Woman Dominant BDSM
By Apollinaire
While certainly not a complete, or necessarily entirely accurate definition, I am here going to define B/D as the use of corrective corporal punishment of a severity that requires restraining the male. (That does not necessarily mean that it must be crippling.) In my view all corporal punishment must come as a result of the male having somehow failed the woman or in some way violated a rule. (Which gives the creative femdom pretty much free reign.) I am sure this desire arises in males that were raised by parents that found the solution to every childhood problem in corporal punishment. The “problem”, infraction, misdeed, whatever, created a gap in the family relationship. The punishment restored the closeness, made everything “OK” again. The submale with this in his personal history will surely expect the whip at the first sign of his woman’s displeasure.
Strangely, I detest pain and will do most anything to avoid it, but I live for the knowledge that my woman has that power over me. The only way to make that power real is for the woman to use corporal punishment periodically. With that threat hanging over my head I am always most eager to please. It is a mystery to me, how I am so turned off at pain and yet literally tremble at the thought of the woman that holds that power over me. It is much more a fascination with power than with pain. Pain is the ultimate expression of that power. The power to tie me down and whip my ass until I’m crying like a little girl, is the ultimate power any woman can have over me. I have endured terrible floggings and tortures, even had my penis pierced over 50 times in one session.
(I’d like to interject here, that I fail to see the importance of stretching ones threshold of pain. I mean how far can one really go. Is breaking a limb too far? How about amputating one? Would you ever consider killing me? It would seem to me the principle of the conservation of motion would indicate a lower threshold of pain be preferable to the woman as it would require less work on her part to demoralize and enfeeble the male. But, I have always had difficulty understanding the hard core S/M. I bear no animosity toward people of this passion, nor do I desire to belittle their activities. [I refer not to the pleasurable sensation of a stinging bottom, rather the need of some to take pain to the extremes.]) Frankly, I was disappointed. Pain, for the sake of pain, does not do it for me. Kneeling at the woman’s feet and feeling her absolute power, as she commands me with the mere threat of corporal punishment, knowing the reality of that threat, however, is almost enough to bring me to climax. It is the simple statement “or else” that makes me tremble and “suck-cum” to acquiescence. I most definitely find power, to be the pleasurable dimension at the core of all activities involving pain.
There is also much to be said for the feeling of helplessness that being bound arouses. It is an expression of submission, “not only am I willing to offer no resistance, I couldn’t if I wanted to”. It is also a desire for the safety and restriction experienced in the womb. A desire to return to the complete dependence on the mother. Spiritually, it is the Black Widow, who after obtaining her goal “confines” the male to the role of a tasty morsel. This confinement also frees the male of any responsibility and with it the guilt caused by the desire to live in this manner of relationship. It is not enslavement, it is liberation. Give me liberty or… ah, no, just give me liberty.
Bondage & Discipline (F/m Psychology)
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