I know that some of you who believe in female superiority believe that the human race would prosper conspicuously under female rulership. Perhaps you will enjoy this article on the BBC:
What if women ruled the world?
What If Women Ruled the World?
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I have written about aspects of my life with Dolly before, but things between us are subtly changing and I would value very much the thoughts, comments and suggestions of both men and women reading this on the situation now and on where it might lead. We used to argue a great deal, but mentally I admit that I SURRENDERED to Dolly completely some weeks ago. Day-to-day things between us are much much easier now. It is as if there is nothing to argue about anymore, we just do things Dolly’s way. If she bosses me around I do what she says instead of complaining about her tone or resisting her wishes. I have to hold my tongue sometimes, but I am becoming used to that.
I told her this to her face recently, saying that she was the boss at home and that I would always try to do things her way. She looked at me with her bright blue eyes and clearly liked my submission a lot – as if I had finally finally realized the way we obviously had to live .
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She prefers me not to orgasm often. She says that she has noticed that if I squirt I am less attentive and less obliging to her generally, but she has also noticed that if I am deprived too much I become difficult, so she says she tries to measure things to keep me sweet.
- Only, she does not seem to realize that men want to have sex often; and she seems to rate my needs in line with hers – and she has always been able to go a long time without needing sex.
Since 1st Jan 2006 for instance, she has had SEX with me ONLY 4 times, on 8th Feb, 19th March, 5th May and 6th May (obviously a sexy time of month) – about once every 7 weeks.
She has allowed me to SQUIRT just one other time, on 18th June; although she tolerated two other accidental squirts, on 21st Jan and 5th Feb – she was there and she was thrashing my bottom when it unavoidably “happened”.
She reminds me to be faithful to her and good and restrained generally by keeping me in “frilly panties” as she calls them. That is, she discovered a while ago that I was fascinated by girls’ underwear and I now wear panties daily as a reminder of her control over me and as a physically restraining factor in bed. Firm pairs of panties keep the male parts more or less strapped in, and less likely to protrude in bed and bother Dolly. They are also a reminder of who is in charge of the home and sexual part of our relationship – the female.
At times, when full of lust in the night, I used to cling to her in bed and slowly grind myself against her with frustration and passion, but she has now FORBIDDEN that and any “grinding” is now against the mattress only, quietly, or purely mental.
Dolly doesn’t seem to be in the mood for sex with me much (usually too tired), but keeps me “calm” by way of regular severe hairbrushings on my bare bottom, panties pulled down by her, lying on the bed in front of her – a little thrill for me in lieu of sex she says, and usually in lieu of squirting too.
Very very rarely does she allow me to squirt on these occasions, and they finish with Dolly showing me in the mirror my severely reddened bottom and sometimes upper thighs too in the mirror, with my part standing hard and straight, ignored by her, except our of curiosity to see whether there is any moisture at the tip…
I find myself begging for more morsels of sexual attention, and Dolly may sigh with annoyance, but “allow me” to kiss her panties – more often just on the back over her deliciously curvy bottom, and sometimes on the front too, where the cotton covers her mysterious pussy which I have not even seen for many many weeks, maybe two months or more… She lifts up her nightdress just enough for me to kneel by her feet and perform my acts of worship and restrained lust before telling me, “That’s enough.” Her panties are invariably white cotton, like mine (she likes me to wear the same styles that she does) and plain or with intricate feminine patterns which I love. My eyes seek out the folds in he panties which indicate that her pussy cleft is just beneath, trying to kiss her panties sexually enough that she might become aroused and we might find ourselves making passionate love on our bed.
In my deprived state, kissing even her bottom through her panties becomes a HUGE thrill for me and for my unsatiated desire for her.
Other favours she may grant from time to time include stroking my bits through my panties before she turns over and goes to sleep, curled up facing the other direction; or tweaking my nipples enough to make me pant with desire and buck against her like a wild horse – before she similarly ignores me.
I have read about the “SUBZONE,” and this is where I must be when Dolly treats me like this. I enter a mental zone in which I will do anything for her, gladly, willingly and with love. My mind and body wallow as if in a warm swamp of love, lust and tenderness. Part of me wants to orgasm immediately to relieve the stresses of frustration, but part of me luxuriates in the waves of dreamlike repressed desire, avoiding the sudden halt which an orgasm would unavoidably bring.
The next day, I will spend the whole day or the next days thinking of Dolly and wondering whether she might grant me any favours that evening or whether I will merely tuck myself up in bed, panty-clad and hugging my firm, unyielding woman, my bits hard in my underwear, my mind luxuriating in repressed lust.
I now wear the apron more than Dolly does, as I do more and more chores around the house and offer to do things while she relaxes with the newspaper or a magazine.
I last saw and entered Dolly’s pussy 7 weeks ago, 6th May. She won’t even let me see it these days (and she wears underwear in bed, so I do not get glimpses). “I’m not like a picture in a magazine,” she said when I gently asked her on Tuesday if I could just SEE and maybe kiss her pussy.
I last squirted nearly 2 weeks ago and I have no idea when she may allow me to squirt again. “You will have to wait and see!” she replied when I last asked. It may be a week or it may be a month, or it may be even longer. I truthfully have no idea. If I ask, I may annoy her. If I do not ask, she may think I am not interested. It is a difficult balance to find.
I love Dolly with all my heart and with all my desire. But I do not know what she will do with me, and whether she will come to want sex more often.
Some months ago I was concerned she might be seeing another man and that this was the reason she was less interested in sex. I never completely got to the bottom of that question, but I feel that now at least she only has me, but is enjoying keeping my sexuality under control in this way.
Do many women follow this path? Do many men “surrender” as I have done? Our arguments have disappeared, so have I found the answer to a happy relationship or have I merely given in to a dominant, bossy woman who likes me wrapped around her finger?
Where will we go next? Perhaps she knows. I do not. That in itself is a thrill for me.
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She looked at me with her clear blue eyes several days later, as she became used to the idea, and told me that, “You said something very nice to me the other night…if you meant it…”
I persuaded her over many days that I did mean it…
Our relationship improved dramatically as I set about finding ways to do as much as possible for her around the house, and our sex life began slowly to improve. She even told me that I looked “sexy” wearing her apron, that is doing the washing up and cleaning the kitchen while she flicked through magazines or played on the internet.
We began to cuddle in bed again, with Dolly accepting my cuddling actively, rather than passively putting up with it while lying on her side facing the other way as she had been doing.
We even made love properly twice on two consecutive nights. The first time I squirted almost immediately I entered into her, and she was very angry and disappointed.
Although I tried to explain that weeks and weeks without squirting made me as sensitive as a hair trigger, she had no sympathy for me whatsoever and just told me that I was no good. The second time I performed much better and made her come for the first time in many many months, although she said that it was only a “small” orgasm.
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That sex was over a month ago now and now our relationship seems to be deteriorating again, with sex disappearing off the list of possibilities.
She again became generally reticent about me in bed… For instance she said that she “doesn’t like” me eating her out and that she never has – although she used to always love it. This denying the facts confuses me and seems to be a new way of keeping me at bay. She will not let me, so I cannot do it and I do not do it. And I am not allowed to “squirt” without her consent so I do not have orgasms.
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We had a big argument recently in which I answered back angrily when she was being angry with me about something. She has always said that she will not tolerate “backchat”. She flew at me in a rage and I had to take cover. She immediately imposed a number of sanctions on me such as confiscating my car keys until further notice, meaning that I had to find other methods of transport if I needed to go anywhere, and confiscating my house key so that I had to rely on her letting me in if she chose to.
She moved to our spare room, which is larger than our bedroom, and refused me any access to the room or to her. She has told me that I have gone too far and that she will never, ever love me and that I had better get used to existing in a loveless relationship, which is the best she will be able to do. She even suggested that I move out of the house and visit her only at pre-approved times, but I begged her to let me stay.
She’s told me she always had doubts about me, she doesn’t think our attitudes or desires or priorities are the same. She knows that I want to be loved but she doesn’t think she ever can love me, although she would be prepared to struggle on for a bit if I promised to be “good” all the time. She knows that needing to be loved is my biggest need.
I took her out for dinner last Saturday night to a popular French restaurant and she got really angry with me because she said I ate my food too fast and drank too much wine. I managed to placate her though and she agreed to share our bed that night although she wrapped herself up well in one of her long cotton nightdresses with panties firmly on underneath. I slept naked in bed because it was hot and because I hoped something might happen…
We cuddled a bit, but both fell alseep soon because we were tired. In the morning I was hard; I pressed against her and she complained in an irritated voice, “There is a big rod sticking into my back; that is not something I want to feel first thing in the morning.” I tried to tuck it between her thighs through her nightdress and she pushed me away as if I were an annoying dog. She asked, “Why do I have to sleep in this bed, when I have had a nice big bed all to myself…
…It’s too hot, I slept badly…” she continued. “Perhaps you should have taken off your nightdress?” I suggested. “I need my nightdress,” she hissed in reply. I tried to kiss her, but she turned her head and told me that I had been very bad and would be IGNORED.
I am now sleeping by myself again, there has been no repeat of our bed-sharing experiment. Dolly shows no sign of giving into me or of softening her attitude. I plan to tell her soon that I will do whatever, anything, absolutely anything she wants if she will only try to love me and try to appreciate me. The pain of being so IGNORED and so undervalued and so in love and so in LUST with Dolly, while continuing to honour my vow NEVER to orgasm without her permission in her presence, is hard to bear. It seems she may only settle for total submission and even then will not love me or try to.
I thought at one stage, as mentioned in a previous post, that she may have or have had a lover. I now believe that that never in fact happened, but I remain terrified that it might. She now again rejects me as a person, while accepting my services in all ways, except sexual.
If I try to be more assertive she slaps me down, sometimes physically. If I am submissive she seems to “accept” what I do for her, but as if that is what every man should do for his wife or girlfriend. She never THANKS me for doing anything, “What? For doing what you should be doing anyway?” She does not seem to respect me at all. The truth is that I worship Dolly and I love her, but she appears just to see me as some sort of mistake.
I have now gone five weeks without orgasm, and since January 1 have only had sex a tiny number of times, maybe five times, in 9 months. I have not even seen Dolly in her underwear for over a month. She used to let me, albeit reluctantly and impatiently, kiss her bottom through her panties and to kiss gently the front of her panties. That is now my DREAM.
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My PLAN now is to fall at her feet again, RENEW my SURRENDER vows, tell her that I will show my REGRET and OBEDIENCE to her in ANY way she wants. I will tell her that I will LOVE, HONOUR and OBEY her, UNCONDITIONALLY.
I will sleep on the floor; I will sleep in the cellar; she can punish me in ANY way she thinks appropriate. I will do EVERYTHING in the house for her if she will only give me another CHANCE.
I will tell her that I hate her being angry with me so much that if she thinks I have transgressed, I would prefer she THRASHED me or FLOGGED me as hard as she likes, with any implement or any SEVERITY she wants.
“Please accept me back.” I will say. “Please do not IGNORE me. Please do not look at me with DISDAIN. Please let me back into your BED. Please LOVE me.”
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Can anyone reading this help me to get it right with Dolly? How can I get her to love me? How can I get her to sleep with me again? I need to put my plan into operation soon; is there anything else I can do?
Are any real, fierce, dominating WOMEN like Dolly reading this? What would they want from me? I need help.
I cannot be the only MAN in this situation; can any men give me advice?
Please help me if you can. Please comment, in any way you like. It cannot be worse than what I get from Dolly.
Orgasm Denial Makes Him Confused & Desperate
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Given that women are most often thought of as nurturers I’m surprised that in female domination – at least the imaginations of submissive men – they often take on the quality of psychosexual vampires.
Surely that wasn’t how the guys saw their mothers?
I suspect this begins in the early or mid teens. When the hormones kick in and the difference between what the body wants and most people can accomplish becomes oppressive. It is in the male’s teenage years that he is apt to develop such weird and un pleasant images of womanhood.
Perhaps – in a general, not just F/m sense – the greatest reason to hope our society eventually matures in the handling of things sexual.
Originally posted 2008-06-05 11:25:58. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
Vampires
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Physical Discipline
Punching a submissive man may seem extreme but it is a sure way to make a point. Nothing expresses disapproval more clearly than a fist.
A man can be safely beaten about the shoulders, thighs and chest. Even his stomach can stand a blow: especially if he needs to lose weight.
A dominant woman can enjoy a good workout by attaching her submale in position and using him as a punching bag. He will never doubt his role again.
For his special sins the impact of your fist into his crotch focusing on his testicles will leave him repentent and fearful to offend again.
Hitting a man in the head is not a good idea. Especially if he is good-looking. A backhanded slap to the hide of his head is best.
F/m Punishment: Punching the Male
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Dominant Women’s Club Punishment Session
Assemblies and groups of dominant women may gather to offer one another encouragement, advice and share their experiencing in controlling and disciplining submissive husbands and boyfriends.
A group setting can be used to deepen the punishment of an especially disobedient, rude or otherwise unsatisfactory submissive male.
The submale will feel extra shame when his nudity and vulnerability is exposed in public. His ears will burn as the women talk about his body. Offer the spanking encouragement and force in punishing her submissive man.
The observing women should retain an neutral detached tone, as if it isn’t a human being that is being spanked and whipped. This will increase the punished male’s awareness of his own lowliness and unimportance.
After his spanking the submale may be allowed to serve the gathered ladies refreshments. To wait on them as a servant.s
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Wife Worship Techniques
1. Give her the benefits of your submission without expecting any domination in return. Let her feel what it is like to have her loving mate tend to her nails, draw her bath, cook her meals, brush her hair, all without any expectation. Women are scary in how easily they pick up on feelings and she may just clue into the d/s energy even if she has no name for the feelings.
2. Do not discourage any kind of reaction to your submission. A loving wife may well react to your catering by responding in kind. Let her feel what it is like to serve, if she wishes, without expressing disapproval. She may come to understand your perspective.
3. Be subtle. Why put labels on things, like BDSM or torture except to push your own buttons. Let her feel your adoration without any expectation or scary labels being applied. Instead of dropping to all fours to kiss her feet, why not go rent a movie she would like, make popcorn and sit at her feet with the one bowl. Don’t make a big deal of it, just see how it fits for you as a couple.
4. Get off the internet for a time. Commit to her, not to some unrealistic fantasy that could never be and if it did come to be, you might not like.
5. Communicate. I was an idiot. My wife had as much at stake in our 15+ year marriage as did I. We both love each other and there was no way, I now know, she would let my kink drive us apart. It took a long while before I could tell her directly I was not genuinely happy unless she was in charge, but we did get there. I suspect many women would be thrilled to learn their husband’s fantasies and that they will be living them out with their mates. My wife is still a little hurt I took so long to “come out” to her with my desires.
6. Submit. By this I mean, accept that she will ultimately determine how far and in what direction you go. My wife is not into harsh punishment. She is more apt to cancel rewards (like a spanking) than she is to hurt me if I disobey. As it turns out, this is actually a better way to control me as otherwise I’d be provoking to get punishment.
Accept that part of your submission may be that having learned your fantasy she may not go entirely in the direction of your choosing. Knowing that your wife is genuinely in charge of how you will submit is a lot more satisfying in the long run than checking off a list of things you want her to do to you.
7. Relax and remember how it was to start. Certainly in the beginning, DS cannot replace every aspect of a loving relationship. Let it start as adventurous play and mature into something more permanent in the long term. So many men are at the top of the BDSM learning curve and forget that this is new to their wives and how even a little d/s “play” can thrill a beginner. Let her have her first experiences without disgruntlement or dissatisfaction as to how “mild” the play may seem to a jaded internet junkie.
I have found that mild but very real submission to my wife is more exciting and satisfying than any contrived hard core chat room scene. You won’t get to hang up on this woman the minute you cum. This woman will know your desires even when you are in another context. There is a multiplier effect at work when you submit to your wife that is well worth a little patient love.
(Old newsgroup post.)
Submissive Men: Seduce Your Wife
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Analingus: one of the ways a submissive man can worship and give physical pleasure to his Mistress.
See more F/m analingus drawings.
A is for Analingus (Female Led Alphabet)
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Boot Worship: many submissive man’s most beloved tanglible form of worship and adoration of his Mistress. He desires not to merely lick and kiss her boots but ot help her but them on, polish them, serve as her bootblack.
See more dominant women wearing boots.
B is for Bootworship (Female Led Alphabet)
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A Nashville woman was visiting a friend. They were drinking cocktails. And she relaxed enough to confide to her friend the Femdomish play that she and her husband engage in.
After an extra margarita or two, she persuaded me to talk about my sex life with my husband—which is very satisfying and fun, by the way. Much to my surprise, I found myself telling her that we engage in some “kinky” activities—I spank him, he sometimes wears panties, etc. She was absolutely shocked and told me that my husband would never be a “real” man and that he was almost certainly gay. To my astonishment, she has told several mutual friends about my confession, and now I suspect people are laughing behind our backs.
Slate, Dear Prudence: Prudie counsels a woman whose husband’s bedroom habits have become gossip fodder.
There are submissive guys who want badly to share with people how they are dominated by wife or girlfriend. Good thing they manage to keep their mouths shut.
Originally posted 2010-09-08 06:02:54. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
Femdom Couple Outed
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Cuckoldry: some submissive men assert this as the natural right of woman. Perhaps it is their craving for the deepest humiliation the most profound sense of lowliness and inferiority that causes cuckolding fantasies to burn so brightly in their minds.
C is for Cuckoldry (Female Led Alphabet)
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Strap-on Dildo: the physical reversal of sex roles. Woman becoming the top, the aggressor. Man the penetrated inferior.
D is for Dildo (Female Led Alphabet)
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Eric Stanton: an F/m artist whose ability to recreate the fantasies and feelings of heterosexual male submissive have rarely been equaled.
Visit the Eric Stanton Archive.
E is for Eric Stanton (Female Led Alphabet)
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Feminization: the submissive male’s desire to be ‘forced’ to dreaa like a female. Some men wish only to wear women’s lingerie. Others to find their bodies enclosed by stockings, skirts, blouses, corsets and to wear heels. Many wish to become a sissymaid, to be used by a woman as a servant / slave.
Many, many more drawings of sissified submissive males.
F is for Feminization (Female Led Alphabet)
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Head of Household: this is the core experience of female led relationships. The woman – wife or girlfriend – is the boss. She makes the final decisions. Perhaps in consultation with her submissive male. (True of most real RLRs.) Or as domestic dictator with no regards to the feelings or opinions of the male. (Typical lonely male fantasy.)
H is for Head of Household (Female Led Alphabet)
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Inferiority: if women are superior then men must be inferior. So goes a sexually arousing syllogism. Some submissive men see them as a lesser person who needs guidance and control from a woman. Others envision themselves as abject and degraded creature who is worthless and deserves pain and slavery.
I is for Inferiority (Female Led Alphabet)
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(MyBlogLog shows this to be the most popular page on this site.)
Ideally a female supremacist wife who keeps your cock locked up in a CB6000 when is isn’t ruining your wife.
That is what the recent Google search stats suggest many hoping to find here.
Ruined orgasms if I remember what I’ve read involve masturbation where the pressure of the hand is removed just prior to ejaculation diminishing the thrill. Sounds like an esoteric art to me but certainly deliciously cruel in intent. Though some may regard forced orgasmless ejaculation using a device like the Aneros prostate massage something nearly the same.
There’s also another kind of milking that is rather the opposite of the ruined orgasm. Forcing a man to masturbate repeatedly – or perhaps masturbating him – until his penis begins to hurt. Another interesting form of erotic torment.
Oh, the mighty phallus: please it, confine it, hurt it – funny how it is so often the center of attention.
You might want to look at my summary or orgasm ruination and milking kRuined Orgasms Theory & Practice
Originally posted 2008-05-14 14:00:32. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
Ruined Orgasm Denial Wife
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Jay Em: The spanking drawings of Jay Em best* embody certain visions of female led relationships. The wife really his head of household, a dominant woman who controls her submissive man. And she’s a stern domestic disciplinarian who uses her hand, belt, strap, whip to insure his humility and obedience.
(I’m sure some would award the accolade to Barb.)
More Jay Em FLR domestic discipline.
J is for Jay Em (Female Led Alphabet)
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Kneeling: man on his knees before woman. Expressing his worship and adoration of her. Demonstrating his repentance for offending or defying her will. In position for a disciplinary spanking. Often on his knees bodily and forever kneeling before her in his heart.
K is for Kneeling (Female Led Alphabet)
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Loving Female Authority: one of the distinctive qualities of female-led relationships is the benign inequality between male and female.It is affection for him that prompts the woman to take charge of the man’s wife: to guide him, lead him and even to punish him. The submissive man responds with grateful adoration. An FLR is a form of romantic authoritarianism the prompts happiness between two people with complementary personalities.
More F/m illustrations by Karl Franz Kuna.
L is for Loving Female Authority (Female Led Alphabet)
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