F/m Degradation
I invited suggestions:
Have wondered all my life, never really got a satisfactory answer, but humiliation, especially what I would term, more extreme humiliation, from a Female Domme is what really lights my fire. Specifically, public humiliation, golden showers, spitting, & verbal abuse.
I’m not sure but I think perhaps the question is perhaps why do I want to be humiliated.
I’m an emotional masochist. My desire to be degraged and deeply humbled is powerful.
Public humiliation is something that I would never do. I am an intensely private man. My desire for human society is limited at best and the notion of strangers mixing with my erotic life is simply unacceptable. It is one of my limits.
My feelings about urolagnia (water sports) is odd. The night my beloved pissed into a glass and I drank it all down in a couple of gulps she was so disappointed. Drinking urine does not humiliate me at all. But if you were to piss on me and not let me clean myself or piss on the floor and order me to lick it up my little masochist’s heart would flutter with delight.
Being spat upon is deeply humiliating. It expreses so much contempt. As is being slapped in the face. These are perfect instances of what I think of as Contempt Play. Being the object of contempt if deeply erotic. A perfect example of awful when experienced but satisfying when recollected in tranquility.
Verbal abuse / contempt is perhaps the acme of humiliation for me. One can easily think of my visibly degrading acts. But spoken humiliation cuts to the core of my brain. it is almost intolerable at the time. The afterglow is wonderful.
Not all submissive guys want to be humiliated. Some enjoy being whipped but not spoken harshly to. Some the reverse. Some are happy in submission without little if any kink. (The last being pretty rare I think.)
I’d be happy to be humiliated because:
- I’m a man. (Even though I like being one.)
- I like to sleep with men. (Not that I’m ashamed.)
- I’m a submissive masochist. (Hooray for me.)
I welcome many contexts for humiliation even though they are aspects of myself that don’t shame me a bit.
Indeed humiliating a man for issues about which he is sensitive or troubled may be a great mistake. Or cathartic. In intimate relationships emotional S&M needs sure knowledge of the masochist’s heart. This is especially true when it is the top that is the one most interested in emotional S&M.
Wanting to be humiliated is an extension of wanting be hurt physically. That craving many submissive guys have to feel less. To feel inferior (to feel it without believing it is the trick).
I can’t speak for other masochists. In my own past I attribute my submissiveness and masochism, especially the craving to be treated with contempt to experiences when I was a little boy.
There is a period in early childhood when we eroticize things (small amounts of certain hormones circulate temporarily, then cease until the beginning of adolescence). I know that I was a masochist by age eight. I suspect the encoding occured earlier.
I don’t feel emotionally unhealthy and most certainly don’t suffer from anything akin to low self-esteem.
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I made this more personal than I normally do on this site or meant to. Hopefully the links will help make up for that.
Originally posted 2014-10-28 15:29:17.
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