Many might think this too mild. And that is why many women will never consider erotic dominance within their relationship.
In the male fantasy, you seize control by power. In reality, you probably should not start acting dominant without any warning or agreement with him. That might confuse him. In any case, without any agreement, he has the standard set of rights. He wants to give up some of those rights to you (so that you can control him).
So the second step in becoming a dominant is to find out what rights he wants to give up. Do not argue for more. That is inappropriate. Do not argue for less — always accept whatever power he grants you. You do not have to use the power he is giving you, but you never turn it down.
You need to enforce the contract. If he breaks the contract, he one way or another needs to be punished. That might sound horrible, but he needs the contract to mean something, and it doesn’t mean anything if he can break it.
There is no problem with changing the contract. It starts out as his first best guesss at what he wants to give up, but he doesn’t know what he wants and situations change. But that requires discussion and agreement — he cannot simply abandon the contract because he wants to or does not have self-control or does not respect you.
From Caring Domination a collection of short articles to help women get their mind around female dominance.
Originally posted 2010-12-29 20:26:55.
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