That BDSM is ever so slowly coming out of the closet should be good for young submissive guys. Munch groups and fetish parties should prove venues at which they can finally actualize their erotic need for submission. But even in kink the tendency is for the lowest common denominator, the most banal and venal impulses to find expression.
Too much of fetish venue subculture seems to aim for the male to convert himself into machine for fulfilling cliché desires. Demanding that men master oddball minor skills is as rotten and silly as expecting dominant women to conduct life in PVC and leather.
I have to confess that part of me wants to see heterosexual men exploited by women in the context of “ha ha, you deserve it!” But even if they are hostage to their hormones they should have better. Really they need to experience miserable submission if they are going to wake up to reality.
Since most dominant women will never attend a fetish party and remain ignorant of the stereotypes – other perhaps than things they are averse to – a submissive man should seek to become more keenly aware of womankind, humankind, in general.
You may see yourself slaving away from sunrise to sunset. She’s probably thinking of someone who is fun to be around. A guy who wants to be bossed about 24/7 is pretty damned time-consuming.
Well … that makes ordinary time spent with the beloved sound awful. Those quiet times should be as good as any other. Submissive guys read porn and imagine it is all whippings, cunnilingus and being caged. Really it is hanging out, listening to music and being affectionate.
What special skill do you need? Being an agreeable human being. There will be many hours between whippings and clothespins and most will want to spend them pleasantly.
Once you are in a power exchange romance you’ll find – as we all do – that the real skill is in coping with the tedious, ordinary hours. And that coping with the quotidian is the greatest challenge and skill of them all.
Look for a dominant woman to like. Maybe to love if you are lucky. The submission is a given. Pleasure in her person will fill in all the details.
See also: The Lifestyle
Originally posted 2008-01-28 14:25:12.
Life isn’t a Fetish Party
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