Female Led Relationships: Femdom Lifestyle
What is “Femdom” if not D/s and S&M with a certain arrangement of pronouns?
The list grew to twenty. Could’ve been seventeen but our fingers have left us with a prejudice favoring multiples of five.
Herewith a list of things for fetish folk to meditate on. Disagreement is as always invited.
- Female superiority and supremacy may make hot fantasies. Some like to play plantation slave and concentration camp victim. None are part of a sane reality.
- Gender is fluid – biologically, socially, personally. The only gender rules or roles anyone adopts should be those they enjoy.
- Genders don’t have inherent social behaviors. Women are not necessarily X nor men necessarily Y. Some are Q. Others are z1nMn3pR.
- Gender can be playful self-expression with components that can be manipulated blurred or blended.
- Clichés can be sexy and fun. One person’s stereotype is another’s archetype.
- The only rules are those agreed upon by two people who are at least trying to be sensible.
- Never be Dommelier (or slavier) than thou shall be the whole of the law.
- Pleasure is individual to each person’s nervous system: your greatest thrill may do nothing for someone else.
- Never try to convince a man that his wife can surely enjoy dominating him unless you are willing to pay his legal fees for a divorce.
- BDSM maybe entertaining, enriching, fulfilling: it isn’t a morality play.
- If anyone tells you that a real something or someone must be such-and-such warn them that you may be compelled to report them to the Society for the Suppression of Boredom.
- Other fetishists’ experiences are invaluable. Others ways of performing BDSM aren’t necessarily yours.
- Risk is always there. If you can’t accept this don’t cross the street. You probably shouldn’t even leave your house.
- Never be ashamed to admit you want or need a safeword or stop words.
- Don’t confuse letting yourself become miserable and unhappy with topping from the bottom.
- You may enjoy feeling like a slave but your slavery isn’t a legal, political or social actuality. Sorry.
- Porn – for better or worse – is not reality: understand what real life people are saying not what you want to hear. Then you can enjoy both porn and reality.
- Any BDSM relationship may embrace multiple levels of play from the most intense to the lightest.
- Never to be neglected in any century: honesty, communication, clarity, respect and empathy.
- TLAs – three letter acronyms – are much worse than four letter words.
It could’ve been twenty-one maxims. Or thirty-nine. Have one to add? Is there one you feel I should retract?
Hmmm. Maybe I should have cut this back to ten. 10 Best Things About BDSM seems a better list.
On my knees, hands and feet hogtied together behind me. It was the first time I submitted to Her. Sitting in Her chair looking at me, I felt I was being examined with an eye to being improved like a bit of hardware that required tuning.
I didn’t see her sudden slap against the side of my face coming.
“Do you know why I slapped you?”
“No “¦ ” not sure what to say I concluded ” “¦ Mistress.”
The second slap seemed faster and harder.
“The first slap was because I can and I like to. The second was for addressing me as Mistress. Did I give you permission to use that word?”
“No “¦ ?” confused I let the word peter out, half a question.
She grabbed an ear lobe between her fingers and bent down.
“Every slave has made common with his fantasies!”
“I “¦ ” Didn’t finish because one of her nails cut into my captive lobe.
“Shut up, never speak without permission. Never make an assumption. I may instruct you to call me My Lady, Goddess, M’am or even Mistress. I may change the words you address me every day. If you forget and use the wrong one you’ll be punished. Not that I need an excuse. But I’ll enjoy your knowing that you might’ve escaped a beating if only you’d been more careful.”
“For now I think you should say nothing.” And she reached for the ball gag on the table.
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