From a report that women in Japan are starting to place chastity devices on their husbands and boyfriends. Japanese women don’t seem to trust Japanese males at all.

“The users seem to be single women who are extremely possessive,” says “pink” industry journalist Yukio Murakami, explaining why lower decker pecker checkers have come into vogue all of a sudden.

“They can’t stop fretting that their lovers will cheat on them. So they make them wear chastity belts made with metal or plastic tubes that slip over the entire length of the glans, and can be fixed with a lock and key. It’s got an aperture at the tip to permit urination.”

This is the saddest – and I think unfair and unlikely – reason for a woman wanting to place her husband in a chastity device I’ve ever encountered:

“Many of them feel insecure because they’re unattractive and worry their boyfriends will be stolen by other women, so they buy the belts via mail order, and then insist their lovers wear them,” he adds. Hmmm, naruhodo. First mail order, then ordered males.

Um, if she orders the device in advance there’s a good chance it won’t fit.

Work odd hours? Don’t want your boyfriend or husband to wank while you are away?

Nurses who work night shifts also favor such clampdowns on their boyfriends recreational activities.

Rouge romantics wrapping on restraints below the beltway

Originally posted 2012-10-08 17:08:15.

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Male Slave Training & Retraining Techniques

By Slave Owner

This is intended as intense mental conditioning for healthy males, who have difficulty “letting go.” Although it can be performed once, ideally it should be repeated (with rest intervals in isolation) over a period of time stretching for weeks to months. A weekend would be an intense experience, while a month would entail serious “reprogramming” which is probably beyond general interests.

Aim:

To create a mental state suitable for training/relearning. Specifically to lower serotonin levels slightly and induce a waking REM sleep-like state which facilitates ‘writing’ to long term memory.

How?

3 essential elements:

1. Sleep Deprivation
2. Moderate, temporary, food deprivation
3. A “Shocking” or Particularly intense experience

Although the exact methods vary from subject to subject, the basic idea is to cause a moderate drop in blood sugar level by placing him on a restricted diet for 2-3 days. Keep this in the 300-600 calorie range for no more than a 3 days at a time. Do not restrict liquids. During this time restrict sleep as much as possible. (It helps to have 2 trainers for shifts). Ideally you must keep him awake 2 nights before you can begin in earnest. Bright lights, standing, noise etc. can help.

The element of shock is introduced at this point. This can be relatively quick, or more drawn out. The idea being to create a sensory overload.

During this period of sensory overload it is possible to “write” very directly onto the long term memory.

Possible sensory shocks include:

• Intense Degradation or humiliation
• Repeated long term listening to training tapes which fill senses (often head phones)
• Intense pain
• (consensual) rape by 1 or more men.

Although this use of sensory overload works well, the mind is quite amenable at this point to learning and training of all types. This can go on for one hour or one day. Then the trainee should be allowed to eat and sleep normally. For the single experience it is now over. For the longer term, this period of rest should take place in isolation or relative isolation.

Closeting is the most extreme, but simply restricting access to the outside world works quite well. This can be repeated, but care should be taken with trainees. Each additional session will probably be easier to induce than the first.

A longer term moderately restricted diet with moderate sleep deprivation can also be combined with daily training. This is probably easier on the health than too many intense sessions.

This basic method can fit into a variety of training methods, help push limits, and offer an intense experience to the sub. It is regularly used in modified forms by religious cults and has been used by the US military.

The actual origins of the technique stretch back to our friend Pavlov in St. Petersburg. We all know that Pavlov trained his dogs to salivate at the sound of a bell, right? Well, it is much less known that shortly thereafter, St. Petersburg had a terrible flood which nearly drowned the dogs. Luckily, they survived, but Pavlov found that the dogs were no longer “trained.” The intensity of the experience had rewritten their long term memories. Later work on the subject of learning revealed that our short term memory is encoded into long term memory during REM sleep (when the serotonin drops in our brains). This state of REM sleep provides the ideal time for training/programing.

The process, in truth, eliminates the ability of the trainee to think rationally, give consent etc. so this must be all agreed upon before training begins.

The particular advantage of isolation between/during this training is the loss of a rational frame of reference which conflicts with the meaning of the training. In isolation, this process of rewriting can take place more “cleanly.”

I am very interested in discussing training methods with other intelligent dominants, or particularly intelligent and intense subs. Provided there is consent, and it does not involve horrible injury, I am very difficult to shock, so feel free to be completely open.

Methods/information above are NOT fantasy, but are rather based on real research, and some personal experience.

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From a very old conversation of bottom’s profound satisfaction in the experience of being punished.

For me, as a male submissive, obedience and punishment are one of the main things they make play satisfying.

For me, in order to be satisfying obedience has to involve doing things that I dislike at least a little bit or find difficult. If I’m simply being asked to do things that I have no problem with, then I have no sense of the dominant having power over me.

It’s not hard for a dominant to learn to dance to this rhythm. If she asks me to wash the dishes, then I will certainly do it, but for me this is a case of safeword “beige,” because I really don’t mind washing dishes. If she wants to make it a little more exciting (not that everything in a scene has to be exciting), then she can say, “Wash the dishes and when you’re done, come and kiss my feet.” No big deal, but it gives me a little bit of satisfaction.

For me, for obedience play to be satisfying, there must be punishment, or at the least a very credible threat of punishment.

I believe that punishment needs to be in some way satisfying for both partners.

For me, for one thing, this means that it has to be real, not pretend. It has to be something that I really do dislike and will make an effort to avoid. The ideal is for punishment to be something I’m afraid of. In any case, the most important thing is that it needs to be effective. If my attitude is something like, “Oh, I know I’ll get whipped for doing this, but I don’t mind,” then the integrity of the play is lost and there’s no satisfaction in it for me.

It’s very exciting to me to show up at a femdomme’s place and know that I am going to be required to do something that will be very difficult for me and that some specific very dreadful thing may be done to me if I don’t manage to do it satisfactorily.

Even a “smart-assed sadist” scene, where the dominant has puposely set things up so that I will inevitably screw up no matter how hard I try, will to some extent fall flat unless the punishment is to some extent genuinely unpleasant. That’s what makes it fun, after all, the dominant knowing that she gets to do things to the submissive which he really doesn’t like. That’s what gives her the satisfaction of being more than merely the life-support system for a whip. And it’s also what gives me satisfaction.

Something like whipping or caning can actually be okay for punishment, but if so it needs to really hurt. As I said before, it should be an *outrage*, so that my inner thought is something like, “Goddamn it! You really hurt me!” It doesn’t need to be really heavy duty though or draw blood.

One of the things about DS that is most exciting for me, in fact, is a woman who is very good at figuring out the things that I hate and then doing them to me.

And yes, for me, punishment should sometimes be exciting. Exciting and also unpleasant and effective. I don’t find these at all contradictory.

Corner time won’t do it for me, because for me that’s just boring and it’s not something I will make a big effort to avoid. Holding a dime pressed against the wall with my nose makes it a little more satisfying, because there’s an element of humiliation in that. Humiliation is, for me, a very good thing to include in punishment. Ideally, to be punished is to be shamed. There is a shame in the fact that I have been bad or forgetful or whatever and am being punished for it.

Writing lines is something I don’t think I’ve ever actually done. It might work, depending on the content (it should be something stupid and humiliating) and the attitude of the dominant. If she just takes a quick look at it, then I think this would not really be good, because it would be too easily for me to think, “Okay, so I have to write ‘I will be a good slave’ a hundred times. Boring, but I can do that easily enough.” But if she examines it closely and punishes me for all the places where I left out a word or misspelled it or my writing was illegible, then that might work.

When I played for a while with a woman who really liked water sports, I eventually learned to be willing to drink piss. But I still find it quite distasteful, and for me there’s something very oppressive about having a water bottle filled with piss sitting nearby and knowing that any time I screw up a little I’m going to have to drink a swallow of it.

Oppressive is good. That’s the feeling of compulsion that really makes a scene work for me. The feeling that I have no choice but to do what I’m required to and to do it perfectly.

Licking a woman’s boots is no big deal, as far as I’m concerned. Not difficult and not exciting. But I was once playing with a femdomme when there was a male top present, and after ordering me to kiss her shoe, which I had no problem with, she ordered me to kiss his boots. (This was a woman who really knew what all my buttons were!) And I was very very happy when he objected because he had just very thoroughly shined the boots, so she had me do something else instead. So I think that requiring me to give a male’s boots a thorough going-over with my tongue would be a punishment that I would do everything possible to avoid.

One can make the punishment fit the crime. If a sub forgets to put the toilet seat down, for instance, then have him hold his head over the bowl and shove it in, holding it down in there for maybe half a minute. He’s not likely to forget again. (Obviously this is not a good thing to do if you use one of those cleaners that colors the water blue.)

For me, anyway, a really good scolding can be a very effective punishment, if done well. The sort of scolding that belittles the person. A thorough “dressing down.” The sort of scolding that an army drill sargeant would give, although it doesn’t need to be done in a loud tone of voice.

Obviously TammyJo and I are attracted by very different kinds of play. Now let me comment more specifically on a few things where from my perspective she has missed the point.

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A dominant can inflict on me even the most drastic sort of punishment just because she wants to, and it’s very exciting to me to know that she can do such a dreadful thing to me merely for her amusement. Of I might even pay her to do that, because I want to know what the experience is like. But that’s different from punishment.

The prodomme who ordered me to brush my teeth with soap didn’t do it as a punishment. She had told me that she had often had fantasies about washing a slave’s mouth out with soap, but had never felt that it would be okay to do. And I told her that I would be okay with her doing that to me. So the next time I saw her, she did, and I was glad to have the chance to find out what it was like, but it was quite dreadful and experiencing it once was quite enough.

If I’d gone on seeing her, and if she started doing that frequently, I would not have liked it. I would have dreaded it. Every time I went to see her, I would have been thinking, “Oh, God, I hope she’s not going to put soap in my mouth again,” because, as I’ve mentioned, it takes about half a day to get rid of that damned soap taste. But it would have also been exciting to know that she had the power to do something to me which I hated that much. But in order for something like this to work, I have to know that the dominant is really getting off on doing it. If I start getting the feeling that for her it’s routine, just a part of her shtick, then I start thinking, “Why should I let someone do something like this to me?”

But that’s different from punishment. The excitement, for me, in punishment lies in being punished, not in the physical sensation or psychological distastefulness. It’s the excitement of knowing that I have no choice but to obey.

If this same dominant had ever punished me for speaking out of turn by soaping my mouth, that would have been 100% effective. From that time forward, I would never have spoken a word during one of our scenes unless given permission, now matter how much I wanted to say something. And knowing that I was so completely controlled in this way would have been very satisfying to me.

But if I did, some time in the future, speak even one word out of turn and she had let that pass, then some of the energy would have been lost from our relationship.

I was once in a relationship with a woman where we did a certain amount of DS. She whipped me from time to time, very painfully but not nearly often enough (less than once a month), and sometimes I complained about the fact that she didn’t whip me more often.

One evening she gave me a thorough whipping, and afterwards asked, “Do you know why I whipped you tonight?” I had no idea, and she said, “The other day you were sitting in your chair reading a magazine and I was talking to you and you just kept reading your magazine. I don’t like that. When I’m talking to you I want your one hundred per cent attention.”

Now even though this punishment was no different from many other times I had been whipped, and even though I actually would have preferred her to whip me more often, it was still totally effective. From that time on, any time I was reading and she started talking to me, I put the magazine face down on the floor.

Now to tell the truth, to a large extent I was creating my own private fantasy situation here. I didn’t need to actually put the magazine down, I knew her well enough to know that she would have been completely satisfied if I’d simply looked up from it and maintained eye contact with her. (But I also know she did enjoy the satisfaction of knowing that I was so afraid of punishment that I was actually doing more than she would have required.) And in fact, if I’d chosen to ignore the punishment and not changed my behavior at all, I’m sure that she would have just essentially shrugged her shoulders. For her, I believe, the real satisfaction was in being able to punish me that one time, when she was in the mood. The fact that she actually changed my behavior was for her, I believe, a bonus.

But she got more than she would have really insisted on, because what we were doing was satisfying to both of us. I was able to make myself believe in what I actually knew was only a fantasy, namely that anytime I didn’t immediately lay the magazine down on the floor I would be whipped. And that gave both of us what we wanted.

Rest of discussion with comments by many.

Originally posted 2012-10-12 07:12:14.

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By JudyK

It amazes me why so many sub men seem to think that their Mistress should only have him as her property. Do they not understand that once they are collared, they are her property. One would not expect her to own more than one chair, therefore they should not expect her to own more than one male. How many males should a woman own? The answer is simple, as many as she wants, or feels she needs. I own four, all live in my home. One is my sissy housemaid, the others have high paying jobs, their salaries going into my bank account. This allows me to live in a lifestyle that as a superior woman I am entitled to. I am not legally married to any of them. All are locked in chastity. Sexual pleasure is for me only, not for them. They service me orally. They know that their only reason to exist is to serve me in any way I choose.

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One month from today: heart-shaped balloons, deadly boxes of chocolate, pink bows and expensive restaurant meals.

I’ve never really had much to do with St. Valentine’s Day. Indeed I suspect it a plot created by collusion between the greeting card publishers and candy makers.

I dimly recall reading people talking of giving the holiday a F/m spin but can’t remember what.

Do you in any way make Valentine’s Day a part of your female led relationship?

Originally posted 2009-01-14 14:00:58.

Valentine’s Day
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Yesterday I got a communication from a reader asserting his total faith in mail inferiority.

After serious consideration I’ve decided that he is write, er, right. The mail is inferior.

Clearly mail carriers should be locked in chastity belts and denied orgasms unless they deliver the mail on time.

Originally posted 2009-01-31 08:00:16.

Mail Inferiority
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Unable to establish an ongoing real time relationship with a dominant woman some men participate in cyber female domination. Some of these relationships are very passionate and sincere. Though, of course, some guys are as fickle and faithless in the virtual life as in the flesh.

Have you ever considered an online only romance with a nonprofessional dominant woman? Even if you didn’t succeed how did you go about trying?

Have you done so? How did it work out? Is it still going on. If you are married or have a vanilla female lover does she know?

Originally posted 2008-05-06 20:00:18.

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How much control of submissive men?

I wanted to ask a question – how much do you want/need to change or transform your submissives?

For me, the transformation side of ownership is a huge thing. Looking at someone and deciding what you want them to be. In my semi-vanilla life, I used to have boyfriends pack on muscle, start wearing heaps nicer clothes and possibly changing in other ways – I just love the control.

My girl is becoming leaner, she’s got a new job and I pick her clothes and food. I like to make changes… especially making people happier (if I can).

Sometimes I don’t get all the unhealthy subs out there, and the fact that they are allowed to continue smoking, eating bad food whatever… but then not everyone likes to have that sort of control over their subs’ lives.

Interestingly I’m not usually all that fussed about “formal” manners… or more bdsm specific requirements like no undies or not sitting on furniture or whatever.

Originally posted 2010-09-03 15:29:29.

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For me romantic love and submission are hopelessly intertwined, in fact I can safely say they are one and the same. That is not say I cannot enjoy a good whipping from a recently met acquaintance, but I believe that is more masochistic than submissive.

In that love, romantic or otherwise has an element of putting another’s likes, interests, satisfaction ahead of one’s own, of submerging one’s self, it is submissive. Generally love is not looked at and defined as submission. The emotional rituals of courting in a vanilla relationships are very similar to those establishing a D/s relationship.

However, in a vanilla relationship one doesn’t get all the wonderful kinky stuff. Too often people define D/s in terms of bondage, whips, chains and etc, but those are a fun expansion of one’s sex life. If dominance and submission were not a part of our emotional and psychological make up we would not have individuals who identify themselves as sub or dom.

My guess is if someone finds romantic love incompatible with submission, for him, at the current time, the two are incompatible. My problem is I’ve always found romantic love impossible without submission.

(Old newsgroup posting.)

Originally posted 2012-05-19 09:38:07.

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Browsing today I ran across these words by Laura Goodwin:

It’s just that some people talk about female domination like it’s some kind of temperance movement…orgasm denial and punishing penises and all that. I just felt moved to remind people that lots of dominant women actually prefer potent men and hot-blooded women who like sex and are eager to *perform* for a lady!

My slave hubby and I love oral sex (giving and getting), anal sex (giving and getting) as well as good old fashioned vaginal fucking. I have trained him to please and satisfy me several ways, and he will cheerfully get me off with or without an orgasm payoff in store ~because he’s my slave~, and he loves making me happy and being of service. If I want to involve others, I can always count on his support and encouragement. What a guy!

Femdom Sex

Originally posted 2009-02-23 14:12:21.

Punishing Penises and All That
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Submissive Masochists vs Pure Pain Sluts

Paddle me and I’m happy. Mention a cane and I’ll be a good boy, the things scare the hell out of me.

Thank you. There is punishment and punishment. The way to encourage good behavior is to reward good behavior and punish bad behavior. Don’t forget the positive reinforcement. Even masochists like hugs, kisses and praise. Catch your naughty subs doing things right once in a while, and remind them that putting you in a good mood is what makes you want to play. They’ll try harder to please you if there is a piece of cheese at the end of the maze.

I know that seems manipulative, but you are being manipulated when they push your buttons. Smart Ass Masochists are like wild dogs: they never been taught to sit and beg prettily for a snack, so they steal food instead. SAMiness (where the sub deliberately or unconsciously tries to provoke your anger to get punished) is a very bad habit and you have to train a sub to use other methods to get what they want from you.

Whatever you teach them to do will stick only if it leads to a palpable reward. If it gets them what they need, they will do it again and again. Masochists need pain, they need to be shamed and punished. Knowing this, you have the power to control them, and teach them to be perfect submissives if you will be patient and firm.

It really helps to be clear in your own mind about what exactly it is that you do want from your sub. Too many dominants are unsure about the direction they want the relationship to take, so naturally their subs are completely lost! Have a clear goal in mind.

If you are dealing with a masochist who doesn’t want to be submissive at all, that’s a separate issue. Some masochists really are just into pain and don’t go for dominance games. If you need a sub and all you have is a pain slut, then the D/s relationship won’t work. OTOH, if you are dealing with a sub who has never been properly trained, then that’s different.

As long as your sub is motivated to please you and will cooperate with training, you are home free. Just get into the habit of rewarding what you like and punishing what you don’t. Just don’t ignore your partner. Ignoring is a way to kill a relationship, not repair it.

Old Usenet Post.

Elsewhere read : Punishment.

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Be Worthwhile

I get messages from guys expressing their wish to find a dominant woman.

I.e., a dominant woman who will do X to him in Y fashion.

They don’t say how they will actually submit to the woman. What they will offer to make a woman feel like gratifying their fetish.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with telling a woman that you want your left testicle spanked with a stalk of celery.

But only after you’ve given her a reason for caring about your needs and desires. Why should she give you anything. Surely not from the mere expression of desire.

Be worth pleasing.

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In tomorrow’s matriarchal society the Femdom Police punish a bad man.

Gynosupremacist Execution Squad

Ready for the revolution?

See some Femdom Humor.

Originally posted 2009-12-14 15:08:25.

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By bootlicker.

For those (like you and me and many, many more) for whom words are important, all this is critical. Words are the environment of the intellect. “Slavespeak” is valuable in setting up that environment: along with clothing, setting, and a few other theatrical touches. But words are the most important of all; the others can be shorted or imagined, but not the words. If, for instance you accept the “woman-worship” or goddess model, then She speaks in the voice of a Queen: “Now, you may kiss Our foot.” (Well, the “royal we” may be overkill, and is certainly optional.) But the assumption that the sub (or slave) is eager to serve, to submit and, yes, to suffer for Her amusement, is basic here. No screaming commands: that reflects weakness, not power. Power has a soft voice, confident it will be obeyed without question. That is not to say that the whip is not ready, should the slave fail to meet the Owner’s high standards and expectations, or hesitate because of some disgust with licking dirt from the royal sole–all that must be forgotten when one undertakes to be a slave. Like all good royal rulers, the Owner must know just how far She can go, and push the boundaries in educating (training, and that means punishment) Her slave to fulfill Her wishes. Key rule here is that the Owner must NEVER lose Her temper, for that is losing control. On the other side of the coin, the sub must NEVER let any natural revulsion or self-respect from his previous life as a human being slow his willingness to abase himself before Her and thank Her sincerely for the lessons of Her lash on his worthless slave carcass. Just as an Owner may, if it pleases Her, use the “royal we” to elevate Her speech, a slave should create the image of being as lowly as possible. That’s one reason I advocate third-party references and neutral pronouns. By way of demonstration, here’s that sentence reworded in my recommended slave-speak: “That’s one reason this slave humbly suggests that it refer to itself impersonally as a thing, rather than a person, to help its gracious Owner regard it as a mere object, to be used without consideration for Her pleasure and amusement. The same principle also impels me to advocate capitalizing both nouns and pronouns that refer to the Owner, to exalt Her station in the house. With this BDSM-D/s relationship clearly established in word usage, She can be as self-indulgent as She likes, as critical of shortcomings as the most haughty Domina can be, and as cruel physically as the fiction we enjoy–stopping short only at lasting medical harm. And that limit is justified by saying “I do not wish to damage My chattel property, for then it will not be as useful to serve My Imperial Pleasure.” — all part of the game. Other facets of that “game” include dabbing crushed pinto bean-dip on the soles of boots kept only for the dungeon-bedroom, and ordering the slave to “lick that dogshit from My boots” or using a soft doeskin flogger. Real pain–but not permanent injury–keeps the participants coming back for more. Real pleasure–genuine cunnilingus, enjoyed asa long as it pleases Her to command, and stimulated with a riding crop if the lazy slave slows down–is certainly to be desired by all concerned. And it won’t hurt anyone, certainly not a proper masochist in real slavespace who wants nothing more than to give his Mistress pleasure and enjoy the delights of submitting, serving and suffering for Her in the process.

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Training Instead of Written Contract

This was originally posted by slave j as a comment on Real Female Led Male Slavery Contract.

A written contract is usually the product required by a male seeking some kind of reward, usually personal joy!

A true Female who wants such a relationship, of having, dominating and “owning” a slave, does not need such a document.

First one requires a male who wishes to serve a Lady, first and foremost. The male should be trained by a Domme. The training period will vary but certainly not in a few days but quite a few months, at least 6~9 minimum. The Domme will see if the male is ready to Totally Accept a position of servitude. The last thing a Domme wants is a stupid non-thinking submissive who only serves as a “slave” for his own pleasures.

Wankers need not apply. That is why a longer training period.When a true submissive with a strong personality offers to serve, go slowly with the training part. The trainee needs to do it at least 2~3 times a week for whole days at a time. If the trainee cannot spare the time, no matter the reason, look elsewhere.

Training is usually done at a Lady’s place where the submissive can do the menial tasks of everyday. Cleaning Her place, doing laundry, making snacks.

Trainees will learn to to enamel nails, hands and especially feet. Prepare baths and wash and massage You. The trainee can be used for sex, but it really only be for oneself! There is NO Need for a punishment/play period for the trainee’s work. Occasional such for discipline, or for good work, or best for the Lady’s pleasure and gratification. The trainee will show and speak of certain preferences. Some must always be respected. You do not have to make an “a-la-cart” menu of wants or denials.

Now here is one of the very difficult parts. The Lady doing the training should not be the final Owner! Train the submissive till it feels natural to be kept naked, to serve thus and serve Her personal friends. Embarrassment and humiliations are part of the training. Ladies normally have a few “special” friends who would enjoy the whole concept. When You know the submissive is ready, let the proposed “Friend” play/discipline the trainee with You. Question Her on Her wants and desires.. When You know the submissive is ready, allow to be taken for meals all 3 together. Tell the trainee that permission is granted to escort the other Lady to a coffee shop or restaurant.

The Lady may not “use” the trainee in any way..except like doing an errand. No really personal things!

Towards end of training do not allow the trainee to be ever completely naked before the proposed new Owner. There are way more males wanting to serve, so be gracious. If You notice that your sub really likes the Lady…It’s all systems go!

Invite the Lady to Your place, You will have seen, if there is a want of owning. Knowing that place trainee in Your area of discipline/play but fully dressed. Make sure you have spare clothes for later, simple items, jeans, top, no underwear again.

Blindfold the trainee and bring the Lady to inspect and discipline. Playing before allows One to know Her capabilities..

A St. Davids cross is a very good item! Anyway cut the clothing off Your trainee. The hands should be tied or cuffed behind. Once fully naked, the trainee should always be completely free of body hair esp. the pubic area. The Lady will inspect the product most thoroughly.

Then as a Domme Lady and as a wonderful friend, say “Milady, I wish to give this slave to You. For Your use and pleasure. For as long as You like! When You are tired You can give it back to me, or to any other needing Domme. You may allow other Domme ladies to use Your slave”.

The slave if well trained, wants the other Lady, will happily go to Her service. If not happy will adjust. For a trial period You can both share the slave.. On occasions this slave has been given to other Ladies for periods to enforce the slavery.

A slave learns at these moments, “it” and not me or I or i !

It is an owned piece such as a dog, horse or item of some value that belongs completely to it’s owner. The moment of being given was both a shock and the greatest joy in a slave;s life. A collar can be given much later. Usually on first anniversary.

The Lady is extremely happy. The slave? Well it ain’t always easy but the love and adoration this slave receives worth all the work and devotion.

slave would do anything to protect it’s Owner!

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Enslaved Man’s Prayer to Owner-Goddess-Mistress

This slave has no past
This slave has no future
This slave exists in an eternal present of woman worship

This slave worships no god
This slave worships one Goddess
This slave prays to Goddess silently throughout the day

This slave knowns its inferiority
This slave knows its Divine Mistress’ superiority
This slave strives for perfect humility

When this slave awakes it
Humbles itself in the heart
Kneels in its mind
Begging Mistress for another day as her slave

This slave has no desires, no wants
This slave needs only to serve and obey
This slave has no will
Mistress’ wish and whims rule its soul

This slave exist for its Mistress’ pleasure
This slave is happy only if She is happy
So it will be for all of this slave’s life

Originally posted 2012-11-23 06:40:42.

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My own feelings about the practices of feminization and sissyfication are very mixed.

There seems to be an indigestible core of sexism in making anything feminine or womanly humiliating if it is done or worn by a male. Why should wearing a dress or lingerie be a mark of inferiority, a chastisement or even humbling?

But I do understand that for some men who are barely able to deal with parts of themselves it may offer a limited release. Men who

• Experience some degree of gender dysphoria or are closeted transvestites
• Men who are not able to cope with their sexual orientation, cannot accept that they are bisexual and have find men sexually attractive.

Having to sit to urinate as a form of submission strikes me as especially laughable. I often do that so that I can read at the same time.

Are you a sissy?

Originally posted 2008-05-06 21:45:15.

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Nudity and Feminization

By Bootlicker

Nudity: comfort or humiliation? It’s a matter of intention.

If a person chooses to be nude for the sake of freedom, or even exhibitionism, that’s his (or Her) choice.

If a slave, without choice, is forced to be naked (and cold in winter, sunburned in summer) then it’s humiliation. And slaves have no choice — in anything.

Similarly, if Mistress forces Her slave to dress in Feminine clothing, it can be embarrassing or humiliating — that is, UNLESS the slave secretly wants to look like the Superior Sex. So be careful, Mistress.

Maybe it’s better to define Dominant Dress as sleek leather, tough-looking, etc., and define slave-wear as rags, uniforms, or frilly tutus.

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A man makes an effort to link his desire to be feminized to female superiority.

As a sub who is strongly attracted to this, I’ve thought about it a good deal. It doesn’t make sense. I am an ardent worshipper and obedient servant of women, and revel in the occasions when a woman has dressed to the nines to be with me, either in public or in private. I feel especially lucky on such occasions. Nevertheless, when I am ‘forced’ into wearing female garb, I am especially aroused, and very vulnerable to humiliation. And, of course, that’s part of the turn on. But yet I’m supposed to be a worshiper of the creatures that wear these silky clothes.

After hashing this out for a good deal of time, I think that the humiliation comes from the American male’s usually unspoken (and perhaps buried, as well) feelings of superiority…leftovers from the once established male power structure.

In my case, I can remember watching TV that always had that unspoken (or spoken) “I’m the dad/husband/boss, and I’m in charge” attitude to it. Women were sometimes entirely absent from the picture. I can remember similar attitudes prevailing in the structure of virtually everything I was exposed to, my friends families were structured that way, and my house too – until my dad died, and mom is suddenly totally responsible.

Taught me a lot of lessons about women, none of them incestuous. Sorry to ramble, but I wanted to give a tad of background.

So, to encapsulate the above:

• I *know* that women are superior…
• I’ve been ‘indoctrinated’ to believe that they are not, in the face of convincing evidence to the contrary.
• So when I am dressed in female clothes, whatever they are, I am acting the role of the ‘inferior’ sex. That is humiliating to that 50′s role model living inside me.
• Now what I can’t figure out is why the humiliation is a turn on. Or pain, or why performing orally on a woman is more of a turn on than
• intercourse. And on one level – it doesn’t matter, because I’ve come to terms with it, which is all that really *does* matter. Finding a
• psychological root for everything may be less rewarding than sitting back and enjoying the ride.

(From an old Usenet posting.)

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(A man explains how forced feminization fits into his submissive needs.)

I don’t feel that there is any single reason for why men find it humiliating. Each person is different and the reasons for the reactions, and even their reactions themselves, are all different. What I can do is share my own experiences, and maybe that can add some understanding to the matter. I am a non-op MtF transgender person. Getting to this level of self-acceptance was not an easy road for me.

I remember the first time I read a forced feminization story. I was shocked. I was disturbed. And I was turned on, which I think unsettled me even more. Prior to this episode I had entertained quite a few “what if” sort of thoughts. What if I had been born a girl, what girl would I be? What if I had been given the choice at birth? And I had always harbored slight tinges of envy for women. Their clothing options (I still miss the 80s… where boys could look like girls and girls could look like boys… not that I ever had the nerve to risk it at the time), their skin features (I remember when I was taught to shave… more like intimidated into it. I hated the idea that my facial hair would come back thicker… and saying some food would put hair on my chest would just make me think “and what if I don’t want hair on my chest?”), their sexuality and sensitivity both emotionally and physically.

But for the most part these were not thoughts I dared entertain very deeply. I managed to acquire a lot of baggage while I was growing up. Being too sensitive or too un-boyish was meet with hostility, both at home and among my peers. I eventually learned that even thinking such things could be dangerous, least I act on them. Fortunately I was able to find a middle road and did not end up over compensating and proving how guyish I really was. But even dating, I didn’t dare discuss some of my private thoughts and feelings least I incur the same rejection and hostility I survived in my youth.

Fast forward to my discovery of the online kink community. I already had some experience and education in BDSM prior to getting online, and quickly searched out and found ASB, which was soon followed by ASF. And on those groups I found an abundance of forced feminization stories, and myself empathizing very closely with the characters in them. No matter how disturbing I found the images they portrayed or how uncomfortable my own emotions were, I kept finding myself drawn to them. My obsession with them increased, and eventually I had to confront my feelings on the matter. I confided some of my feelings to my SO and she was supportive of my dressing up. At first it was exhilarating to some extent and for a little while a sexual thrill. I felt a little freer to be who I wanted to be. I do not think I felt it was humiliating in the sense of shameful or degrading, but I was very self conscious, was very easily embarrassed, and there was still quite a bit of fear involved with expressing that side of myself.

That worked out for a time, but after a while I still felt myself wanting more. I felt a need to take it further, and I longed for some one to take me to those places that too scared to go on my own. My SO, while accepting and willing to support me taking things further, initially she was not willing to take on the role of forcing me. It was mix between her not understanding my needs and desires, me not having the words to help her understand, and some of how own issues stemming from her own past relationships that needed to be overcome. Eventually my feelings did achieve a level of critical mass and I found myself having to move forward on my own least I completely destroy my relationship and myself. Now we are working on overcoming some of our hang-ups and exploring some elements of forced feminizations again (who says that D/s cannot be healing for the Dominant as well as the submissive?).

So for me, the idea of forced feminization is not about something that I find shameful or humiliating, but about a desire to be pushed harder then I am able or willing to push myself. When I ask my partner to force feminize me, I am asking that person to strip my psyche bare, look into my soul, and force me to confront those things I may be to fearful to confront or pursue on my own. I am asking to force me to do the things I am too scared to do or even ask for myself.

Plus I just plain find it hot. Being “forced” to become a woman that is highly provocative and desirable pushes a lot of my buttons. I still have not unraveled the entirety of my mental and emotional tapestry, but I almost suspect that is almost a shadowy refection of female adolescence or desire to experience it for myself.

About those that find dressing as humiliating, my guess is that they are people who still cling very strongly to their masculine egos (as in sense of self and identity, not exaggerated self-importance or conceit, or pride and self-esteem) and yet are somewhat shameful of that attachment, and that the humiliation process may be a way to for them to overcome and purge themselves to that connection.

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