Sissy: Why do I have to wear girls’ panties for a spanking?
Her: Because you are a sissy and sissies wear girls panties.
What more answer does a silly sissy need?
Panty Lines is available from Princess Productions.
Why Do Sissy Males Wear Panties When Spanked?
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
One of the most unlikely baffling F/m questions that I’ve ever found online:
Does a dominatrix use the playboy bunny symbol to show she is or was a dominatrix?
It is hard to imagine a ProDomme who would use the Playboy bunny as a symbol of female domination.
Originally posted 2010-07-17 09:36:45.
Playboy Bunny Dominatrix?
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
That BDSM is ever so slowly coming out of the closet should be good for young submissive guys. Munch groups and fetish parties should prove venues at which they can finally actualize their erotic need for submission. But even in kink the tendency is for the lowest common denominator, the most banal and venal impulses to find expression.
Too much of fetish venue subculture seems to aim for the male to convert himself into machine for fulfilling cliché desires. Demanding that men master oddball minor skills is as rotten and silly as expecting dominant women to conduct life in PVC and leather.
I have to confess that part of me wants to see heterosexual men exploited by women in the context of “ha ha, you deserve it!” But even if they are hostage to their hormones they should have better. Really they need to experience miserable submission if they are going to wake up to reality.
Since most dominant women will never attend a fetish party and remain ignorant of the stereotypes – other perhaps than things they are averse to – a submissive man should seek to become more keenly aware of womankind, humankind, in general.
You may see yourself slaving away from sunrise to sunset. She’s probably thinking of someone who is fun to be around. A guy who wants to be bossed about 24/7 is pretty damned time-consuming.
Well … that makes ordinary time spent with the beloved sound awful. Those quiet times should be as good as any other. Submissive guys read porn and imagine it is all whippings, cunnilingus and being caged. Really it is hanging out, listening to music and being affectionate.
What special skill do you need? Being an agreeable human being. There will be many hours between whippings and clothespins and most will want to spend them pleasantly.
Once you are in a power exchange romance you’ll find – as we all do – that the real skill is in coping with the tedious, ordinary hours. And that coping with the quotidian is the greatest challenge and skill of them all.
Look for a dominant woman to like. Maybe to love if you are lucky. The submission is a given. Pleasure in her person will fill in all the details.
See also: The Lifestyle
Originally posted 2008-01-28 14:25:12.
Life isn’t a Fetish Party
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
Jay Em Female Led Corporal Punishment Gallery 1
Jay Em Mistress Wife / Submissive Husband Spanking Art 1 of 3
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
While you may not be able to convince the woman that you love to engage in a female on top power exchange relationship you might manage to persuade her to play.
Kinky erotic games are appearing more and more often in the mass media. And the depictions aren’t always unfavorable.
Your girlfriend or wife may be able to enjoy you kissing her feet, giving you a light spanking, maybe even wrapping some rope about your body.
But if – like religious fanatic who has just been converted – try to completely change the basis of your relationship and how the two of you live together you probably won’t get anything but a miserable mate.
There’s nothing wrong with play, don’t be a bore or frighten her. Talk to her about having fun.
Originally posted 2008-05-06 13:38:53.
Recreational Femdom
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
Female Led Corporal Punishment
I don’t ordinarly post art here but I know images of submissive men being spanked a very, very popular.
More F/m spanking drawings can be seen on Femdom Artists.
Women Spanking Submissive Men
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
Coping WIth the Lack of a Female Dominant Partner
While it hasn’t been that long since my submissiveness was awakened and I began to seek a relationship with a dominant woman, at times I find myself admitting that the possibility of me landing in a real life, day to day relationship with such a woman is actually rather bleak. I base this not only my own personal experiences to date but also on the reports I read in the blogs of other submissive men. Perhaps finding a confident, assertive, dominant woman interested in having a relationship with me is something of a pipe dream. As one of those men who came to understand and embrace my submissiveness in the middle age part of my life, with each passing month, I feel less optimistic about my chances.
There was the point for me when I decided that I was not going to get involved in another relationship with a vanilla woman who subscribed to patriarchal societies’ norm that it is the woman who is expected to fill the submissive role sexually and relationally. I have had two such relationships since my divorce and neither turned out to be meaningful or sustainable for me. Regardless of how open the women were to kink, the absence of an outlet for my submissive nature simply made both relationships untenable. Yet now I find myself in that all too familiar circumstance where I am craving intimacy and desiring sexual expression beyond what I can provide myself in ex parte. Fortunately for men, we can experience through masturbation a degree of sexual gratification quite comparable to that we receive from copulation. Yet after a period of time of going solo, a man begins as I have to crave intimacy with a woman.
These feelings have made me start to seriously contemplate something I have never really seriously considered before. I have never experienced much of a problem with finding vanilla women to date and become involved with. Actually I already am acquainted with two such women at this very moment who have made no secret of their willingness to explore a possible romantic relationship with me. For whatever reason I have always seem to get on well with the female gender and women seem to like me and enjoy my company. And of course, there is so much about women that I find agreeable and interesting. What I have started to give consideration to is finding a vanilla woman to get involved with in the context of a traditional relationship so that I can experience the intimacy I crave and then address my need for a submissive outlet by finding a professional dominatrix. Conceptually I do understand that professional dominatrices are not prostitutes. Yet realistically I know I have always considered paying for the services of one to be on the same level of paying for sex. Perhaps this is something I need a new perspective on. On the one hand, I know I can’t find true contentment without an outlet for submissive expression while on the other hand I miss intimate involvement with a woman within the context of a committed relationship. Perhaps, at least for me there is simply no alternative to seeking what I need from more than a single source so to speak. Unlike a man who was fortunate enough to come to terms with and embrace his submissiveness in say his mid-twenties, I am not free to pick up and move to a location where there are women more D/s friendly and aware. To do so would require sacrifices that I am unwilling and actually unable to make at my age. Besides that based on the experiences of another submissive guy whose blog I read regularly who has done that, it hasn’t appeared that he has experienced much success as a result and he is a good number of years younger than I.
I do understand of course that seeking to have my cake and eat it too so to speak is not without obstacles. Finding a professional would I think be comparatively simple and I am at a place in my life where that would be easily affordable. But in the interest of the kind of honesty required for a committed relationship, this would not be an aspect of my life that I could in good conscience hide from the vanilla woman I might seek out for an intimate relationship partner. I do feel it would require an incredibly secure and open woman to accept me seeing a professional dominatrix on a regular basis while simultaneously being involved with her. Part of the problem is of course that vanilla people simply don’t have an accurate perspective of D/s. To them it seems purely sexual and they cannot understand that while the sexual is involved to a degree, it isn’t really about sex it’s about the need to submit. She may understand sexual submission from a lifetime of filling the traditional role of the passive sexual partner in the bedroom expected of women in our society. Yet I know that would do little towards helping her to understand submission as I speak of it. Still there is a possibility that I might find a woman willing to accept this arrangement and perhaps that is a much more realistic possibility than me finding a dominant woman with whom to have a female led relationship.
The part of this idea that bothers me the most I suppose is the fact that in no small way, I will still be engaging in a bit of deception and dishonesty. I can perform in the role of the “typical” male as society defines that gender role, and on the basis of past experience, I can successfully fill the role of a sexual top. Yet in my heart of hearts I know that masquerading as a typical dominant male is not at all something I find meaningful or fulfilling and so by doing what I propose I will simply be indulging in a role play to get my needs for intimacy met. The question that remains is whether or not I will be able to rationalize that over the long-term.
(From an abandoned blog written by a guy named Joe.)
The Loneliness of a Single Submissive Man
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
Do you see any of your fantasies in Barbara O’Toole’s depictions of strong women and their submissive men?
Barbara O’Toole Female-Led Spanking Art 3 of 4
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
Female-Led Corporal Punishment Techniques
While of course the traditional OTK spanking favored by so many in female-led relationships is ordinarily satisfactory some dominant women have other approaches to punishing the human male.
When this Mistress’s male slave misbehaves or fails to perform in some significant fashion she uses the cage.
The miscreant male is locked in the cage. Not only does his freedom of movement suffer by the posture is uncomfortable. Over time the position becomes agonizing. Periodically his Mistress visits him to whip him.
After a few hours his penitence and contrition are profound.
While it takes a couples of days to recover from this punishment his Mistress sets him back to work the instant she unlocks the cage.
Originally posted 2013-02-10 10:16:02.
Female-Led Cage Spanking
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
Wife Rules the Home, Punishes the Husband
The original post itself isn’t much. But as of today it has prompted over ninety comments by dominant women and submissive men about the wife’s right to rule her husband and the discipline she may have to enforce to keep him respectful.
Read the comments on: Train Male Children to be Submissive.
Superior Wives, Inferior Husbands: Rulership & Punishment
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
My twitter feed will alert you to the publication of new notes on Female Led Relationships. Actually it streams updates of all my F/m, BDSM and kinky sites.
Subscribe to Female Led Relationships Twitter Feed.
Originally posted 2010-07-23 15:01:08.
Female Led Relationships on Twitter
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
(Note: Over the years I’ve heard from men desperate to the point of craziness to be cuckolded. I’m very skeptical because I don’t think many relationships can really handle the unique stresses. But if this is either your need or fantasy you should read the words of a woman who has achieved this with the man she married. Read the excerpts, buy the book. – I don’t get two cents out of this.)
Cuckold Letters by Vanessa Chaland: A collection of e-mails exchanged with a man who would become my cuckold husband. My interest in a twisted fantasy becomes a journey to becoming a dominant wife.
{Excerpt}…You don’t have to think about what to say and do and feel, I’ve decided for you. M is going to do me with that perfect rod for so long, and you know I will be sore and red and swollen. Your mouth will feel so soft and nice on my me after a good lay by such a man. Also, when his potent sperm is spilled across me, you’ll have little time to be sure that M’s seed doesn’t gain access to me. His creamy sperm mustn’t reach my pussy, for it would surely impregnate me. We can’t have that….. You have to clean it up……..
{Excerpt}…I really don’t see what the problem could be. You want my lover to keep coming and enjoying himself, right? I want to make myself look pretty for my new lover, and keep him coming back to stuff his HUGE self into me.
It’s no different than when I do anything else for him before a date. I shower for him. I shave my legs, for him. I do a bit more with my hair…..for him. It’s all for a purpose. The more I turn on my lover, the more excited he gets, ultimately, the more mess for you to deal with.
I enjoy humiliating you cocky, and so the more sperm milked from my lovers means all the more time I will have to treat you like the cuckold husband you are. All giving me pleasure at your expense. So, you have to admit, it’s all done for you too. You should be happy I trimmed my hair for him. You should be happy I will give you the opportunity to experience my me with all 5 of your senses, up close, after being filled by a superior man. Tonight, you will get that privilege again. …
{Excerpt}…It’s only fair that I inform you of what I expect from you during the wedding and the honeymoon, because I do have specific plans, and instructions for you. All of this is just to establish firmly from the start what your role is as my husband, my faithful cuckold. To prepare for our honeymoon, you will be expected to make the arrangements. You will book us for a hotel suite, you know, where we occupy 2 rooms, and there is a door connecting the 2 rooms inside. You will need to book this kind of room so that I can continue cuckolding you when I like throughout our honeymoon.
Cuckold Letters (Physical book)
Cuckold Letters (E-book – you can download Kindle software for your PC or smartphone.)
A Real Cuckolding Wife’s Story
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
That a man should be subjected to complete and total orgasm denial is one of those funny little things you sometimes run across. Particularly in the out of control comments some men leave on LFA / FLR blogs.
Funny isn’t it how the image never, ever being allowed to orgasm excites some guys. A sure sign that someone’s fantasies are out of control. They doubtlessly wank at the prospect of being forbidden to wank.
Much, much more rarely – professional online dominatrices aside – to you see women advocate doing this to men.
People who practice sanity-aware consensual orgasm denial in real life often note that when taken too far chastity becomes boring. Often instead of creating the suffering hunger men imagine it causes the male sex drive to flatline, to die.
The chastity game becomes pointless and boring.
So wank to permanent orgasm denial if you enjoy it. But never forget that in a real relationship it is just a plain nutty idea.
Originally posted 2008-05-04 23:58:16.
100% Chastity
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
Male Milking: massaging a man’s prostate gland forcing him to ejaculate without an orgasm. This helps insure the male’s prostate health is maintained during long periods of enforced chastity. Forcing him to cum without actual sexual release is another technique for maintaining his humility.
Originally posted 2008-04-30 12:12:25.
Male Milking
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
Jinxypie is a cuckoldress I discovered via my Twitter feed.
Cukoldry holds no appeal for me. But I know it does for many men who long for a female led relationship. Many of these guys regard being cuckolded as the supreme form of submission.
Seeing this entry of Jinxypie’s on cuckoldry I thought I’d point it out to those of you who do want their wives to have sex with another man.
Can he really and truly love me if he wants me to have sex with other men?
I believe I can safely say, that for all women introduced to cuckolding by their men, we have asked ourselves this very same question. Some of us can own-up to the jealousy we would have if our men ever decided to take another woman for sexual escapades, so surely our guys must think this way too… right? Or is he using this as a way to trick me, or to get a reason to get out of this relationship? How could he possibly really love me?!
Jinxypie’s entire entry: Nag, nag, nag …
Originally posted 2010-09-04 07:58:22.
A Cuckoldress Explains
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
By Bootlicker
Castration takes all the fun out of orgasm control.
If a male has nothing to surrender (he’s already lost it to the meat-cleaver) there’s no victory for the animal’s Owner.
Much better to leave the male capable of performing, but submitting to control by One that he obeys out of love, than to be unable to choose.
Consider a slave crawling on its hands and knees. It could stand up and walk, but kneels in voluntary surrender to the Owner it loves with devotion, passion and intentional obedience.
If Mistress pleases to flog Her slave, it eagerly fetches Her favourite whip for Her, prostrates itself for Her convenience, then reverently thanks Her for the privilege of serving as Her victim by kissing Her boots in gratitude.
Castration vs Male Chastity
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
Small Penis Humiliation and Submissiveness
When the sissy cuckold is regaling blog readers with accounts of his fictitious life of humiliation he usually assures us that his [insert cloyingly icky slang for penis here] is pathetic. But from what I’ve seen via my various sites while many submissive men want their cocks mocked most men into small penis humiliation aren’t submissive.
They crave a fairly narrow range of embarrassment scenarios. Ideally in public. Hopefully involving young women. Typically they imagine asking for impossibly small condoms or being laughed at on beaches or by nurses.
But the humiliation doesn’t involve any change in role, shift in status.
Small penis humiliation is one of the most phallocentric fetishes. The guy’s cock is the center of attention. Women are talking about it. In most accounts of SPH the subject mentions his instant erection at the moment of humiliation.
That men enjoy having their penises laughed at without becoming submissive isn’t a flaw. They seem quite gleeful in their fetish. Not miserably frustrated.
Originally posted 2009-02-28 01:44:38.
Small Penis Humiliation
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
Male Inferiority
Men Want
Men want many things. Even genuinely submissive men. They wouldn’t be human otherwise.
But many men seeking a dominant woman frame it as men deserve. Because men are not as nice as women.
So women must require men to be naked and wear panties.
The falsehood of male inferiority outside of roleplay is one of the great hindrances to female dominant relationships.
Men top from the bottom in asserting they are the very bottom of human existence.
Since women don’t often seek after inferior garbage they seen submissive men with greater respect and the female supremacy fans are left with no one.
Read more about Female Supremacy
Inferior Men Want
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
Truth may or may not be stranger than fiction. Some people can’t even tell the difference between the two. Here’s one fellow’s unlikely question for knowledge:
Dear friend,
I’m trying to find accurate information on the effects of long-term chastity on penis size. It’s not easy. My lifestyle Domme has me permanently locked in a Gerecke device. With changes we had made at a local machine shop, it’s impossible to violate.
My hope is that i can find medical info which confirms your observations. It would be wonderful if my mistress and i can take pleasure in watching my “Pee Hole” as She now refers to it, slowly diminish and become useless.
Also, do you know where to find out about the effects of restricting nocturnal erections and how that may relate to reducing the size of the penis?
Thanks so much,
In response to Lori’s Tube.
How Do I Shrink My Penis?
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle
Despite the necessarily tentative nature of what you can really know about online friends it is impossible for me to imagine Ms. Darlene MacComb settling for second best in a husband. You might remember her story the next time you are feeling fedup with online matchmaking sites.
About 8-1/2 years ago I placed a little free ad on the Adult Friend Finders website under the S/M or Kink (or whatever it was) section. I had grown very tired of trying to find my soulmate through conventional methods and after being alone for several years (refusing to settle for second best) decided to risk it. I did recieve several replies from noncompatible people (guys, couples and other women even though my ad stated single males only).
I was living in a small city of about 60,000 in the southwest and Simon was about a two hour drive away in a small town of about 9000. Its mind boggling that we were so close and never would have met had I not placed that ad and had he not replied. We did the usual e-mail, chats, phone calls for a few weeks and then he came to meet me. I was immediatly impressed on numerous levels and while the ultimate nature of our relationship was not established initially, I knew he was the right one. We moved to Santa Fe, got married, bought a home and have now been married for over 7 years. I feel extremely fortunate and thank God every day for the love of my life. As this is just a short testament to online dating/relationships I won’t go into details about the cuckolding, beatings, humiliation and such.
Her blog: Punished Cuckold Husbands
Originally posted 2010-12-29 03:40:11.
How She Met Her Husband
Female Led Relationships - Female Domination, Superiority, Supremacy, Dominant Wives & Girlfriends, Woman Worship, FLR Lifestyle