Crystal Renn in Elle Canada December 2010 photographed by Leda & St. Jacques.

Originally posted 2010-11-10 14:11:28.

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Female Led Corporal Spankophilia

Spanking fetishism also colloquially termed spankophilia is characterized by a person becoming sexually aroused by the giving or receiving of spankings, or both. It seems to be related to, but not identical with other fetishes such as domination/submission play, bondage, sadomasochism and pygophilia (buttocks fetishism).

Do you think that punishment has a place in a F/m love affair? Serious punishment or play?

Generally fetishism is defined as a pathological assignment of sexual fixation, fantasies or behaviors toward an inanimate object such as an item of clothing (underclothing, high-heeled shoes, etc.) or to non-genital body parts such as the feet, but the definition also includes circumstances where a person experiences arousal from participating in activities not normally considered to be sexual in nature, like spanking.

According to psychology practitioners, there is a degree of fetishistic arousal in most “normal” individuals. Fetishistic arousal is generally considered a problem only when it interferes with normal sexual or social functioning or where sexual arousal is impossible without the object of the fetish.

Spanking drawing © Alazar

While I have very limited experience with erotic spankings, I do find the concept very erotic and arousing. I have spanked two past vanilla female sexual partners both over-the-knee and in conjunction with “doggie style” sexual intercourse. Both of them later told me that they didn’t find the over-the-knee spankings particularly arousing but both did very much feel that it contributed a great deal to their arousal when experienced in conjunction with penetrative sex. From my perspective I did not find giving spankings to be arousing, beyond simply the act of touching their bare bottoms which is not surprising since I consider the female bottom to be the single most erotic female body part. Yet fantasizing about being spanked is something I do find very arousing. Since I do experience sexual arousal from any number of stimuli I would assume that spankophilia is a benign fetish for me since it is only one of many things that I find arousing. I have never received an erotic spanking but have spanked myself at the direction of a dominant woman and I did find that to be an arousing experience. I feel that for me personally, it was the domination/submission dynamics of the situations involved that was most responsible for the feelings of arousal since I am not at all very masochistic and do not generally seek out opportunities to experience pain.

There is an ongoing debate in psychology circles about why a person might enjoy and find the idea of being spanked to be arousing, either actually receiving a spanking or through fantasizing about it. Some believe it caused by the person receiving or witnessing spankings during childhood, especially around the age of puberty. This idea corresponds to classical psychology theories. According to Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, sexual deviations are developed in childhood. The basis of his theory was that children may cope with a painful or traumatic experience by “eroticizing” it. Interestingly enough, I recently read an article concerning a survey conducted in the UK where 35% of the respondents who identified themselves as persons who found spanking to be erotic and sexually arousing, stated that they had never been spanked or witnessed a spanking, which seems to indicate rather clearly, that the Freud’s theory doesn’t provide an all inclusive explanation.

Another theory is that some people find spanking to be arousing because of the fact that physical pain is known to cause an endorphin rush for some individuals which causes spanking to be a pleasant experience, comparable to the effects of certain drugs. If the person is spanked hard and frequently (resulting in frequent and intense endorphin rushes) they may become “addicted” to spankings. Over time they come to associate spankings with not only pleasant but erotic feelings. Again not all submissives are masochistic, and so this theory to has its inherent limitations.

Thus far we have considered only erotic spankings, spankings used for the purpose of sexual play. With regards to submissive men and female led relationships, there is also disciplinary spanking. As a submissive man I find the idea of being spanked by a dominant female partner to be a normal and beneficial part of a female led relationship. Like anyone else I am at time prone to make mistakes and need correction. I need to be held accountable and a spanking could provide that accountability. If I failed in some way towards her by say being inadvertently inconsiderate or disrespectful to her or by failing by design or neglect to perform some assigned task, then I feel I would be most deserving of a spanking which would be a very practical means of making amends. As the dominant partner, she certainly would have the right to choose the kind of amends based on the nature of my offense that she felt best addressed and corrected the problem and if she chose to spank me over say simply accepting my heartfelt and sincere apology, then of course I would willingly submit to her decision. While this kind of spanking would not be enjoyable or pleasurable I doubt it would be sexually arousing either. In fact I have read numerous accounts from dominant women who regularly spank their submissive male partners in which all agreed, when done correctly, it is not at all a pleasant experience for the man and is very effective in eliminating the offending behaviors that precipitated the spankings.

I think disciplinary spanking appeals to me with respect to female led relationships on two levels. First, submitting to being spanked would provide a very strong image of her dominance over me and my submission to her. Second, being spanked would allow me to pay for my transgression in a tangible way which would make me feel better about the situation and would allow us to put the affront behind us and in the past so that we could go forward with my behavior appropriately modified. I would also love to experience the erotic variety as well, just to learn what the effects were with regard to arousal.

(From a defunct blog written by a man who used the name Joe.)

Why Do Men Want To Be Spanked By Women (F/m Psychology)
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By Herbootlicker

One approach could be to form a name as a pun: if the sub’s name is Doug, then his pet name is “dog” or if his name is Warren,” he becomes “worm.”

If Mistress knows a nickname that Her sub simply hates, then that’s the name to use — of course!

Addressing him by that name becomes a cue to drop instantly into sub-space, or at least to “assume the position” and be ready to perform as Her slave. The real advantage of this is that it gives Mistress — and only Her — the option to initiate slave-play. If he wants to but She does not, too bad. There is no way for him to initiate, and that’s part of his humiliation, his training, his submission.

In fact, She may decide that if he makes himself obnoxious about hinting when She’s not in the mood, he will simply undergo a severe punishment the next She does decide to play. And Goddess help the guy if his response to Her cue is to say he’s not in the mood or has a headache: you don’t want to know what that little moment of disobedience will cost him!

In response to Nickname? Pet Name?.

Originally posted 2009-11-08 10:40:16.

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Drawings and painting portraying female domination. Some of us are – or have been – determined collectors of it.

I suspect most people like Sardax’s refined, fantastic and smug young women. I’ll own to be a Sardax admirer though I do wish the men didn’t always look so damned miserable.

Bill Ward, a cartoonist who turned to BDSM when his income from other sources dwindled. I used to be a fan of his extreme and unlikely drawings of women abusing men. Then my lover at the time pointed out how awful those women’s faces were Killed most of my interest in Bill Ward’s drawings.

Gene (Eneg) Bilbrew (Van Rod) produced a huge amount of D/s and S&M themed drawings. Some remain among my favorited.

John Willie – famous for Exotique and Bizarre drew some very cute dommes: girlish sadists. I like those.

Jim Bishop’s black and white illustrations of men in bondage remain favorites even though I know my body could never handle some of those contortions.

And I have a terrible weakness for Kami Tora’s anime style drawings of cbt.

Stig, Hata Deli, Laurent Lebeau, Bernard Montorguel, Jack Rhodes, Steffi and so many others have rendered drawing of women dominating men over the decades. Some had a specialty; others drew either whatever was ordered or fancy suggested.

Perhaps you have a stash of F/m artwork that excites you.

Is that something you enjoy? Are there artists you are fond of, some whose work you despise? (There no denying the incompetence of some.)

Two Years Later

After posting this entry I started a F/m art site. While there is the usual sort of imagery I’ve gone out of my way to find illustrations from diverse sources many of whih were not original about female domination or male submission. But can be seen as such if you have the right kind of imagination.

My Femdom art site is:

Originally posted 2008-02-28 14:14:42.

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Humanity & Mindfulness

I was skimming through lists of rules for consensual slavery. I may write about some of them later. I thought I’d try dashing out my own list.

My list ignores distinctions like whether the role is submissive or slavish. Lifestyle, intermittent or for play partners. I tried to concentrate it into what might be called core values. Or my sense of what is common to the full spectrum of D/s relationships.

I’m not claiming that my list is definitive (indeed I tried to keep it open ended). As physicists say it is a thought experiment.

Written in a F/m framework only because all of the others weren’t. Limited to ten rules by design. Order is arbitrary.

Your quibbles, additions are as always invited.

1. A slave must be honest from the moment he begins communicating with a dominant woman. Never lie about relationships, experience level or anything else.
2. A slave will seek to understand want he wants and needs and to know the difference between the two.
3. A slave needs to realize some fantasies will never be more than just that. And that some of his fetishes may not strike a responsive chord within her.
4. A slave has a duty to act as an intelligent human being.
5. A slave repays a dominant woman’s attention with respect, humility and obedience. This is inherent in the nature of the relationship.
6. A slave always communicates his feelings as clearly as possible.
7. If the slave feels that his needs aren’t being met he will confess that respectfully without seeming to make demands.
8. A slave will watch to see if his dominant woman is tired or not feeling well and focus on her comfort, not on having a session.
9. A slave should never think of a dominant woman as a torture and humiliation machine. That is objectifying her.
10. A slave will remember that D/s is a relationship between people. He will strive to never forget that the dominant woman is a human being. That regardless of the power relationship thoughtless behavior on his part can inflict emotional hurt on the other person.

Civility, honesty and honor sum it up.

Originally posted 2012-10-11 07:39:54.

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If your wife doesn’t want to lock your penis up in a CB6000 wouldn’t it be better for you to stop having all those covert orgasms over the idea of being denied orgasms?

If she doesn’t want to make you chaste then isn’t bugging her about chastity just pushy?

Originally posted 2008-04-01 01:00:18.

Masturbating About Chastity
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If you are the head of a female led relationship how much does your dominance pervade the life you share with your husband or boyfriend.

Do you feel he requires – as opposed to desires – considerable control, like a child, a brat?

Originally posted 2009-01-13 14:59:07.

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Woman as Goddess

Some romantic hokum that I’m sure some of you will take great delight in.

Then, at the very center, in the innermost temple itself, all the layers of your devotion are flooded with reward all at once. You discover the very essence of the feminine, and in a strange way that is not exactly romantic, but profoundly sacred all the same, you realize that you could have got here with any woman if you had just been willing to pass through all the layers of initiation. Any woman is every woman, and every woman is any woman at the same time. When you love a woman completely, at the very essence of her being, this is the one divine feminine flame. It is what has made every woman in history beautiful. It’s the flame behind the Mona Lisa, and Dante’s Beatrice, and yes, also Penelope Cruz and Heidi Klum. You discover the magic ingredient which has lead every man to fall in love with a woman.

When you learn how to pay attention to the essence of the feminine in this way, you fall to the floor in full body prostration, tears soaking your cheeks and clothes, and you wonder how you could have ever taken Her, in all of Her forms, for granted even for a second.

Why It Is Wise to Worship a Woman

Originally posted 2010-07-31 20:32:22.

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Jay Em Female Led Corporal Punishment Gallery 2

Originally posted 2012-04-21 07:09:38.

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It is easy to mock and condemn ProDommes: women who fulfill men’s desires for money. But is that really worse than having nothing?

I know of a couple of men who say early experiences with professional dominatrices helped them learn about themselves and their need for submission. Both are now in long lasting ongoing loving relationships.

Have you ever thought seriously about hiring a dominatrix? Have you actually paid one?

If you did do you feel ashamed? Did it help you in any way?

Originally posted 2007-11-05 11:58:20.

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Femdom is love.

No, of course it isn’t.

Perhaps it is a fluke but most of us who blog about D/s and S&M are, have been or want to be in romantic relationships that include our sadomasochism.

It is easy to forget that people engage in BDSM as one night stands. That they scene with people they don’t know intimately. Many people enjoy their fetishes without worrying about affection.

Imagine developing a view of heterosexuality solely on the basis of romantic comedies. The sex lives of millions of people would vanish from view.

What level of emotional involvement do you require for Femdom?

• Deep romantic passion where marriage or lifetime partnership is at least a considered contingency?
• Friendship with strong erotic affection.
• Liking the person outside of Femdom sessions? What the present age vulgarly calls ‘friends with benefits?’
• Scratch my kink and I have all I need.
• I’d rather pay than get mushy.

Would you rather go kinkless and celibate than play without what you feel is the minimum level of tenderness you want?

Originally posted 2012-11-10 08:16:03.

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Like many guys I was enchanted by fashion ads that were suggestive of female dominance and male submission. I accumulated a bunch of them. For a time I was posting them elsewhere.

I’ve posted the F/m fashion advertisements that I had left here.

Originally posted 2010-10-21 15:22:20.

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‘Faggot’ humiliation?

As a queer-identified Kinsey 3 who has often called himself a fag the use of faggot in femdom humiliation scenarios is one of the few kinky things that squicks me. Most strongly because faggot was a term of abuse some of my lovers faced as boys in school. Possibly from the lips of the same men who now want it used against them.

I guess some purely heterosexual masochistic males want to be called faggot. But some of the men who crave this term of verbal abuse are surely bisexual and acknowledging their sexual orientation in the half-assed but only way they can.

I don’t think femdom faggot baiting is that common a fetish. But it does seem to be one of the more common offerings of the “Ha! Ha! Wanker!” school of telephone prodommes, phone sex operators.

Is it homophobic men who most crave homophobic humiliation?

Originally posted 2009-02-13 08:20:25.

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Gynosupremacy: gynarchy with an unequivocal label. Some gynosupremacists advocate lifetime chastity for men whose semen will be extracted for breeding purposes but never allowed an orgasm.

Then again there is Laura Goodwin.

Originally posted 2007-07-14 15:51:18.

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Female Domination for Fun

Male Nudity, CFNM, Humiliation, Embarrassment, Sperm Eating

So your husband says he wants to be submissive to you. (or you want him to be submissive to you) Well here is a list of things you may want to do with him, one at a time, as a proof of his submissive. This should all be done in loving, mutual fun way with the realization that arrest or public embarrassment can affect careers and relationships. So have fun, be careful and giggle and kiss a lot.

1. He should be shaved. Yes, that’s right, his pubic hair should be shaved off and he should keep himself smooth and stubble free from now on. This is none negotiable and should be understood from the beginning.

2. Right after he shaves for the first time, have him sit on the edge of the bed, lie back and pull up his knees. You’re going to stick your finger into his ass. Yes, you’re going to finger fuck him. You will need a rubber glove and some lubricant, Vaseline, butter, olive oil, whatever. He is going to be extremely embarrassed to present himself to you in this fashion, his anus is a very private spot, not seen or touched by anyone. That is why you’re doing this. Once he is in position and holding his cheeks apart, lubricate your middle finger and his asshole and slowly press your finger to his opening. Slowly start to enter him. Look into his eyes as you penetrate him.

   Talk to him and have him talk to you as you both experience his submissiveness to you and this act of penetration.. Think about what he is allowing you to do, he’s naked, shaved and your finger fucking his ass. Pull on his cock and balls as you slide in. Go in as far as you can, slowly. Look into his eyes when you are in all the way and tell him you are in all the way. Ask him how he likes it.. This may be the first time you are inside his body, enjoy the power exchange.

3. He needs a good cock teasing at least once a day. This doesn’t mean he’s going to have an orgasm, in fact he is not. But he needs to be hard and brought to the edge of an orgasm at least one time a day, either by you, or for you. “For you”, means brining himself close to orgasm and stopping. Yes, this means masturbating for you, on demand. Two things here. One, he must learn to tell you he is about ready to orgasm and ask you to stop and he must learn to masturbate for you, and stop.

   Orgasm control is a powerful psychological aspect for a submissive man, and you too will learn to enjoy your teasing and control. It is another important power exchange with you controlling the single physical aspect of maleness that is maleness alone, a hard cock and orgasm at will.

   This also means that unsupervised masturbation must end, and he will only orgasm with your permission. Orgasm denial is part of cock teasing, but remember, orgasm denial without teasing is just ignoring him. Touching, nudity and teasing must go along with denial. Denial is your ultimate control, his ultimate surrender.

4. Nudity, him naked, you dressed. This should be done at awkward times, odd times, whenever you like, when he least expects it. Obviously if you’re going to tease his cock, make him strip. Make him strip even if you are not going to tease him. If he doesn’t usually sleep naked, he should now.

   In fact, anytime he is in your bedroom he should be naked. At some point, make sure you bring him to every room in the house naked. Lead him to each room naked, by his cock, the basement, laundry room and garage, all will now hold memories of your control.

5. Nudity outside is more problematic, but should be attempted. Start with outside of your home late at night. Be careful to pick a night when you know your neighbors are away. Again, at night put him in the passenger seat of your car and tell him to strip. Put the seat all the way back. Pick some back roads and drive slowly and carefully, and DON’T drink. If you like, a highway may give a glimpse of his nudity to a trucker. He wouldn’t like that, you may.

   Reach over with one hand and keep him hard reminding him not to cum. Don’t stay out long, fifteen minutes should be enough. Pick a secluded place where you can stop to allow him to dress so he doesn’t interfere with your driving.

   A nude beach could also be fun. He will be naked of course and you should be in your swim suit to emphasize his submissiveness. Remember he is shaved, so anyone who sees the two of you walking together knows who’s in charge.

   How embarrassing would a hard on make this? The object here is to be seen by as many as possible, so walk, don’t sit in the sun. Well you can sit on the beach and enjoy the sun, but not until everyone has seen him naked.

6. Embarrassment is also part of the fun obviously. Be careful not to embarrass him or yourself in font of friends or co-workers. This must be done carefully and for the fun aspect of your dominance.

   Ordering wine and his dinner at a restaurant is a simple start, and one he will enjoy. While with friends for drinks or dinner, whisper in his ear, “what do you think they would think knowing you’re shaved, knowing I control your orgasms”.

   After his yearly physical ask him if the doctor said anything about his shaving.. If he works out in a gym, ask him if other men are shaved and what they look like, are they big, circumcised, big balls, small balls, compare them to him.

   Having him talk about how horny he is, his being shaved, his orgasm denial or seman eating (see below) at normal or none sexual times is fun.

   If you have one girlfriend you can trust, and you probably don’t, arrange an “accidental” flash. Remember, it only appears as an accident to your girlfriend, your guy might not like it but he’ll cooperate. He is in gym shorts and a tee shirt and that is it. You can grab him and tickle him in front of your friend, accidentally pulling down his shorts exposing him, then after all the hooting and hollering, pull then all the way down and step on them. He will have to step out and run.

   Remember, he knows this is coming so he may be hard, and of course he is shaved. You can have a quick laugh with your friend and tell her you better see if he is OK. Go to the bedroom, strip him, grab his cock and lead him back to your girlfriend, saying, “well you have already seen him naked, you may as well get a better look.”

   Doing the same thing in front of a couple would be more than twice as embarrassing but very hard to arrange.

7. Proving his submissiveness can be tested with the above situation, but should also include most if not all of the list to follow.

You should orgasm much more than he does. That goes without question, his submissiveness definitely translates into you cumming more. You need to teach him how to orally please you better, and as often as you like. I know this may seem odd, but a tongue up your ass will feel great, and he wants to do it for you, so tell him that is now a part of your oral pleasure. Don’t worry, you don’t’ have to do it for him.

Back rubs, foot rubs, leg rubs, body massages, anything you think you might like you should try, and then do as much as you like. He loves every minutes of doing anything for you, especially if he is physically close to you.

Help with house work, yard work and generally being a better partner is assumed. He can also learn to cook with your teaching. He is not your slave, but he can be a more than a 50% partner in the house holds chores you don’t like doing. Delegate, delegate, delegate. He will not do things if you don’t tell him to do them, and show him how you want them done. He can’t read your mind, so tell him when he is doing something wrong, but more importantly tell him when he is doing something right, and ask him to do it again.

It’s not all about sex but a lot of his submission is. You need to talk to him and ask him what turns him on or off. Ask him what he expects and wants. Tell him what you expect and want. Keep an open mind and don’t freak out if he has some silly fetishes. He is sharing everything with you and no one else, so even if it seems pretty odd or nasty, try it, make him do it, whatever.

There is only one thing that all submissive men must learn to do. You should have this conversation with him in a none sexual environment, so the reality of the requirement is finite, unequivocal and a given. Every time he orgasms, he must consume his ejaculate.

That’s right, you heard me correctly. If he ejaculates in you he must lick you clean. If he ejaculates on you, he must lick you clean. If you masturbate him or he masturbates for you, you must feed him his semen. If you give him a blowjob, don’t swallow, give him a big, cum filled kiss and have him swallow. At some point you should make him shoot into a cup or a glass and he must drink it down.

This requirement for all submissive men does two things. It puts a real price on his orgasms, and it shows your acceptance of your dominance, and his acceptance of your dominance, no matter who brought the topic up. This again is none negotiable and should be explained to him when he first approaches you with his desire to be submissive to you or your desire to lead the relationship. If he does not accept this simple requirement, he is not really submissive.

He should be reminded that eating his ejaculate is expected, and if he can’t, then all his other submissive desires are not going to happen. It is the only test and proof that he is sincere in his desire to be submissive, and your only requirement showing you are to assume the leadership role in the relationship.

Remember, a loving face fucking with a semen filled pussy is a gift. Your man going to sleep with a soaked face and the taste of cum in his mouth must become common place. This is for his own good.

There is much, much more of course, but you will discover things along the way. These are just a few suggestions but a good starting point for exploring this new aspect of your relationship. The most important thing is to have fun.

If he approached you, he has a need. If you approached him, you have a desire to change the course of your relationship. Either way, if it is done in a loving fashion, it will be fun and bring you closer. So enjoy.

By LoveMyWife

How to Dominate a Submissive Male (Female Domination for Fun)
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Do you feel that you want – that you need – for a top to apply discipline to your life that you aren’t capable of yourself?

That you must have a top – master, mistress – to force you to behave in a mature manner? Almost a daddy or mommy: like a parent or teacher?

Would you want the top to decide your:

• Clothing
• Diet
• Finances
• Leisure
• Physical Health

Do you think you could obey so much control?

What is most important: that the top is very strict or exerts authority as a form of love?

Would you accept regular discipline: physical and emotional punishment?

Or:

Do you want the power exchange confined only to scenes?

A lifestyle relationship that encourages your independence and individuality?

Originally posted 2012-11-03 05:15:48.

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Woman Led Totalitarian Relationship Rules

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(More Jim of Germany Femdom Art)

The absolute and binding rules:

(More Bernard Montorgueil Femdom art)

(Eric Stanton F/m art at Femdom Artists)

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Penis and Testicle Punishments

Caverject

Viagra is not efficient in this regard as it requires the subject feel stimulated and aroused. Prostaglandin works much better – it is an injectable which can only be acquired with a prescription and is injected into the cavernosum (shaft). It causes an uncontrollable erection which generally will not leave for hours, regardless of pain, fear, etc.

Too much “Caverject” (brand name for prostaglandin) can cause priapism – if an erection lasts more than three or four hours, get thee to an emergency room – it can be fixed if not left in that condition. It can become predictable though – 3/10 of a cc will cause about an hour long erection in my case – from there it goes up – 7/10 causes about three hours worth – reactions from individual to individual vary widely though. This is only available through a prescription and users are trained in its application by the prescribing urologist.

TENS Unit

A good TENS works most admirably. Get one with two outputs. If the outputs have a common return, connect it to a short U-shaped electrode inserted into the urethra; the sources are connected to each of the nipples.

Use plenty of electrode gel. Start at a low frequency, about 10 Hz. and VERY SLOWLY ramp upwards in intensity (always use variable or intermittent mode). When at the highest level tolerable, bring up the frequency to 80 or so Hz.

Avoiding orgasm is NOT an option. It is forced, with 100% success. If the unit has independent dual outputs, put one polarity of each output on each nipple (with plastic clothespins and good jell contact); and one of each of the other outputs in the urethra as before and in the rectum. Ramp up pulse width, intensity to max as before at low frequency (which *prevents* orgasm and is utterly painful); then ramp up the frequency. Go slowly with the intensity.

Faster with the frequency from low to high. It is exquisitely excruciating.

Testicle Torment

If you squeeze the testicles, don’t forget the PLASTIC clothespins on the nipples!! MOST important! You can wrap rubber bands around the jaws for more effect. Do they slip off? Slice off the tips so that they are square on the end. Go to a costume supply store and get some “spirit gum” and paint on nipple before it gets sweaty. The clothespin will HOLD and only come off with a fight (or alcohol).

Erect Penis Punishment

The most insidious erection torture device is as close as the soda pop aisle. remove the cap; see the ring that is left on? Remove that ring with some prying, and put on the flaccid penis. You may find it is easier if you take a plastic baggie, push the open end through the toothed ring and wrap around the flaccid penis; pull the baggie through the ring(s) with the penis following. There are a wide variety of rings. Put a couple of those puppies around the penis, tie him in for the night, and the heaviest pain pig will be screaming for mercy by 3 AM!

The trouble with too tight tying of genitals is that they go numb, with some remote chance of lasting damage from lack of blood circulation (symptom: cold and blue).

Electric Dog Collar

Of late there has been increased usage of electric dog collars (remote control), strapped and locked around the scrotal sack as a means of effective control. Used properly, one of these will drop an man to the ground and curl him up in the fetal position. Applied a few times, the fear of experiencing it again generally extracts complete obedience.

Back to the electric dog collar, this can be used as an orgasm preventative. When it appears that the subject is about to orgasm, the touch of a button on the remote sends plenty of voltage through the testicles which will generally defer an orgasm. If the orgasm isn’t stopped by this, make it non pleasurable. This can be done by squeezing the tip of the penis at the point of orgasm – when the cum cannot escape, it is pumped back into the bladder by the contractions – completely harmless but very uncomfortable – pleasureless ejaculation.

Male Genital Torment Techniques
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(I’m very busy so I post something that someone submitted to me for publication.)

What is this secret place of dark desire hidden deep within my soul? What brings me crawling to its rusty iron gate day after day, night after night trying to resist that delicious dose of Female Domination? Is it the heady smell of sweet surrender that lingers above this forbidden land like the heavy mist creeps in to obscure some lonely, distant moor? It is a sweet aroma to be sure, but it demands a heavy price for its intoxicating scent.

If it would only remain hidden behind those layered walls of guilt and shame, there would be no need to fear what i might do next. If i could only look the other way when an image suddenly appears to trigger a response from that secret, sinister place hidden way down deep inside. If i could only block my ears from hearing words that rush in to beat the drums for blind obedience, i might be saved. For these stir the air that carries the aroma; provocative words and images are what starts it swirling behind those wicked walls. This is what creates the current that carries it through that ominous gate that is but a pseudo sentry keeping nothing in and nothing out. This is where that sinful scent begins its relentless ride upon that seductive gentle breeze to find me.

With infinite patience and malice, it seeks me like it has so many times before to titillate, taunt and tease. There was a time when it came at me with a sudden intensity that refused to be denied; when it surged ahead to suck me in and hold me in its grasp. But that time has slowly faded. Endless journeys have worn a crooked path that has become an easy trail to follow. Where’s the rush? Where is the need to hurry when the one it seeks can so easily be found? And, although i attempt to shield myself with the strength of my convictions, why do i always feel the need to relinquish my control? With resolve and determination i struggle on; i bravely refuse the temptation to grovel at Her feet. But like all brash proclamations, the words are easier said than done. For one who has never tasted the addictive dose of the Superior Female’s rule, there is a fighting chance. But once that forbidden fruit is eaten, the taste lingers on the palette making everything else seem maudlin, banal and bland. Once you’ve felt the rush, you are only too eager to give in, give up and submit. You have only to fall to your knees willing to accept the price that must be paid to enter Her sacred garden where She rules with all the power and glory.

If She is strong enough to take my power, if She is strong enough to demand my obedience, then i must serve at the feet of the One who has captured me. i know it is wrong and it is this very dose of delicious degradation that drives me to feel the sting of Her hand and a longing to be aroused by Her words of humiliation that will have me groveling at Her feet to worship the Feminine power that i can never have. i beg for the privilege of submitting to the conquering Heroin to receive the discipline i so justly deserve, and so desperately covet.

Originally posted 2007-08-26 16:13:16.

The Superior Female’s Rule
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By Herbootlicker

Fellatio is degrading only because we think it is. If Mistress enjoys it, and wishes to suck Her slave’s cock, that is Her right.

It’s also Her right to stop five seconds before he climaxes, and let him suffer whilst She laughs (the slave is immobilized, of course, all the while, so suffering is all he can do).

The suggestion about spitting it all back into his mouth and making him swallow it is priceless. Thank You, Mistress, this worthless creature kisses Your feet in eternal gratitude.

The same effect is achieved when Mistress is pleased to have Her male in fact fuck Her, then forces him to lick Her clean. If for some reason She prefers not to be fucked, then there is always forced slave masturbation on Her feet, shoes or boots, followed by his licking Her feet or footwear clean.

The special quality of this is two-fold. First, males (as all Women know) lose their keen excitement as soon as they ejaculate. It’s no longer exciting sexually — but to whipped and forced to eat the cum becomes truly and genuinely humiliating!

Second, a male regards his sperm as his most important product, the essence of his genetic identity, and all that. Instinctively, he wants to deposit it in the womb of a female to procreate children carrying his own DNA into the world. But here’s what happens: his offering is spurned; he is made to spill it at the feet of his Goddess, who looks down on it, and him, as filthy dirt soiling Her immaculate Self.

The slave then must use his mouth and tongue, not a rag or mop, to clean this dirt from Her feet (or perhaps even from the floor at Her feet!) and swallow it, dashing his hopes of fathering a child.

When you combine those two thrusts of humiliation, a slave truly feels like less than nothing. For a real masochist, it’s heaven!

Response to Fellatio and Dominant Women.

Originally posted 2009-11-09 20:00:23.

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