the practical issues surrounding wearing a cb-2000 but what i mainly wanted to share is the emotional reactions to wearing the device. Talking with others online about how i was feeling whilst wearing the cb-2000 was what first made me think about writing something to explain, in a more than cursory sense, what was happening to me emotionally.
The first time the device went on Mistress made a whole scene out of the build up to being “locked away”, how much fun She was going to have whilst i was being denied, how She was going to tease and torment and torture me for days, maybe even weeks. And then She snapped the lock shut! i have to say that the first time i did get a minor rush from the lock clicking shut but if i am honest i haven’t had that since. What does happen consistently is that once Mistress has finished with the initial teasing as i go into the device then within about twenty-four hours i do begin to exhibit changed behaviours. i become very much more attentive to Mistress, my submissive nature is heightened and i become much more service oriented than usual. And its not as though i’m an inattentive “do me” male in the first place.
And its not an act and i’m not playing this way in order to get released. i just feel very sexual and sensual. i become much cuddlier and very much more tactile. i can’t keep my hands off my Mistress and from the moment She awakes to the moment She falls asleep then i want to touch and kiss every inch of Her body, to stroke and tease Her and if She allows it or commands it to please Her sexually until She is completely satiated. i can relax totally into this mode of attentiveness and service because i unconsciously or subconsciously know that i will get no release and that this is not about me, its about the pleasure of my Mistress. If i pick Mistress up at work then i leap out of the car and passionately kiss Her neck, Her mouth or Her shoulders oblivious to whether or not Her work colleagues are around. My hands roam all over Her body in a frenzy of displaying my utter need for Her touch, a touch that i cannot have. Mistress usually whispers something teasing in my ear at this point and my passion increases, my desire boils until She snaps, “that’s enough”, pats me on the ass and instructs me to drive Her home.
i also generally have an incredible energy once i reach this stage. At work i feel that i can move mountains with a flick of my little finger. At home i am like a demon ensuring that Mistress does not, as much as possible, have to lift a finger. However we are going to have to sort something out about the ironing because device or not i still hate that
She feels incredibly loved, very wanted and needed. It very much plays to the heart of Her femininity. From the point of view of the headtrip, one thing we did slightly differently to the norm was the way my Mistress “holds” the key.
Typically the key is worn on a neckchain, dangling between the breasts. We had a waist chain custom made with a short length of chain hanging down from the main chain with the key dangling just about level with my Mistress’s clit. The torment is that when ordered to sexually service Mistress with my tongue i am very, very conscious that i am being denied even as i bring Her pleasure and satisfaction.
One of the things that i think you have to enjoy to make the experience pleasurable is the eroticism of sexual torment. To actually be able to process the teasing and feel the shivers running down your spine. To enjoy the feeling of your cock throbbing in the device. To be able to accept a comment from your owner to the effect that maybe if your good you might get out tomorrow or maybe the day after that and smile. To show your owner how horny you are, how much you desire to come out for Her pleasure (and yours) and laugh with Her when She giggles and says “No”. To suffer the erotic torture of maddeningly massive erections as She orders you to pleasure Her with your fingers, mouth, lips and tongue. To come to terms with being denied. All these things and more i have come to enjoy and are the source of the energy i have after the first few hours in the device. Downside
There is a downside to all this though. Well there would be wouldn’t there.
Life always seems to have a catch. What seems to happen is that when i have a little down patch emotionally then it can feel like the end of the world.
i know that in essence i am a control freak. i cannot settle when i am stressed about work and therefore i normally work incredibly hard to stay on top of my job. At home i am very organised and a bit of a neat freak. i guess that for me i need to be that in control of my life. That control is also part of my “gift” to my Mistress when i submit to Her. If i am out of control then i feel like i have nothing to give. And then life throws one of its little spanners in the works. This might be easier to understand if i give you an example. One day the second time i was wearing the device one of our cats accidentally got locked in the bathroom when we went to work.
When we got home, not unnaturally, the cat had been trying to get out of the bathroom and had clawed at the carpet and left the edge in quite a mess. And i just lost it emotionally. Whereas normally i might be ticked it felt like the end of the world. i almost cried in frustration. Mistress tried to help me through it but i was inconsolable. And that made me feel disappointed in myself, because additionally i felt i was letting Her down.
It might be that this is just stress on top of the frustration that is part and parcel of wearing the device and accepting the teasing that is an integral part of the situation. A kind of snowball effect. But i think it’s more complicated than that. The highs involved in wearing the device are incredibly high, so if you “fall” there is a longer way to fall than usual.
There is also the issue of beating up on myself for losing control.
It’s similar to the point where you realise that losing your temper is a sure sign that you are going to lose an argument. i think the best explanation i have for it is that it is a kind of exaggerated sub drop. Add all these factors together and it’s a very quick downward spiral. Contributing to this as well is one of the physical side effects of the device which we refer to as 5am “boner”. Clearly this is something that happens quite naturally but normally just passes me by during sleep.
Not in a chastity device it doesn’t!!! Most mornings will find me leaping out of bed, heading rapidly for the loo to try and pee, which helps ease the erection away. After that its impossible for me to go back to sleep so one of the dynamics going on is mild sleep deprivation. This is not a huge issue (other than the size of the boner) but it may well be a contributing factor in the stress – frustration – sub drop situation.
Given that we are getting used to these emotional drops occurring we are better prepared for them and are getting better at getting past them.
As with many “difficult” BDSM issues communication is of paramount importance. I am very lucky to have a safe environment in which to work through these issues given that the basis of our relationship is loving, safe sane and consensual. And, for giving me that emotional safety, i will always be in debt to my wonderful Mistress.
More than anything, this section is the reason i wanted to write this “essay”. The emotional rollercoaster was something we had just not anticipated, the issues it raised were not the ones we expected. This may not happen to everyone. If it does happen to you, i would warn against ploughing on regardless. The issues that arise need to be dealt with slowly in a loving and caring environment.
The prize?
So is it worth it? i can only say that for me the prize is the great highs and tremendous energy experienced whilst wearing the device and an unparalleled orgasm of Mount Vesuvius proportions when “permitted”.
Many men, myself included, suffer some form of performance anxiety. After a few days in a chastity device i have found the chances of performance problems exceptionally remote and therefore i can just concentrate on totally enjoying the sex and on trying not to come too soon. i get exceptionally erect from the moment the key comes into view and there is the chance that i’m about to be released. Its actually quite difficult to get the device off whilst being that aroused. but trust me when i say that this is the kind of problem you are only to happy to overcome.
My advice on the practical side of things is keep the device clean – you can shower in the cb-2000 without a problem. Beware of the lock showing signs of rust and think about using some wd-40 on it between sessions. Use a cream or baby oil or powder to ease any chafing of the skin against the device.
You will have to learn to pee sitting down. the side benefit of which is that you never forget to put the toilet seat down for your Mistress . And you won’t be late for work whilst wearing the device – the 5am boner is more reliable than any alarm clock i have ever had.
There is no problem with the device, that i am aware of, if you are pierced.
In fact if you have a Prince Albert, the sense of security can be increased by additionally locking the PA ring to the device.
It takes a bit of time at the start to work out the best arrangement of rings and spacers with the cb-2000. You do need to experiment a bit first before you go for your first formal “lock-in”. We didn’t and we didn’t lose anything by it, but looking back it would have been more straightforward if we had.
From usenet years ago.
Originally posted 2012-10-04 06:05:38.
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Being a good submissive man is mostly about being a good man; taking a pleasure in deference, needing to surrender to control. And often – hooray for masochism! – happiness in pain.
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Originally posted 2012-11-22 08:02:50.
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Is a Bitch Goddess what you really want?
Some woman who will make you bleed and scream?
Leave you whimpering and begging?
Crushes you under foot and laughs at you?
And do you stop thinking like this after you’ve masturbated?
Originally posted 2008-03-15 04:57:05.
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