It’s quite easy to come up with a long list of male dictators. Coming up with a list of female dictators is a lot more difficult.

There were a couple of female pharohs in Egypt, ending with Cleopatra. Catherine the Great of Russia could be considered a dictator in her own right. But these women took over “going concerns.” They were more or less in line for the throne and did not come to power by some other means and set up the dictatorship.

Do female monarchs count? Again, I can’t think of an instance where a woman came to absolute power other than by inheritance (or pretension to inheritance).

In today’s world, there are few female leaders and they (with the exception of the above mentioned monarchs) have been democratically elected.

So in 5,000+ years of history we can only come up with a handful of female dictators.

Originally posted 2008-11-16 12:44:59.

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I found my Rules for Voluntary Slaves quoted on a blog (without the courtesy of attribution).

Any such list can only be what physicists call a “thought experiment.” Such criteria can be framed only in context of the relationship. No one should expect to learn how to regulate their or another’s life from a website.

On the blog a visitor left a comment outlining additional rules. So many that I think most dominants would find them distracting. A simple walk in the park doesn’t necessarily have to be turned into a power exchange. Oh sure, maybe sometimes as a form of play.

Sweeping abstractions are foolish. Venturing any about dominant womans is handicapped by the difficulty of knowing how many of the people writing as dominant women are really lonely guys. And some women talk more harshly than they feel because that makes the guys (sometimes potential clients) happy.

Often it seems that dominant women remark that it is their partner who wants to be denied orgasms, hurt and humiliated more than they really wish. Not to suggest there aren’t happily sadistic women around. Just that the submissive and masochistic male is more likely to be the one that goes overboard. (As I’ve said before: if Alexandra ever harms me it will be in doing something for which I asked.)

This came to my mind as I read the list of additional rules, regulations and conventions the guy thought should be imposed on an F/m relationship.

Taken to its full silliness you’d wind up thanking her for each and every breath you take. Having intelligence and imagination she might like to just chat. To be made to laugh.

NB: Not to say that some couples don’t want a more than common formality in their relationship. (Particularly those used to Old Guard M/s protocols.)

NB: And of course sometimes a largish set of prescriptions and proscriptions may be established as a form of play.

So – guys – when envisioning these possibly over elaborate schemes ask yourself whether they would gratify her or you.

Originally posted 2012-10-11 12:33:23.

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Trust & Love: The Basis of a Female Led Relationship

Above all she would recognize my submission to her as something intrinsically valuable and desirable possess. A fair exchange or equivalent to the dominance she gives in return. She would be exacting, taking full advantage of the power given to her, but would be capable and willing to share the pleasure from my gift of submission. Submission is in a real sense a gift, not in the sense of something that is transferred by one person to another without any expectation of receiving something in return, but in the sense of something that is freely and willingly given. I choose to submit, it is not something that another can demand or take from me by force.

She would first and foremost, be firmly in control of her own life and emotions, otherwise how could she inspire confidence in me that she could control mine. She would possess the capacity to be stern and demanding when it was called for, even to the point of provoking me to cry real tears. But she would also have the capacity to act as the consummate lover, able to kiss those tears away, without stepping out of character. In times of trouble she could easily step outside the role of Mistress to be a supportive friend, lover and partner, never forgetting that above all else we were together joined in a loving relationship between two caring human beings. She would be quick to grasp the differences between fantasy and reality and would never demand that I put her before my career or family, simply to satisfy capricious needs.

To win my mind, body, spirit, and love she would understand that she must first win and then continually nurture my trust. She would manifest humor, intellect, kindness and warmth. She would demonstrate wisdom in her guidance and training inspiring confidence in me that she was knowledgeable, deserving of my devoted attention and that she is a woman I can learn from and whose direction I could always implicitly trust. She would be romantic and protective making me feel that our relationship was something she jealously safeguarded and considered precious. She would demonstrate to me that she is someone I can lean on and depend on.

She would nurture and nourish my submission by instructing me in her lessons of obedience and would be a strong and unyielding teacher. She would accept no flaw, nothing less than my very best efforts at attaining her ideal of submissive perfection. She would never discipline without good reason or in anger. When it was necessary she would always discipline with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

She would always be open to communication and discussion, always willing to hear my wants, needs and desires, even if ultimately she decided that they were not things she considered to be in my best interests. She would be patient, taking time to learn my limits, fully aware that as my trust in her grows, so would my willingness to have my limits stretched and challenged.

She would fully comprehend that I submit to her out of my deeply felt desires and need to please her. My compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. She would understand the fragile nature of the mind and body and would never purposely violate the trust given to her. She would be secure enough to laugh at herself and the absurdities of life, open-minded enough to explore and learn new things, and strong enough to grow. Her tools would be mind, body, spirit, and love. She would understand that each partner in a relationship gains most from pleasuring the other and that in the final analysis trust and love are the only bindings that truly hold

(From an abandoned blog, I no longer have the link.)

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Protocols for Lifestyle Slaves

By B

I will be sharing the protocols normally reserved for 24/7 submissives and slaves. Some of these will be fairly standard and have been taken from erotic fiction but some of these are very unique to the owner and should show you that deciding what the rules and protocols are should be the owner’s decision. I will be breaking up the requirements in different categories and in some instances, when something is clear I will not even use further explanation. It is my hope that this guide will help you enhance your submissive or slave’s service to you.

In private/ At home with no one else present:

1. Slave should always remove clothing as soon as she/he gets home unless Mistress has laid out clothing for the slave or submissive to wear.

2. Slave should fold clothes neatly or place them in the laundry whenever he/ she gets undressed.

3. The slave or submissive is to kneel in present posture whenever the Mistress is due to arrive and wait quietly.

4. Whenever the Mistress is present in a room, the slave must ask permission to enter in the following fashion: “Would it please you if your slave entered the room.”

5. The slave will kneel in the room until the Mistress gives permission that he or she may move or proceed with cleaning.

6. The slave or submissive will wear and gratefully accept any toys the Mistress chooses to insert or adorn her or him with while cleaning or in any other circumstance.

7. The slave will not speak unless spoken to and may request an opportunity to speak if there is something pressing to discuss during those periods of time when the Mistress commands silence.

8. The slave or submissive may request an opportunity to serve the Dominant in the following way: “Would it please you to have your slave serve you?”

9. The slave does not sleep with the Mistress unless it is the express wish of the owner and then this must be seen as a privilege. It can be taken away as a form of punishment.

10. The slave or submissive will always thank the Mistress for an opportunity to serve whether it was doing a chore or being flogged.

11. The slave will keep their eyes averted unless it is the wish of the Mistress to have their slave look them in the eyes.

12. The slave will address the Mistress not by their first name, but by the title preferred by that dominant.

In public/ At home with others present:

1. A slave will receive visitors at the door with whatever clothing the Master or Mistress commanded.

2. A slave will greet visitors in whatever way the Mistress commands – this may include just taking coats and putting them away, kissing the hand of the guest or kneeling in front of them.

3. A slave will not refer to anyone using his or her first name. A slave will use the title Sir or Ma’am combined with their name to differentiate and to make sure that he or she remembers her or his place.

4. A slave will serve every person with food and drinks as requested, kneeling to each as the food or drinks are presented.

5. A slave will not use furniture and will kneel on the floor until her or his services are required.

6. A slave will not speak unless spoken to.

7. A slave will remain attentive to make sure that no one has to ask for additional food or drink. A slave should be ready before the command is issued.

8. A slave must use high protocol when commanded to do so. This means that the slave will not use first person language when referring to him or herself and will address everyone present with the honorific given to those free.

Bathroom training:

1. A slave must always ask permission before using the bathroom or taking a shower.

2. The bathroom door may never be closed in private, as a slave has no right to privacy.

3. The slave must accept it calmly when the owner decides that a bathroom break will not be allowed at that very moment.

Punishment/ Discipline:

1. Punishment and or discipline take precedence over any other command.

2. A slave must show gratitude for punishment and or discipline.

3. A slave must take correction gracefully and maintain a grateful presence around the house after the fact.

4. A slave must confess to disobedience and take responsibility even when the dominant is not present and beg for punishment and or discipline.

5. A slave must always maintain the punishment position in these cases.

Sexual Service:

1. The slave must be available for sexual service whenever the dominant or his guests require it.

2. The slave must always be ready for any form of sexual service, which would mean that her or his body must be prepared in order to make it easy for the dominant or guests to use him or her.

3. The slave will not be allowed to have an orgasm without permission.

4. The slave will shave any body hair and maintain this at all times. Failure to do so will result in punishment.

5. The slave will be clean and pleasant to all the senses at all times.

6. The slave is not allowed to touch her or his owner’s property without permission in any sexual way.

These are but a few of the requirements that some slaves live by. The list is extensive and could be lengthened quite easily. It is always a good idea to have requirements regarding online privileges and privacy, interaction with others not in the lifestyle, which would include hand signals etc. In the end it is the decision of the dominant what this list would include.

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Amity Harris has been a well-known treasure within the D/s community for years. Her explanation of female dominance remains a classic. An excerpt:

A FemDom relationship is intensely intimate. Inside this relationship, both the woman and submissive find caring, intense emotional exchange and validation of each other. I’ve said many times that a submissive man on his knees is one of the most beautiful and powerful mental images for me to behold. Even though a woman may demand that which satisfies her, a simple caress of her partner’s hair or cheek speaks volumes about the intense intimacy of this type of relationship.

When your partner is on his knees, even if only in his daydreams, he is begging silently for a woman’s strong hand to guide and lead him and the thought of that woman’s touch is arousing to him. However, he doesn’t want just any woman’s touch; he wants yours. Expressing the secrets in his soul is something painfully difficult to do without the assurance that the woman on the other side of the relationship will accept it and value it as a treasured gift.

Women learning about female domination must remember that your partner will be sharing his innermost secrets and longings with you. It’s up to you to value and cherish the trust he is placing in your hands.

What Does Female Domination Mean?

Originally posted 2012-05-04 16:34:12.

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My newest project – really an old one that moved – is mostly images (at least right now) with a strong bias toward funny heterosexuality and the physical beauty of women.

Erotic Amusements

Originally posted 2011-08-29 12:56:27.

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Femdom Vows, Wedding, or …

Many BDSM couples F/m and otherwise seek a formal commitment and/or collaring ceremony that symbolizes the special bond of their power exchange.

Here’s one example that may suggest a public or private joining that fits your needs.

We come together in this place today to witness these two people make a commitment to each other that they are not at this time able to make under the laws of any land but which they know they must make.

This commitment is without end, depth, breadth or height. It is immeasurable, cannot be seen, touched or felt by anyone more than them. It is a locking of hearts, minds, spirits and souls. It strengthens them and makes them one.

GIVING OF THE COLLAR

Domme and submissive face each other with submissive kneeling at her feet.

Domme places the collar around submissive neck.

Domme

With the placing of this collar around your neck and your acceptance thereof, I vow to do everything I can to be worthy of you. I promise to hold you and keep you safe, to stretch you and give you flight, to respect the needs of our relationship above all others, to love you, honour you, support you in all things and be sensitive to your needs and desires all underpinned by the respect that I have for you and the deep and joyful knowledge that with you two halves are made whole.

I acknowledge the trust you have placed in me and the responsibility that goes with my acceptance of that trust.

I will never violate or even threaten to violate that trust.

I will endeavour to be open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. In times of trouble, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring people.

We will continue to love and enjoy all our children. Our home will always be haven for them and they will each know that they are not only accepted just as they are, but also adored and enjoyed.

I acknowledge and accept with all my heart the gift of submission you have made to me. The collar itself is a symbol of that which we already know… that you are mine and by it’s wearing you are safe to be everything that you are.

Do you accept this symbol in the spirit by which it is given you?

submissive

Yes, and this answer is given after deep reflection, unpretentious, in the spirit of my submission to you.

The collar you offer me is a powerful reminder of the control I have surrendered to you.

I accept this collar as an outward expression of your ownership of me.

I do so freely, fully and without restriction.

I agree to honour our relationship above all others, and seek to fulfil your needs and desires as you allow.

I promise to support you and to be there for you always when you need me.

I promise to always communicate openly and honestly with you keeping nothing from you.

I will strive to be the best soul mate that I can be for you and will not in anyway dishonour you.

I will love you also in silence within my soul.

I will wear this collar with pride, knowing that you love me, cherish me, respect me and hold me above all others.

And in my turn I promise to love, honour, respect and obey you for the rest of eternity

THE GIVING OF THE LOCK

submissive

With this lock I express the finality of my commitment to you and surrender my body and passion to you whenever it is closed.

Within the circle it closes, it allows me to do your will and allows me to follow in all directions possible.

It remains as a solid symbol of my trust in you without fear of outcome and allows me to give myself to you.

My trust in you is shown as I give my up my safe words.

By my desire to please and not because of fear of punishment.

It keeps me safely within your bond and excludes all others’ powers over me.

Domme

With each closing of this lock, I shall accept the depths of your passion, devotion, and trust and provide a haven where you are safe to express all desires to me knowing that I accept all that you have been, all that you are and all that you will be.

The collar is now locked.

THE GIVING OF RINGS

MISTRESS

(Placing the ring on her slave’s finger)

I ask you to wear this as an outward symbol of my ownership of you.

One that the whole world will see, but only a select few shall truly understand that you may feel the strength of my commitment to you at all times.

SLAVE

(Placing the ring on his Mistress’s finger)

I ask you to wear this as an outward symbol of your ownership of me.

One that the whole world will see, but only a select few shall truly understand that you may feel the strength of my commitment to you at all times.

CEREMONY OF THE ROSE THORN

With a thorn on the stem of her red rose, she pricks his middle finger and lets two drops of blood fall on the white petals of his rose. He then offers the thorns of his rose to her and she pricks her own finger.

She lets two drops fall to his rose, one alone and one on top of a drop of his.

The two then press their fingers together and make their vows to be joined by blood.

MISTRESS

I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I will trust you and honour you, care for you and protect you.

I will always be open and honest with you and will be eternally grateful for your wholly accepting love.

I will laugh with you and cry with you.

I will love you faithfully

Through the best and the worst, the difficult and the easy, what ever may come I will always be there.

As I have given you my hand to hold, I give you my life to keep.

SLAVE

I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.

I will trust you and honour you, care for you and protect you.

I will always be open and honest with you.

I will laugh with you and cry with you.

I will love you faithfully

Through the best and the worst, the difficult and the easy, what may come I will always be there.

As I have given you my hand to hold, I give you my life to keep.

Posted many years ago on usenet.

Originally posted 2013-06-21 07:42:42.

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Like many guys I was enchanted by fashion ads that were suggestive of female dominance and male submission. I accumulated a bunch of them. For a time I was posting them elsewhere.

I’m dumping the F/m fashion advertisements that I have left here.

Originally posted 2010-10-14 12:17:59.

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Mistress Wife / Slave Husband Contract

More Jay Em M/f art.

Be it known that this agreement (“Agreement”) is entered
into on the __st day of ___, 2000 between [FULL NAME OF
OWNER/WIFE] (herein referred to as “[Owner]“), and [FULL
NAME OF SLAVE/HUSBAND] (herein referred to as “[slave]“).
[Owner] and [slave] currently reside at [COMPLETE ADDRESS].

Whereas, this Agreement is to further reinforce and confirm
terms already specified under other existing agreements
already made between [Owner] and [slave]. Both [Owner] and
[slave] hereby state that they have consensually entered
into a non-traditional marital relationship and have
happily and successfully lived as Wife and husband, for
more than one year, under the terms and obligations as
generally described in this Agreement. Both [Owner] and
[slave] hereby emphasize that even though this Agreement
and other agreements may appear to those outside of the
relationship to provide great benefit to [Owner] and little
benefit to [slave], both have fully consented, of their own
free will, to the terms and obligations described in this
Agreement. Both [Owner] and [slave] hereby state that they
both strongly desire to continue this non-traditional
marital relationship and expect that this Agreement shall
be legally enforced in a court of law should that become
necessary.

[Owner] and [slave] hereby agree to the following terms:

Property and Income Ownership: Any and all forms of
property, income and assets which have come into the
possession of either [Owner] or [slave] have become the
exclusive property of [Owner]. Any and all forms of
property, income and assets which is acquired by either
[Owner] or [slave] at any time in the future shall
immediately, upon receipt, become the the exclusive
property of [Owner]. [slave] currently owns nothing and has
surrendered any and all of his future ownership rights to
[Owner], for the reminder of his life.

Property and Income Use: [Owner], at Her option and
discretion, may permit [slave] the use of any of Her
property and income. Such permission may be modified or
revoked as [Owner] sees fit, at any time.

Obligation to Obey: [slave] shall unconditionally and
cheerfully obey every one of [Owner]‘s commands and wishes
and shall, at all times, conduct himself within the rules
set forth by [Owner]. [slave] has surrendered all of his
personal freedoms to [Owner]. The only personal freedoms
permitted for [slave] are those which [Owner] may
graciously choose to allow him, at Her discretion.

Scope of Control: [slave] has surrendered to [Owner]
complete and unconditional control over all aspects of his
life including, but not limited to: Financial matters;
Personal matters; Professional matters; Social matters; And
legal matters (to the furthest extent permitted by law).

Punishment Actions: [Owner] has been given all rights to
punish [slave] in any way in which She desires, for any
reason that She feels is appropriate, at any time, and at
Her discretion. [Owner] shall not be required to
demonstrate to [slave] that any punishment action is
justified. [slave] shall to do his best to avoid punishment
by always striving to please and obey [Owner] and to always
strive to conduct himself within the rules set forth by
Her. [slave] shall cheerfully submit to any punishment
prescribed by [Owner] without hesitation.

Disputes or Disagreements: Any disputes or disagreements
that [slave] may have with [Owner] shall, by default,
automatically resolve to the favor of [Owner]‘s position.
[Owner] may, at Her discretion, graciously allow [slave]‘
position to be heard, but [Owner]‘s final decisions shall
indeed be final and [slave] will cheerfully and
unconditionally abide by them.

Appeals Process: There exists no appeals process available
to [slave]. [slave] is bound to cheerfully and
unconditionally obey every one of [Owner]‘s final
decisions, rules, commands, wishes, and desires.

Sexual Relationship: The only sexual pleasures [slave] is
permitted to enjoy shall be those which [Owner] chooses to
provide him or chooses to allow him to experience at Her
direction. [slave] shall keep [Owner]‘s sexual needs and
desires as his highest priority and he will constantly
strive to please Her in every way. [slave] shall not
purposely provide himself physical sexual stimulation in
any form without [Owner]‘s explicit permission to do so.

Monogamy and Chastity: [slave] shall remain completely and
faithfully monogamous to [Owner] in every sense of the
word. [Owner] may, at Her discretion, require [slave] to
wear a locked chastity device to ensure his monogamy and to
help him to develop further into a better and more pleasing
sexual partner for [Owner]‘s benefit.

Control of Body: [Owner] has absolute control over
[slave]‘ body in every way. This includes, but is not
limited to, [Owner]‘s rights to, at Her discretion: Control
what enters his body (as in eating and drinking); Control
what leaves his body (as in urination and defecation);
Adorn his body (as in choice of clothing and jewelry); Mark
his body (as in tattoos, bruises, welts, cuts and
abrasions); Modify his body (as in piercings, punctures,
brands, cuttings and scarification); Cause sensations to
his body (as in the infliction of pleasure and pain); And
maintain his body (as in weight and health issues). [slave]
shall unhesitatingly make his body completely accessible to
[Owner], without restriction, at Her request, for any
purpose She desires.

Separation or Divorce: If a separation or divorce should
occur, [slave] shall remain completely bound, in every way,
by the terms of this and all other agreements made between
[Owner] and [slave]. [slave] has completely surrendered any
and all of his rights against [Owner], including any rights
to: Attempt to contest any such action taken by [Owner];
Seek alimony, property division or property ownership; Or
to seek personal freedoms of any kind for himself. Any and
all forms of future income or future property acquired by
[slave] shall immediately be turned over to [Owner] and
shall belong exclusively to Her. This may be accomplished,
at [Owner]‘s discretion, through: Direct-deposit of
[slave]‘s funds into Her accounts; Depositing all checks and
cash received by [slave] into Her accounts; Or by signing
over all checks received by [slave] to be payable only to
Her. [Owner] may then, at Her discretion, provide [slave]
with a small living allowance as She sees fit. If a
separation or divorce should occur, [slave] shall continue
to unconditionally and cheerfully obey every one of
[Owner]‘s commands, wishes and rules just as if they were
not separated or divorced, for the rest of his life or
until [Owner] chooses to release him from this obligation.
[Owner] shall retain all of Her rights, in all forms, over
[slave] as She sees fit. Specifically, [Owner] shall retain
the right to direct [slave] in all aspects of his life, at
Her discretion, and [slave] shall not enter into a
relationship with another person without first obtaining
explicit permission from [Owner] to do so.

Transfer of Rights: [Owner] has the option of transferring
any and all of Her rights over [slave] to anyone of Her
choosing, at Her discretion. This may be done by [Owner] in
the form of either a temporary or a permanent assignment of
Her rights. [slave] shall be fully obligated to the person
designated by [Owner] in any way that She chooses to
obligate him. Should [Owner] become deceased before
transferring Her rights over [slave] to a designated
person, [slave] shall not enter into a close or intimate
relationship with another person for the rest of his life
and he shall continue to, at all times, conduct himself
according to the commands, wishes and rules that [Owner]
had previously specified for him to obey.

Consideration: In consideration for this Agreement,
[Owner] has already paid [slave] the sum of one dollar upon
the signing of the original Pre-Marital Agreement on [date]
and that this consideration applies to this
Agreement as well. [slave] wishes to state that further
non-monetary consideration has been very generously given
to him by [Owner] through his continuing opportunity to
have had the privilege to live his life within the terms of
what he considers to be an ideal marital relationship under
[Owner]‘s very capable direction. [Owner] and [slave] fully
understand the nature of this Agreement, into which they
both have voluntarily and of their own free will entered,
without any form of undue duress, force, compulsion,
intimidation, pressure, persuasion or coercion from the
other party. [Owner] and [slave] feel that this
consideration is entirely fair and equitable to both
parties.

Enforcement: This Agreement shall be enforced with the
laws of the State of [state]. Both [Owner] and [slave]
acknowledge that they have had an opportunity to seek the
advice of legal counsel and that they are entering into
this Agreement voluntarily and of their own free will. This
Agreement was drafted by [slave], with the consent and
consultation of [Owner]. Neither party shall be entitled to
claim the benefit of ambiguity resulting from its drafting.
[slave] has specifically waived any and all of his rights
against [Owner] to invalidate this Agreement due to claims
of spouse abuse, enslavement (or for any such related
reason) and shall never attempt to bring legal action of
any kind against Her regarding such claims.

Default: If either party defaults in the performance of
any terms, provisions or obligations herein set forth, and
it becomes necessary to institute legal proceedings to
effectuate the performance of any provisions of this
agreement, then [slave] shall pay all expenses, including
attorney fees, incurred in connection with such enforcement
proceedings. [slave] shall continue to be obligated to the
terms of this Agreement during the time that any such legal
proceeding takes place until he is relieved from this
obligation by a court of law.

Termination of Agreement: This Agreement shall remain in
effect until it is revoked, rescinded, canceled or
terminated by [Owner] or until [slave] dies. Should [Owner]
exercise Her option to transfer Her rights under this
agreement to another person, [slave] shall be obligated to
the person designated by [Owner] until the designee
revokes, rescinds, cancels or terminates this Agreement or
until [slave] dies. [slave] has no rights whatsoever to
revoke, rescind, cancel or terminate this Agreement under
any circumstances.

Changes or Modifications: This Agreement may be changed or
modified only by [Owner], at Her discretion. Should [Owner]
exercise Her option to transfer Her rights under this
Agreement to another person, only the person designated by
[Owner] may change or modify this Agreement. [slave] has no
rights whatsoever to change or modify this Agreement under
any circumstances.

Understanding of Agreement: Each party fully understands
the terms of this Agreement and the terms represent and
constitute the entire understanding between them. Any
portion of this Agreement found to be legally invalid or
unenforceable shall not affect the remainder of this
Agreement. Each party has read this Agreement and finds it
to be in accordance with Her and his understanding and each
voluntarily affixes Her or his signature in the presence of
the witnesses indicated below.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, the parties hereto have executed this
Agreement.

Signed this ______ day of ____________________, 20____.

Witnessed:

_______________________ ______________________________
Witness [FULL NAME OF OWNER/WIFE]

_______________________ ______________________________
Witness [FULL NAME OF SLAVE/HUSBAND]

Originally posted 2012-09-29 08:48:13.

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Chaste Sissies

Gender identity dysphoria surely motivates some genetic males’ desire to be made chaste. Their penises feel unnatural, even ‘bad.’ Denial – along with sissyfication – enables them to come closer to being who they feel they really are.

Both some sort of identification with the opposite sex and bisexuality may be confusing the man.

Originally posted 2010-12-29 07:14:54.

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If you are the head of a female led relationship how much does your dominance pervade the life you share with your husband or boyfriend.

Do you feel he requires – as opposed to desires – considerable control, like a child, a brat?

Originally posted 2009-01-13 14:59:07.

How Much Control?
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Man Kneeling in Joyous Submission to Woman

The poem was sent to me in response to this F/m drawing:

man naked on his knees before woman… back to basics, what he deeply craves more than anything else….

My mistress let me worship at her feet
What joy my natural place in life to take!
No song of mortal lyre to sing such sweet
Refrain could eer its fit description make.

My happiness is now in full complete
My lips do sing of love for they partake
Of bliss with which no other can compete
To quench a thirst no wine could ever slake.

I long to linger here at L***’s toes
To lick and kiss and worship her whom I
Adore and greatly crave to serve and please

In this man’s rightful pose upon his knees
And now in liberty my soul forth flies
To thrill as on my head your feet take ease.

Submit your own female-led verse.

Woman Worship: A Poem
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Charlotte tells of the beginning of her female led family: meeting the man who would become her submissive husband.

I noticed that he responded well to being treated with kind authority. It was as if he could relax and be his natural sweet self when he felt that I had taken control. When he was told clearly what to do and what not to do and how to behave he stopped acting foolishly and provocatively and seemed to feel secure and comfortable with being subjected to authority. Many months before we began being romantically involved the situation that I not only in the study group but in general sort of looked after him and made sure he behaved reasonably well. We did not discus and agree on this, it just came natural and especially after I a few times had given him a good ticking off for things like not keeping his room tidy, not being punctual and not contributing to the study group as he was supposed it was easy to control him and moderate his behavior. He obviously needed the stern reprimands to be able to trust that I really was looking after him and when my authority first was established he felt safe and comfortable with being controlled.

Read all of Charlotte’s account.

Dominant Woman & Submissive Husband: How They Met
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Female Led Corporal Spankophilia

Spanking fetishism also colloquially termed spankophilia is characterized by a person becoming sexually aroused by the giving or receiving of spankings, or both. It seems to be related to, but not identical with other fetishes such as domination/submission play, bondage, sadomasochism and pygophilia (buttocks fetishism).

Do you think that punishment has a place in a F/m love affair? Serious punishment or play?

Generally fetishism is defined as a pathological assignment of sexual fixation, fantasies or behaviors toward an inanimate object such as an item of clothing (underclothing, high-heeled shoes, etc.) or to non-genital body parts such as the feet, but the definition also includes circumstances where a person experiences arousal from participating in activities not normally considered to be sexual in nature, like spanking.

According to psychology practitioners, there is a degree of fetishistic arousal in most “normal” individuals. Fetishistic arousal is generally considered a problem only when it interferes with normal sexual or social functioning or where sexual arousal is impossible without the object of the fetish.

Spanking drawing © Alazar

While I have very limited experience with erotic spankings, I do find the concept very erotic and arousing. I have spanked two past vanilla female sexual partners both over-the-knee and in conjunction with “doggie style” sexual intercourse. Both of them later told me that they didn’t find the over-the-knee spankings particularly arousing but both did very much feel that it contributed a great deal to their arousal when experienced in conjunction with penetrative sex. From my perspective I did not find giving spankings to be arousing, beyond simply the act of touching their bare bottoms which is not surprising since I consider the female bottom to be the single most erotic female body part. Yet fantasizing about being spanked is something I do find very arousing. Since I do experience sexual arousal from any number of stimuli I would assume that spankophilia is a benign fetish for me since it is only one of many things that I find arousing. I have never received an erotic spanking but have spanked myself at the direction of a dominant woman and I did find that to be an arousing experience. I feel that for me personally, it was the domination/submission dynamics of the situations involved that was most responsible for the feelings of arousal since I am not at all very masochistic and do not generally seek out opportunities to experience pain.

There is an ongoing debate in psychology circles about why a person might enjoy and find the idea of being spanked to be arousing, either actually receiving a spanking or through fantasizing about it. Some believe it caused by the person receiving or witnessing spankings during childhood, especially around the age of puberty. This idea corresponds to classical psychology theories. According to Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, sexual deviations are developed in childhood. The basis of his theory was that children may cope with a painful or traumatic experience by “eroticizing” it. Interestingly enough, I recently read an article concerning a survey conducted in the UK where 35% of the respondents who identified themselves as persons who found spanking to be erotic and sexually arousing, stated that they had never been spanked or witnessed a spanking, which seems to indicate rather clearly, that the Freud’s theory doesn’t provide an all inclusive explanation.

Another theory is that some people find spanking to be arousing because of the fact that physical pain is known to cause an endorphin rush for some individuals which causes spanking to be a pleasant experience, comparable to the effects of certain drugs. If the person is spanked hard and frequently (resulting in frequent and intense endorphin rushes) they may become “addicted” to spankings. Over time they come to associate spankings with not only pleasant but erotic feelings. Again not all submissives are masochistic, and so this theory to has its inherent limitations.

Thus far we have considered only erotic spankings, spankings used for the purpose of sexual play. With regards to submissive men and female led relationships, there is also disciplinary spanking. As a submissive man I find the idea of being spanked by a dominant female partner to be a normal and beneficial part of a female led relationship. Like anyone else I am at time prone to make mistakes and need correction. I need to be held accountable and a spanking could provide that accountability. If I failed in some way towards her by say being inadvertently inconsiderate or disrespectful to her or by failing by design or neglect to perform some assigned task, then I feel I would be most deserving of a spanking which would be a very practical means of making amends. As the dominant partner, she certainly would have the right to choose the kind of amends based on the nature of my offense that she felt best addressed and corrected the problem and if she chose to spank me over say simply accepting my heartfelt and sincere apology, then of course I would willingly submit to her decision. While this kind of spanking would not be enjoyable or pleasurable I doubt it would be sexually arousing either. In fact I have read numerous accounts from dominant women who regularly spank their submissive male partners in which all agreed, when done correctly, it is not at all a pleasant experience for the man and is very effective in eliminating the offending behaviors that precipitated the spankings.

I think disciplinary spanking appeals to me with respect to female led relationships on two levels. First, submitting to being spanked would provide a very strong image of her dominance over me and my submission to her. Second, being spanked would allow me to pay for my transgression in a tangible way which would make me feel better about the situation and would allow us to put the affront behind us and in the past so that we could go forward with my behavior appropriately modified. I would also love to experience the erotic variety as well, just to learn what the effects were with regard to arousal.

(From a defunct blog written by a man who used the name Joe.)

Originally posted 2013-04-20 11:44:49.

Why Do Men Want To Be Spanked By Women (F/m Psychology)
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At one end are the people for whom penetrative – or at least fairly traditional genital sex of some sort – is the goal of kink and fetish. Or rough sex is the ‘scene.’

Others find a good Female-Led experience so exhausting that there is no energy left for genital sex. And there are those whose sex partners – loves – are vanilla and never have sex with he people they do S&M and D/s with.

And myriads of variations in between.

Are orgasms an endpoint of Female-Led play for you?

• An orgasm must be part of a scene
• An orgasm should be part of a scene
• Maybe, maybe not: I take it as it goes
• Orgasms are rarely part of Female-Led for me
• I never orgasm during Female-Led play
• I’m in chastity and haven’t had an orgasm in thirteen years.

If never: is it a problem?

Do you think there would be a significantly meaningful difference in feelings between females and males.

Originally posted 2012-11-04 08:09:31.

Female Led Orgasms
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Gender swap: she seems amused but he seems peeved.

I’ve often thought of what a challenge – a horrific shock really – it would be for someone who takes some of the female led relationship rhetoric too seriously to awake one morning and discover that he and his Mistress Wife had swapped genders or bodies and he had become she.

Some of the dominant woman I know would – after the startlement faded – become dominant men. But the submissive guys, their brains would probably be permanently fried.

Ah …

Originally posted 2009-02-09 19:35:59.

Gender Swap or Reversal
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Ruined orgasms is the key phrase bringing the most traffic from search engines.

Not a big surprise. A number of the runner up terms involve orgasm denial and enforced male chastity. Perpetually popular topics in Femdom. That is why so many telephone dominatrices make a living forbidding men to have an orgasm. Though rendering an orgasm unsatisfying is certainly extra mean and cruel.

The second most popular topic is female superiority.

Guess you guys are looking for matriarchal fascists who ensure you have as little physical sexual satisfaction as possible.

In your fantasies anyway.

You might want to look at my summary or orgasm ruination and milking kRuined Orgasms Theory & Practice

Originally posted 2008-03-03 20:57:00.

Goddess, Please Ruin My Orgasms
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I’ve often enjoyed reading roo-roo who obliged me by writing the following:

My biggest obstacle was making progress against my shyness. (can’t say I’ve overcome it though.) Just walking into the first munch was a nerve-wracking experience……….but well worth it. (on the way to my first munch, I was screaming the Oscar Meyer Weiner song in my car, to try to calm my nerves.) Before going to the munch though, I looked at their website and e-mailed with some basic questions, like what people normally wore to these things. The person I ended up talking with was very friendly and understanding, and even asked to meet for coffee before I went to a munch, so that I’d at least know one person there.

Once I started getting into the conversations, people were naturally curious about me, and asked questions. Uncomfortable, but expected. This is one place where being yourself is really important. If I’d taken the clichéd approach of “I’m submissive, so I’ll do whatever you’re into”, well, that’s just plain boring. And very fake. We’ve all got interests and fantasies, and it’s important to be open about them if we expect to live them. None of us are mind readers, whether dominant or submissive. Just because someone is a dominant woman, that doesn’t mean we’re compatible.

I’m honest about not being into protocol, ritual, structure, etc. These things are pretty popular among dominants…..but I knew that if I pretended to be into them, not only would I feel like a hypocrite, but I wouldn’t be happy in the relationship either. Online, it’s common to see weak, obsequious, sniveling little twits who think that being that way impresses dommes. Invariably, there are a handful of online dommes who will go for this type. Being that way in the face-to-face world won’t get you far, though. Doormats attract abusers. Coming across as too eager to please often reeks of desperation. If you have a life, if you’re confident and strong, these are the qualities that many dommes find interesting. We are all equals until we agree to some form of power exchange, and I treat everyone as such.

One thing I continually keep in my head is that I’m deserving of respect. Many subs forget this. They think it’s their “place” to be treated badly or to be unfulfilled, since it’s supposedly all about the domme’s desires. Bullshit. An unhappy sub won’t stay around long; our desires are equally important. I let this be known early on when there’s someone I’m interested in. If she agrees that equality and d/s don’t have to be mutually exclusive, that’s a good sign. This can even show up in little things. For example, if a domme cuts me off in conversation, why should I tolerate that? It’s rude, and I deserve better.

Seeing dommes as actual people (and expecting the same from them) is a must. We’ve all got faults and weaknesses. In a loving relationship, I expect to be accepted as I am. Of course, I give the same. If someone loves you, they accept you. This is important to keep in mind. If a domme tried to turn me into something I’m not (behavior modification) then that’s a way of saying “you’re not good enough for me, and I want you to be someone else.”

I also realized that finding someone shouldn’t be my only reason for getting into the scene. I’ve made lots of friends there, and continue to have lots of great times with them………not to mention casual play with friends. If I’d ignored (or been cold to) everyone who didn’t seem “useful” to me, I’d be very unpopular.

About the same time that I got into the local scene, I started looking into forums online. What I found shocked me. There were so many people, domme and sub alike, who had totally unrealistic, overly idealistic expectations. All “real subs” are expected to be into TPE, do all the housework, and do all sorts of things they don’t want to do. That might work online, but being miserable in a flesh-and-blood relationship just isn’t a way I want to live. A lot of people, mainly online, take a “more is better” approach to submission. Isn’t personal satisfaction more important than playing subbier-than-thou? Submission should cause joy, not agony. We’ve all got our own particular style of submission; it took a lot of introspection and experimentation to find my way.

Here’s the analogy I often use: When I give a woman a single rose, I expect some sort of gratitude……..not a big showy display, just a genuine show of appreciation. If she said “That’s it?? Where are the other eleven?”, then she’s not someone I want in my life. This is how I view submission. I don’t have to sacrifice my whole life in order to be submissive. We each give what we give, regardless of chosen position, and it’s important that our gifts (and our selves) be appreciated.

So overall, I try to keep all these things in mind. Keeping that attitude affects my actions, and everything else sort of falls into place. It can be hard to have the confidence to say “this is who I am, and if you don’t like it, then move on.” But if I didn’t do that, I’d be going from one lousy relationship to another. If someone doesn’t accept what I give, too bad.

There is an element of luck as well; even if someone does everything perfectly, there’s no guarantee they’ll meet somebody compatible.

Originally posted 2010-12-28 23:59:27.

Go to a Munch Group
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Strict Female Authority

Does this image excite you?

Are there women who wish – at times – to be this sort of strict matriarch?

Originally posted 2009-10-22 13:59:46.

Matriarchal Female / Male Spankings
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Not a Real Man

People share the damnest feelings on some of my sites – don’t read that as mocking the poor soul who wrote:

I am homosexually inclined to ever be a real man.the sight of the female genitalia,to be polite,have always troubled me,as the sight of the naked female,generally.the male nude though causes great eroticism in me.i wish to be punished by a lady,for my ladies toilet voyeurism.this was my revenge on those girls who had originally treated me cruelly.at a time,when I did not realize how gay I could be.in other words,when I thought I could still be a real man.those young ladies,soon showed and told me otherwise,of course.i wish also to be sodomized by a lady.as I feel the need to be humiliated for failing to be a real man.and homosexually I have not yet reached the stage when I would bend to another male.

I know there are men who have a fetish of being told they are gay. A fair portion of online ProDommes address their fans as fags to feed this kink. Including one that I admire. I flinch, bite my teeth and skip it.

Now the fellow above is probably bisexual and unable to cope with the same sex portion of his sexuality. Is attraction to men makes him feel guilty and as he says “inferior.”

This reinforcement of the dirty, dark cliché that gay males are somehow less manly than the heterosexual variety disturbs me deeply. The mainstreaming of queer folk proceeds apace. But it will be a very long time – if ever – before it is say for many gay youths to be open about their sexuality.

So, while I’ll not condemn any man’s sexuality – you can’t control these things – submissive male homophobia saddens me profoundly.

Originally posted 2009-06-18 21:42:53.

Homophobia and Male Submission
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