Forced Kneeling With Bondage

Put a leather cuff just above each elbow, then connect them with a short
(~12″) spreader bar, with an eyebolt in the center of the bar. Then put
on a cuff just above each knee, connected with a similar spreader bar.
Next, bind each wrist to its upper arm and each ankle to its thigh, using
straps, cuffs, rope, tape or whatever.

Position the malesub on elbows and knees, then use a longer spreader bar to
connect the eyebolts in the middle of the other two bars. This third bar
should be as long as the distance from hip to shoulder, or a little
longer.

The result, I think, will be that the malesub must remain on elbows and
knees and will not be able to get enough leverage to rock back onto the
shins (which would put them in a “kneeling-up” position with elbows
pointed out in front of them). They will be able to crawl, slowly.

Caution: be careful not to bind wrist to upper arm or ankle to thigh too
tightly, or you could cause elbow/knee joint problems, especially if the
malesub is older and less flexible.

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Sissification & Ego Suppression

By Apollinaire

I call the practice of imparting feminine behavior, mannerisms, characteristics and traits to the male, “Feminization”. I find the element of force to add greater eroticism to this practice. It can be as small as requiring the male to occasionally wear panties. It can be as big as complete transformation involving hormone therapy. The underlying principle is to painfully remind the male of his maleness by contrasting it against the feminine elements introduced to, or forced upon him.

The goal being to cause a genuine sense of inferiority in the male, forcing him to acknowledge and believe he is less than the woman. Also, to create a very real envy of the feminine and to impart a sense of shame at being male and shame at the desire to be female. (Shame is not exactly the right word, but I can’t think of another that’s better. Perhaps the state is closer to embarrassment.)

I have seen many good examples illustrating this point over the years. Most involve requiring the male to risk, in some way, having his feminization exposed to others, either friends or strangers. This practice wears down the male’s self-importance. The elimination of self importance, is a requirement for the development of the Shen energy necessary to develop the Dreaming body.

Actually the elimination of self-importance frees up energy we already have and spend in the effort to convince ourselves that we are better than someone or something else. Face it, in the game of life, no one gets out alive. Then again, on the flip side, you can’t do any worse than break even. (Unless of course you can so completely master awareness that you are able to permanently sustain a shift of the assemblage point. That is, to sustain awareness in a parallel reality.)

So in recap, feminization is a good tool to use to conquer a males self-importance. Depending on preference and circumstances a woman may want the male to remain a lowly worm with a very small self-importance (i.e. making him always dress in frilly feminine underclothes etc.), or she may find pleasure in permitting a large self importance so the humbling experience will be more powerful.

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Varieties of Male Submissive Needs & Desires

• 1. physical (most submissives, masochists, etc.)
• 2. emotional
• 3. intellectual
• 4. spiritual (least submissives, masochists, etc.)

I have seen various writings on the levels of servitude and have written about them in various articles (Techniques of Servitude). However, I have found that just about everything in life can be divided into the four categories above.

They are not exclusive, a person can be operating from one to all four of them. The concern in training submissives in a lifestyle capacity is where the majority of focus lays.

The submissive who is operating mainly or solely from the physical level is foremost interested in fulfilling his own needs primarily. Submission begins and ends with sexual arousal leading to orgasm. This is one reason orgasm training/ denial/deprivation is used in training.

The physical level of submissive is not a good candidate for continuous service unless some aspects from the other three levels balance out the physical attractions.

The emotional level of masochist is trying to fulfill emotional/love needs. They serve from a base of love for the Mistress. Often this may be unrequited love as the Mistress may have someone else as Her significant other. It is extremely difficult for the emotional submissive to live with the fact that they may not be lovers. However, the wise Mistress can elicit better performance from a submissive operating solely on this level, rather than the physical.

The intellectual submissive may or may not be physically involved with the lifestyle of serving a Mistress. He usually likes to know why he is this way, reason it all out. This submissive is likely to be a good servant because they have thought it all out, come to grips with it and serve from a base of knowledge. Combined with the emotional aspects, the physical attraction to serving womyn, he can be successful.

The spiritual submissve serves with the goal of betterment of womyn, not as much his own needs or an individual womyn, but all womyn. He is often found working in Female Supremacist organizations as a servant and all-around worker. He may or may not be Goddess oriented in his personal beliefs, but is open-minded enough to accept that in the Mistress.

Ideally, the preferred servant is well rounded on all levels of submission and able to function in a wide variety of situations to benefit the Mistress and womynkind.

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Some of the latest thinking on the difference between the natural genders:

Like the male sex hormone testosterone, oxytocin is produced in the hypothalamus. But in most other respects, it is the anti-testosterone. Instead of fueling aggression, it promotes attachment, reduces fear, and leads to feelings of pleasure and well-being. Testosterone appears in males at far higher levels than in females; oxytocin, on the other hand, is more prevalent in females. Women have many more oxytocin receptors in their brains than men do, and those receptors rev up during orgasm, childbirth, and breast-feeding …

Femina Sapiens in the Nursery

… pop evolutionary psychology often bears about the same relation to science as an episode of The Flintstones does to the Pleistocene era.

Originally posted 2009-12-08 14:43:14.

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The Masculine War Against Feminine Power

The feminine, the driving force that exist within us all leading us to emotional creativity, lives within us no matter what. Be it in our sexual fantasies or our desires. In our hearts we know She exist. For some of us it’s a constant tempo driving us into action and for others a shadow of a mystery that longs to be answered. A curiosity we can’t seem to grasp, yet still somewhere in our minds we are driven to know Her.

There was a time when women ruled. The society was peaceful and without war. The seasons were celebrated and men hunted and protected wimp. Sex was not evil and women enjoyed the natural pleasures of men. Men accepted this as being a duty bestowed upon them. Everyone was happy with this arrangement.

No one questioned the ability of Women because it all seemed so perfectly natural.

There were a few men who harbored jealousy towards the power of Women. “Why should they have all the power’” They asked. It was a year of testing and commitment one that would surely result in confusion. These men from a continent far away who had little feminine influence deified the power of Her. They began a path of destruction that would eventually lead to war. The war against the feminine.

As the bible tells the story of a wayward son of Adam & Eve, so was true with the birth of patriarchy. Insanity infected many as they searched for more meaning to the universe. Instead of accepting that all must be, all must have it’s place, they chose to dictate a path of destruction. They could not simply let things remain in natural order. The desire for dominion had to be born in order for us to realize the perfect order we had. It is said by some that God created earth and humans in order to realize itself. If this is true then all chain events happen to create and continue the laws of cause and effect. The process that continues human existence.

How would they know that their son’s would turn on them’ The lonely men from the North seducing their ideals with visions of power ‘ At that time they painted a very pretty picture of power and a false liberation. They forgot to include the price they would pay. The eternal suffering of man. That which is so very present today.

How could men turn on Women this way’ The natural order of circumstances lead them to unreason and doubt. Here the masculine is inferior because he had always relied on the feminine for answers. This great white lie seemed promising. It was just that..a great white lie. One proposed by lonely, jealous men to extinguish all that was feminine.

In any society there will be those who deny the rule or common tread that twist within that society. So was true of the men who chose to retaliate from Her. Their goal was selfish.

The matriarch was unprepared to deal with such forces. They had no laws that included destruction or elimination. They were UN-prepared to fight a war that included weapons and acts of deception. How can you know about destruction unless you are taught’

The war against wimp began because it was the natural power of the feminine they feared. For this reason a bible was created and it was adopted as the word of God. Goddess was denied Her place because it is said that the feminine possessed evilness because of her ability to sexually invoke “demons ( their words not mine ) within the minds of men.” These men were to stupid and illumined by the false power they had been promised. A power that must be put on, not inherent. They were forced to believe and should they not they would be destroyed.

WE all fear the end of our existence. So is true with the men who were curious with the patriarchy as an alliterative yet as they stepped through this threshold, never to return again. They would fear death. It was the law of patriarchy. They had no choice. They too were not prepared to be given an ultimatum. The male nature is curious and forgiven. Once they entered the threshold of patriarchy they risked being killed should they chose to return to matriarchy.

The power of the feminine was strong. Without force, without war, they were able to keep their devoted people. Those who shared the faith. They felt that within their hearts that matter the new movement they would exist and that in time all would see the loving embrace of Her.

This embrace was so powerful that is scared the hell out of patriarchy. What chance did they have over a mindset that allowed liberation, sexuality, and the pursue of individuality’ A quick plan went into action. The sexual power of Women had to be distinguished at all cost. It was the thread that kept the bond of Women to man. It was the power She has always, and still today has on man. That which can never be extinguished lives’ and yet they knew that if they could deface this power they would ultimately win dominion.

They burned bodies. Any who were single or possessed any thread of sexuality. A Women could be burned and destroyed for whatever reason they thought was threatening. A Women could no longer heal because if She did She could possibly instill the demon, that demon which captivates the minds of men. The sexual demon that unleashes her right to sexual pleasure, They were burned and tortured , humiliated and subjugation in the name of God, that which this new order of law would seek total and absolute dominion. The fear of women was so profound that any resemblance of femininity was looked as evil.

The text was re-written to prove the evil of women ( bible) and yet She lived within the minds of all. That which was Pagan way was changed to reflect a Christian value. The value was a ONE God, who would punish you should you fall out of the parameters of his will. You would be burned and killed if you did not comply. There were no choices.

WE discovered new land. It was an act of God. The same God who would damn us should we be free individuals. We were forced to accept whatever text or law they imposed. Those who were free thinkers were burned with witches or thought to be insane. If they were men who pursued a different path then they were also Gods of another kind. Sages who had a corner on human truth. Should a Women speak her mind she would be destroyed. The men who preserved the faith of the great Goddess did so under the guise of many truths. Never calling the exact word but finding other ways, Alchemy , Masonry and many other forms of expression which eventually erase away Her values..

Should any wise man read between the lines he shall discover the truth of Her, for wise men have always found a way to keep Her alive. IN the Tao you see Her. In all religions She exist. No matter their attempts they could never extinguish Her.

The patriarchal religions proved to be mistakes. Those who sought peace and solace found condemnation and alienation if it did not conform to the exact belief of Christianity. This punishing God showed no mercy on those who consented to an alternative path. Even those who had faith began to question the power of the Church. Sex was a driving force that could not be extinguished. It was the pleasure of the Goddess and one denied. One that

Women today still pay the price and because of this men also pay the price.

It was the magic of the feminine, that which men can and never will be able to deny. No matter their longing for truth, justice or Christ, they still seek their approval and comfort which shows them love’. The love of the Goddess. That which provides all. A comfort to know that their sexual yearnings are a longing g to serve her needs. Yet they are guilt ridden, subjugated to a force that damns their very existence. Disguised by the truth of the lord. They must be men and deny their lust for women and women should deny their lust for men. Go figure’ It’s never really worked, has it’

Decades later men purchase millions of magazines on pornography. Statistics prove that the most popular content are on alternatives. Be it incest, golden showers, men kissing women’s feet. Female domination, the list goes on and on. If you closely evaluate all these activities you will see a common and absolute pattern. You can say or exclaim ” Safe, Sane & Consensual ” yet the truth remains that hundreds and thousands of men long and desire absolute subjugation. They don’t give two hoots about consensuality. Their goal is to answer a longing they feel inside. That which drives them to subjugation. The desire to give completely.

The facade is always there. No one wants to admit their total subjugation to a concept and yet they yearn, obsess and dream of something beyond the certain of the guidelines known as BDSM because there is no other mountain to climb. They result to a certainty that is common and familiar at risk of being called a fool,, yet in their hearts they know a truth that has withstood the boundaries of time’

That men exist, without a doubt to please Womyn.

(Dianna Vesta, was a well-known female supremacist and F/m entrepreneur. I don’t see any current sign of her on the web.)

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Thinking of dominant women what are the top three attributes you look for?

• Physical Beauty
• Cruelty
• Dominance
• Intelligence
• Empathy
• Loving
• Shared Fetishes
• Good Job
• Or?

Originally posted 2008-04-07 17:58:59.

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Female Tops Want Sane Male Bottoms

How many, many, many times have submissive men who want or have loving submissive male partners, lovers, husbands stated that:

• Dominant Women Don’t Want Wimps
• Dominant Woman Don’t Want Worthless Men
• Many Dominant Women Don’t Even Want Sissies

• Dominant Women Want a Man Who Can Contribute
• Dominant Woman Want a Man with Self-Respect
• Dominant Women Want a Man Who is Smart
• Dominant Woman Want a Man Who is Kind

Lonely submissive and masochistic men – you? – spend their spare time looking at pornographic images of cruel, crushing women and masturbate thinking about worse torments and degradations than a mortal body and mind could survive.

There’s nothing wrong with crazy I fantasies. I enjoy mine. I know female tops who have them as well (but – sorry – aren’t planning on making them real). Wank to crazy imaginings. But remember: don’t confuse your dark dreams with daylight possibilities.

Women want more than a wanker. Be mindful of what is possible and doable.

You have to seek your expectations in perspective if you’ll ever find a woman willing to top you. (Or you’ll have to pay for the experience.) Most likely much of what you think you want won’t be things she does. But given real experiences your desires and expectations will adapt to BDSM as it is lived.

Originally posted 2011-09-13 07:42:31.

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Male Orgasm Denial

By Apollionaire

The careful regulation of the male’s ejaculation is what I refer to as “Chastity”. As a long time practitioner of Taoist Yoga, I can attest to the health benefits of semen retention. I recall once, someone asking the question, “Is it harmful to permit my male to become frequently aroused and forbid him to ejaculate?” I can assure you there is absolutely no health hazard. I personally have practiced semen retention for 7 years.

The practice involves arousal up to the point of ejaculation but retaining the semen by strong contraction of the under trunk musculature. In other words, hold it in. Orgasm is very possible without ejaculation. (but you may not want your sub to know that!) All the same pleasurable sensations occur, only no seed issues forth. However, it is better not to go that far and instead collect the Jing in the head (concentrate on the cranial cavity), prior to the dry pumping.

This practice is unthinkable for most men, as it takes a great deal of discipline to refrain from ejaculating. Most males will have to be trained very gradually. Weaned from the addiction, so to speak. As it is written in the ancient Chinese medical manuscripts the male should emit only after every 100 coitions. Some authorities say not at all, some say more often is permissible. Winter is the worse time to permit an emission, Spring the best. Under age 30 more frequently, over 50 not at all.

Train the male at first by allowing emission only at specific times or when specific conditions are met. Perhaps once every other week or so to start and gradually tapering to complete chastity. Or perhaps making him kneel and masturbate for you only when you have a particular friend over to visit. (Always have the male consume the ejaculate after you inspect it. Or save it for yourself. It is a most potent elixir.)

There are many good devices, and belts available to assure compliance in beginners and untrustworthy males . The lust crazed male, deprived of ejaculation, can by your best toy if you can keep control.

Most males will do anything if they think you will let them come. Have fun, but don’t give in. You must absolutely convince your male that his emission is your decision. Always punish for unauthorized emission, nocturnal emission included. (this IS controllable) Periodically reward for showing self control and restraint. After about 3 months of continuous retention, a definite improvement in general health is noticeable.

Above all else I think this topic speaks more loudly than any other about the state of the world ruled by men. Men have no self control. They see ejaculation as the point of sex. Worse, they often lack the control to prolong the act to fully satisfy the woman.

This attitude is at the core of many of the problems plaguing the world today. We squander our essence personally, we squander our resources globally. We cut down our forests, pump out the essence from the earth (oil, coal, natural gas, etc.), and waste it as though it were inexhaustible.

There is a story that goes something like: “The Yellow Emperor had 500 concubines who were forbidden to have sex with anyone but the Emperor. Often they would have to wait long periods for their turns. They became weak and ill and complained to the Emperor that they needed to have the yang essence that he wasn’t able to provide regularly enough. So, the Emperor dispatched a battalion of his finest soldiers to satisfy his concubines. When he went to check on them he found a group of weak, lethargic men. Confronting one of his concubines he asked who these men were. She replied, these are the empty bottles from the medicine you sent us.”

Truly if men can not learn to personally conserve their essence, how can they ever learn to conserve our natural resources. Soon, if men don’t change, our planet may be an empty bottle.

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Would you submit to the will of these strong women? Would you happily become a woman’s obedient servant? Do you kneed to be spanked by a woman?

Originally posted 2012-01-14 21:23:46.

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By bootlicker.

(“Language is a cruel mistress.”) Beginning with Latin (always a good place to start any language discussion), “Domina” literally means “the lady of the house,” in the sense of “domestic boss.” (“Domine” is Biblical Latin for “Lord,” as in deity, and “Domina” is simply the feminine.) So that’s a good title. “Mistress” is a feminine of “Mister,” which can be understood as “lord,” “sir,” or any number of similar terms. Until the 19th century, it was used as a title for any woman, single or married. It came to mean the female owner of a pet in the 19th century, and as a translation of the old Latin “domina,” the female in charge of a household, and hence of the servants (or slaves) working in that household. “Mistress” as a euphemism for “kept woman” is fairly recent, apparently a matter of finding a word to fit a vacant place in Victorian vocabulary. It is this meaning that seems to bother most people in the Woman Worship scene today. A century ago, it clearly meant that *she* was there for *his* use, an unofficial employee, as it were, at his command. Clearly, that will not do here! The significance we want is that of the Lady and Her servant, the Owner and Her dog. As long as both understand that is the exclusive and exact meaning, there is no problem. If others outside the relationship do not use the term that way, we have a problem. Solve it either by excluding them (keeping the FLR confidential) or change to a term that will not be understood. What term, then? “Lady” implies a “Lord.” “Madam[e]” reminds us of the euphemism for a brothel owner, which leads back to the male-dominant model. “Domina” may require conversation in Latin only [;-D]. “Madonna” is confusing, “Maitresse” good if you have some French, and “Herrin” if German is part of your linguistic landscape. “Ma’am” (a contraction of Madam) works well, except that it brings back memories of school days to some. (That may be just right, though, for many of us.) Keeping the relationship private solves many problems; private may mean behind the bedroom door (and maybe in the basement!), or it may mean in the company of others who are in the scene. There you can do as you like, and it’s nobody else’s business. In the end, that may be the best way to handle the whole thing: privately.

Originally posted 2012-06-09 07:49:17.

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By bootlicker.

Margaret Thatcher, a consummate dominant in Her public and vanilla-world way, said once that Being powerful is like being beautiful — if you have to say it, you aren’t. The essence of civilized domination is that a a true Dominant Woman never has to raise Her voice or scream at Her slave (Think of The Godfather — speaking softly!). The contrast between a Mistress’s soft allowing a slave to serve Her, permitting it to debase itself at Her feet, contrasts all the more with the fact that She will be obeyed. Her power is enough that She never has to lose Her temper. She gives a quiet suggestion, and if Her slave hesitates before obeying instantly, She doesn’t have to say a word: one cruel lash across the slave’s naked back, or face or whatever part of its anatomy is convenient, is all that’s needed. In Middle Eastern cultures where real slavery is genuinely practiced, not for the sake of BDSM, but that’s the way life IS, the custom is to speak politely, even request, as Richard suggests his Lady Alexandria might do. Well-trained slaves know what will happen if they don’t give 150% obedience at once. So, too, with our BDSM world. Both Mistress and slave can be happy with such an arrangement: One knowing that She has actual power, and the other reveling in obedience and submission. That’s why, when a command is carried out, Mistress can say that She is pleased by Her slave, and the slave, in turn, thanks Her for the privilege of serving Her (with, in this house, a warm kiss on Her toe)

Originally posted 2012-05-16 06:35:55.

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As a dominant human being what is it you seek when you think of the slave or submissive man or woman you would enjoy owning:

• Physical Beauty
• Self-respect
• Humility
• Tolerance for pain
• Skills and talents
• Low self-esteem
• A perpetual sex toy
• Neediness
• Gumption
• Wants abuse
• Compassion
• Grovels
• Has no will
• Useful
• Kind

Understandably you may want a mix of some of the preceding. If you made a list what would come first, what would be last?

What qualities, attributes are omitted from this list: what would you add? Why?

Originally posted 2012-11-01 12:03:34.

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By … ?

And now, for the traits of a good slave/husband (inspired by the scout law). These are the ideals i strive for when when I give myself to a superior woman:

The slave husband is Trustworthy.
The slave husband always tells his Mistress the truth. He is honest about his feelings, admits all his secret, errors and wrong-doings and he keeps his promises. His Mistress can depend on him.

A slave-husband is Loyal.
The perfect slave/husband is true to his Mistress/Wife, and serves only her or those she instructs him to serve. He never seeks out other women to serve. When a man pledges to honor, love and obey Her, one tenant of this convent is to remain sexually and emotionally loyal to her. All of his emissions, works and efforts belong to her, and the best form of chastity is a male’s solemn pledge to obey her in this manner.

The slave husband is Hardworking.
The slave husband cares most about his Mistress’s needs. He willingly volunteers to serve her without expecting payment or reward. Always thinking of her comfort, he works hard to present his wife with his earnings, to keep her home clean and her life stress-free.

The slave husband is Thoughtful.
The slave husband always tries to find ways to pleasantly surprise his Mistress and to anticipate her needs. He does not need to be constantly bossed around to do what is expected of him. He constantly seeks to improve his skill range to please his Mistress/Wife, such as cooking, massaging and body care, anything which will serve to make her life easier.

The slave husband is Submissive.
The slave husband is polite to everyone regardless of age or position. He knows that using good manners makes it less neccessary to punish him for displeasing his Mistress, which reflects badly on her training. She is the guiding light in his life and his sole purpose is to serve HER needs. But his Mistress doesn’t want a broken worm, but a gallant steed who will strive to make her proud.

The slave husband is Kind.
The slave husband knows there is strength in being gentle. He treats his Mistress and other females with the utmost of respect and defference. He never lashes out or threatens violence against his Mistress or any woman.

The slave husband is Obedient.
The slave husband follows the rules of his family, Mistress and the women in his workplace. He obeys the laws of his Mistress to the letter and the spirit. If he thinks these rules and laws are unfair, he tries to accept this unfairness in order to please his Mistress, rather than disobeying them. He does whatever is asked of him, immediately and without regard to his own wishes. The slave husband exists to serve his Wife.

The slave husband is Cheerful.
The slave husband looks for the bright side of life. He cheerfully does all tasks that his Mistress sends his way. He tries to make Her happy at all times. He does not sulk or pout or in any other way bring disgrace upon his Mistress’s household.

The slave husband is Thrifty.
The slave husband works hard to pay his own way and to provide his Mistress with the luxury and comfort she deserves and is entitled to. He gives all his earnings to her to save for the future or spend for herself. He protects and conserves his Mistress’s resources. He carefully uses his time to bring prosperity to Mistress and to increase her property and wealth.

The slave husband is Brave.
The slave husband can face down any danger to his Mistress or her estate, although he may be afraid. He has the courage to take his punishments even if others laugh at him or chastise him.

The slave husband is Clean.
The slave husband keeps his body and mind fit and clean-shaven. He chooses the company of women who live by high standards. He keeps his Mistress’s home and possessions clean.

The slave husband is Reverent.
The slave husband is reverent towards the Goddess, and the Feminine Divine which is represented by his Mistress and all womankind. He is faithful in his worshipping duties. He respects her every wish as his Law, and seeks to enlighten all humanity about the true path.

(The site this originally appeared on no longer exists.)

Originally posted 2011-01-22 15:00:02.

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Does anyone know anything about this artist who specializes in petticoat punishment and feminization?

Originally posted 2009-01-25 06:32:05.

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Submissive Male Training and Conditioning

By Apollionaire

I use the term “Behavior Modification” to cover a wide range of practices all with the common purpose of making the male conform to your will by the use of rewards and punishments. It is important that you associate in your males mind, pleasure with the things you want and pain with the things you don’t want. The actual “behavior” is really irrelevant. What is important is that you eventually define completely for the male what IS a reward and what IS a punishment and that he agree with you. Frequently change the rules without notice. Demand unconditional and immediate obedience.

To completely control your male’s behavior you must control his mind, what he believes, his self image. Review every day with him how he feels and what he believes. Encourage him to be honest, reward him for it. Be sure you approve of all his thoughts and feelings.

Perhaps make a “Creed” for him to recite to you every day. Include in it a firm statement of all the things you want your male to believe and feel. (I am the slave of so and so, my sole purpose is to serve her pleasure. It is my joyous pleasure to clean her house, cook her meals and wash her clothes. I serve her well. I love to make her happy. I always do as I am told. etc. etc. etc.)

For example, as a punishment, a good old fashioned spanking (corporal punishment) or when you have fully trained your male in the area of semen retention, as a punishment force him to masturbate to ejaculation while you berate him for his inability to control himself.(Make sure it is as incomplete of an orgasm as possible, i.e. stopping all stimulation just before the point of no return, just enough to cause minimal ejaculation and loss of erection) Or, as a reward, have the male wash your panties, rub your feet, back, lick your pussy, suck a used tampon or some other choir.

If your manner demonstrates that you truly believe the activity is a reward or punishment, your male will likewise believe it. The transition must be gradual though. As I am not a hard core masochist, I have never been able to associate physical pain with being a reward, though it is certainly possible. There are nevertheless, certain activities that, by their nature are intrinsically either reward or punishment. It would be unrealistic to push these boundaries too far and expect much success.

I think that at a deeper level this is appealing because the male can give up responsibility and therefore guilt. I do as I am told therefore I am not responsible for my actions. I certainly can’t feel guilty over that which I have no control. The freedom from guilt permits the male to explore his submissiveness and fully surrender his will to the woman.

I omit here, for now, many aspects of Sadism/Masochism, primarily because I know people who are masochistic and not at all submissive. I also know individuals who are only interested in inflicting pain and could care less about dominating. In short my experience tends to lead me to generalize that S/M is more physically and less psychologically oriented. (So far as any powerplay is concerned, that is. Obviously what gives them the desire is rooted in the mind.)

These are some of the underlying factors I perceive as a male. They are the underlying factors I believe to reflect my own personal psychological reasons for finding the mentioned activities to be such a powerful stimulant to Jing. (why it gets me so hot)

I am sure it is so for other males as well. I would be most interested in hearing from women who also find this arousing and some of the deeper reasons why they think that might be so arousing to them. To hear the woman’s point of view.

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I got this comment* on one of my blogs this morning:

Try What My Mistress Girlfriend uses instead of a Penis Plug which has to be taken out at some point. A catheter tube that has a Locking Plug on the end. For days She makes me Hold my Pee. then on my knees with my hands on my nipples She makes me pinch and twist them till I have forgotten the pain in my belly before She unlocks the p-lug and lets me pee My Chastity tube hole is where the plug fits in the Catheter. She tried a Penis Plug but decided it could not stay in long enough.

He also posted this:

Chastity has me semi Castrated and Hormones finished the job. I can not cum nor have any kind of sex but my Girlfriend fucks who she wants. My dick no longer is free it is locked in Chastity for 12 years now. My Girlfriend fed me Hormones for 7n years now I am a Castrated by Chastity and Chemical Sissy now and I have began to like being a girl since 4 years ago. Is there no hope for me? Am I lost to Her Devious whims forever ? I find myself wanting Her lovers to want to Fuck me and She just laughs at me as She makes me watch them fuck Her. She Cold Milks me in front of Her lovers to show them the Control She has taken over me. I can not even feel the cum come out of me because everything is frozen numb. When I cry because of the utter Humiliation of Being Milked with a group of men watching She Whips me all over and lets them kick me. She says She picked me because She saw She Could Control me in no time and force me to be what She wanted me to be. I was raised to never hit a Woman ,and She took advantage of that from the start. She keeps me in an Iron Chastity Belt that needs four keys and a Combination lock. I sleep naked except for the Chastity In a Standing position with my hands chained above my head in a Standing Birdcage made for me. When my Chastity is off my hands are tied and a Blindfold is locked on me. I have never seen my Genitals in 12 years. that is why I say I am Castrated.

I get demented comments from guys all the time. Particularly the Female Supremacist Sissy Sluts. Imagine what violent, volcanic sexual frustration they must feel to go about posting their fantasies as their life history.

( * Spelling corrected.)

Originally posted 2009-01-16 06:48:18.

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Range of Submissiveness

Ten years ago Laura Goodwin posted this in reply to someone who asked about the seven kinds of submission (seven because of the Bible I’d guess).

No, but here’s a guess:

The kind that’s thinking about it alone, sometimes with the aid of a magazine or fetish object.

The kind that thinks about it, and sometimes chats about it on IRC, and fantasizes about meeting people (but never does).

The kind that pays by the hour, and forgets it the rest of the time.

The kind that only will play its own way, and this kind sometimes doesn’t even call it play.

The kind where it’s mainly a sexual thing, or it’s not taken it too seriously, but at least it is sincere.

The kind for whom it’s an anti-sexual thing, and they are dead serious, but often not sincere.

The kind where it’s part of a full relationship, even if not full-time.

Originally posted 2010-11-19 13:46:57.

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Ritualizing Submissive Male Behavior

By Kane

Here are some musings I will just toss out, since I’m tired of them kicking around in my head they can now kick in yours…

What are kinky rituals and why use them? Elements of BDSM can be used to set a mood, a tone, to control a sub, to elevate a Master (both flip sides of showing differences in station) – to introduce or reinforce training. To move play into the theater of the mind, or out onto the physical stage.

To give focus for discipline of self…. I receive a beating routinely every morning after I spend the night at the house of a woman I sub to. It is a reminder of my place. This also puts me in mind that even after a recent phenomenal, very heavy scene that left me caned bloody and extremely bruised – I woke up to her caning me where I was already badly beaten, leaving me nearly in tears to start the day.

I loved it. (OK, so I’m a pervert Someone making free with my body that way makes me feel very possessed and used. And controlled. And that is very much the cornerstone of my kink (being controlled, and used). So this is a Good Thing to experience, not to mention it builds a bond between top and bottom, dominant and submissive. And the experience comes about through the pointed application of ritualized play in BDSM.

Rituals can be as simple as formalized methods of greeting a dominant or presenting one’s (sub) self; they can be as elaborate as offering extended service like a formal tea, leather, boot or high heel care, having a routine around ordinary daily events (rising, dining, bed-time come to mind) or similar events which lend themselves to structure and ritualization. Persons who want to really get their hooks into their submissive, pushing erotic as well as control buttons, would do well to contemplate what kinds of rituals can be incorporated into their interactions.

Perhaps the sub must dress a certain way; perhaps orgasm is controlled, and relief only allowed in certain settings, or after particular service is rendered. Perhaps a routine beating of the sub – as with the dominant I enjoy subbing to, her standard ritual is that her subs bring her her cup of morning coffee and an implement for her to beat them with. Or as one dom I know treated his slave, three brutal slashes with a quirt, nightly, upon his back before he was allowed to go to sleep. After each stroke he was required to thank his Master, of course.

How does one create rituals? *Anything* can be made into a ritual – simply codify how and when and why it is to be done. Any activity set out in “required steps” becomes ritual, when it is done mindfully.

Raise an activity from the mundane to the ritual by making it a formal event to which special attention is paid. Set it off by recognizing – in words and deed – that this activity has special significance, and is required from the sub because it pleases the dom. In this way, an act as simple as combing one’s hair a certain way can take on ritual significance – if, say, the grooming occurs at a specified time, and the results inspected by the dom, with approval as a reward, or disapproval shown through punishment. Not that grooming need be ritualized – that is for the individual dominant (and perhaps submissive) to discuss and determine for themselves, what activities would be meaningful or have charge to them.

For myself, some things I like to interact with in a ritualized way are: service to my domme in kinky social environments (where I stand and how I sit around my domme; how a drink is served to her, etc); daily beatings; orgasm control, with masturbation being permitted only in specifically-defined ways and circumstances. I also like to create rituals around something that might only be important for a finite period of time: for instance, in striving to get a project done in the household, a ritual to start it out with, and to conclude it with when the work is complete, is both motivating and puts one in a particularly “meditative” headspace during the project.

I knew a dominant who joked about subs who said they would do anything to serve her – until she got to the line where she retorted, “So, would you put a butt-plug up your ass and weed my back yard?” Yet even this kind of activity could become eroticized as “the weekly weed-cleaning ritual”, if the dom/me wished to ritualize such an event. And I have no doubt there would be subs who would be eager for that day of the week to come around, and be in a very meditative (and erotic) head-space for the duration of their hillside labors. Ritual is a powerful tool, but not every dominant knows how to (or cares to) use it.

One of the more frustrating persons for a ritual-oriented sub to interact with is not the simply ignorant dom/me, who we presume is still learning the “tricks of the trade”, but the more experienced players who may talk much about BDSM ritual but in fact make little or no use of it. This kind of dom/me is more than a lazy Master/ess. That is a person acting with something of a willfully misleading dominant tone, as well as apparent ignorance of the power of the psychology they are playing with (or not playing with, more properly speaking).

A dominant has the power to open doors of compliance and eroticism in the sub’s mind, invites the sub to follow on the journey that she (the dom) can take the sub upon. One who speaks those words but seldom acts out their intent is someone to avoid, if the sub is looking for meaningful play that incorporates ritual. The dominant who does not know how to play counterpoint to that willingness risks being a very one-dimensional player indeed.

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Passive Punishment of the Disobedient Male

While the techniques described below do not use the term corner time the principle of using boredom and discomfort to punish a submissive or slave male is the same.

A mild punishment is is the “Face the Wall” punishment. This is frequently used on children by parents. The slave is stood a foot or so away from the wall or preferably a corner and ordered to face it for a period of time to induce boredom by the reduction of visual, auditory, and physical stimuli. It is important to command the slave not to turn the head away from the wall or touch the wall so as to not permit the relief of some of the boredom. The slave must be watched. In spite of being ordered otherwise, the slave will disobey and do those things because the desire for stimulation is a powerful one. When this disobedience occurs the slave must be punished. One way is to tell the slave that the punishment period will begin anew or is doubled.

A more severe version of the “Face the Wall” punishment is to cuff the wrist behind the back, and the hoist them upwards with block and tackle, such that slave is forced to bend over at the waist with raised wrists and head to the knees. The wrists should not be hoisted so high as to cause immediate pain due to to stress at the shoulders, but only so if the slave moves to a lower position by folding the knees some. The goal is to make the slave’s stance generally uncomfortable for an hour or two. long enough to make the slave grateful to be let down. The slave should be oriented such that what the slave will see is a blank wall or other featureless scenery. This can only be done with slaves that are in good physical condition and have good circulation. The arms and hands must not be allowed to fall asleep. If they do the arms must be lowered as soon as possible.

Suspension cuffs are recommend for this.

The technique requires constant monitoring to guard against physically harmful distress.

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Electric Dog Collars for Disciplining & Punishing Male Slaves

Well, as in all things, YMMV. What is too intense for one person is a yawner for another. Before I ever put a collar on one of my dogs, I tried it out on myself. I wouldn’t describe it as a pleasant experience but it didn’t kill me. The lowest level of stimulation on the Tri-Tronic, Innotek and Radartron collars is a barely perceptible tingle–to me (yes, I’ve tried them out on myself).

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But……….a fun thing to do with a shock collar is put it around the sub’s leg under slacks or jeans and take him to a restaurant to eat. As you sit there ordering or what have you, just give him a little “buzz” and watch him jump!!! The waiter will wonder what in the world is going on!!

My other favorite way to use a shock collar is to again, put it around their leg, send them off to bed in the evening if they are fortunate enough to be staying, and when I awake in the morning, give them a little “wake up buzz” to summon them to my presence.

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The longer range of the one we have works great through walls and floors from anywhere throughout the house or yard and while shopping in a mall or such if he starts to stray too far away … :*). Trying not to overreact to the shocks and attract attention, especially while in public, is a major undertaking. Imagine him doing an impromptu and mysterious Irish jig in the middle of a mall walk or shop — hilarious!

It also works great at play parties where, with a little training, you can have him amaze others by having him do things for you without even asking … just a few short buzzes and voila, he does your unspoken bidding! If others don’t know about it they will think you are using ESP and telepathy! In our case, she uses 2 short buzzes to retrieve me to her side, 3 short buzzes means to get her a drink, and 5 longer buzzes means to “dance” — quite involuntarily I assure you!

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Across the chest is the classic electric no-no; the heart is quite susceptible to outside electrical stimulation and is easily confused by same. As few as 200 milliamps *may* cause the heart to stop beating.

To reduce the risk of unwanted shock damage assuming “safe” electrical potential levels (whatever those are: a) *never* play (with electricity, silly!) barefoot on concrete. In the absence of a path to ground (yup, same ground we walk on) electricity tends to follow paths on the surface of the body rather than pass through it. and b) make sure there are no paths that cross the heart between the electrode(s) and a potential ground, as in where a dog collar is around a leg and the opposite (!) hand touching a faucet, guardrail or concrete wall.

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They can be used relatively safely, depending on the location where the shock points are placed on the body and the shock level setting. We have had and used one for several years and it has not resulted in any direct injury. I say not directly, because one time some indirect injury occurred.

I was tied hands outstretched to the headboard bed posts and my feet and legs drawn up to tied spread to the top rail of the headboard. My bottom and genitals were completely exposed and vulnerable. I was also blindfolded so that I could not see or anticipate what was being used on me. In addition to a number of paddles, crops, clips, hotwax my wife, unknown to me, decided to try the remote shocker on my genitals … using (for the first time) the highest level, which is 7 on our model. Without a warning of any kind she applied the shock points to my scrotum. I could feel the coolness of the metal probes, but didn’t know what it was. Suddenly she pressed the remote to send the shock signal. I reacted so violently that I pulled the headboard completely off of the bed and into the air whereupon it eventually came down on my head and caused a small scalp wound. There was some bleeding, but it was not large enough to require stitches. Interestingly, once things calmed down and we knew everything was OK we both burst out in a fit of laughter. It was an event we both remember well.

We use the device relatively frequently, usually at a low-medium setting and placed somewhere on the genitals. We’ve removed the collar and just use a cloth wrap or such to hold it in place. We have only use it on the torso and appendages and not on the head or neck … just to be “safe”. It makes for a wonderful addition to our “toys” and believe me when I say that it also makes for a very effective tool for obedience training.

(Clipped from ancient newsgroup posts. Electro-shock collars can also be place around a man’s genitals.)

Electro-Shock Collars for Male Slaves (F/m Disiciplinary Techniques)
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