Some dominant women find the male desire to be humiliated difficult to deal with.
For various reasons, humiliation is one of the hardest limits I have, either doing and especially receiving. I have nothing against it in principle, and I don’t mind other folks doing it but it’s just not something I myself could do as I am so vehemently against receiving it. Unless, of course, the person I was dishing out humiliation to was my ex-boyfriend, but that is a long long story, and I think it would go beyond humiliation into the realm of severe degradation.
But I digress. I suppose I might could get into the stride of it eventually if it was truly something Hubby wished for me to do to him, but it is not something we have really talked about yet, as he knows my sensitivity for the issue. He does, however, enjoy feminization, which he doesn’t think of as humiliating at all. I sometimes have to tell him “NO. I want to wear it FIRST, thank you.” when I bring home a new piece of lingerie. And yes, he gets a good spanking when he dares to look better in it than I do, which has happened…
Humiliation, I think, is all a matter of perception for the one humiliating and the one being humiliated. As such, I believe it has more impact if you know your play-partner more intimately than a “just a hello” basis. For example, Hubby has no compunction about dressing up in odd things (he has a passion for those oriental/east Indian diaper-pants whoosi-whatsis) and making him go out and about in public in a cloth diaper and t-shirt would be more fun for him than humiliating. He has enjoyed wearing make-up in public as well. (Yes, he is an exhibitionist that enjoys startling folks.) On the other hand, coloring some thick gel and affixing it to his nose (simulating constantly running snot) and making him go out and about would humiliate him beyond belief.
So, the trick with humiliation, I think, is to truly know what would mortify your partner, regardless of how small a thing it would seem, rather than going with what you think would.
Originally posted 2010-09-13 15:35:50.
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